I came here because I panicked when talking to someone at school and asked which school they went to smh.
@williamchristiansenwenners8140
5 жыл бұрын
MagesticSnowflake lol 😂
@budgetmindedconsumer6707
5 жыл бұрын
You could spin it off as a joke or joke how you blundered. That’s what I do all the time. I say something like, “OMG! My brain is failing me. Ugh. Why?” I say it in a serious yet sarcastic tone. At the end of the day, people will either live you or be indifferent about you. Hope that helps
@isaactorres5908
5 жыл бұрын
MagesticSnowflake that's awesome
@shorx9199
5 жыл бұрын
Damn. Why do we even talk to other people, whats the point. Why do people loke doing it? Even introverts
@lunakaisol
5 жыл бұрын
MagesticSnowflake LMAO I’m sorry but this is hilarious 😂😂😂
@gerritdeman6410
5 жыл бұрын
My problem is that I often just don't know what to say. When I'm talking with someone my head is constantly like 'OKAY, WHAT CAN I SAY TO THIS, THINK THINK, UHM YEAH I AGREE THAT'S NICE!' but I can hardly ever think of something interesting, while if I'm alone after that I can suddenly think of a dozen interesting topics I could have talked about. It's really annoying. :p
@yhourruitiner
5 жыл бұрын
I’m not an expert but I’ve found that really paying attention to what the other person is saying and asking follow up open ended questions works to keep the conversation going until something comes up that relates to my personal experiences or opinions.
@Zyxwy
5 жыл бұрын
The problem that we have with coversation is that we make it about us. "How do I sound? What do I say? Am I being weird? What if they dont like Me?" You should actually focus on the Person you're talking to: Who are They, what do They like, what do They do, why do They like what they like, what do They think about xyz? It gets easier the more you practice. I practice at work and it's helped my social skills A LOT. I'm not Oprah but I got more conversational skill now than I had 3 months ago! You can do it too!
@mrheimdall
5 жыл бұрын
I call that the George Costanza Complex.
@dorisi.2920
5 жыл бұрын
Gerrit DeMan lmfao we have the same issue
@beyondviolet
5 жыл бұрын
Gerrit DeMan I get really scared when I don’t know exactly what I’m doing in every situation, especially conversation. I start shaking and I can’t think properly at all, which just makes it worse. It’s so frustrating and awkward.
@norse_cat
2 жыл бұрын
I think there's a difference between an introvert and social anxiety/awkwardness. Introverts don't necessarily feel awkward, since they can be confident, they just are more exhausted by social interactions.
@CoachAhava-0000
11 ай бұрын
This. I deal with shyness, anxiety, and introversion. Small talk is excruciating, a group gathering with a purpose makes for easier choices for what to talk about. Shyness isn't low self esteem. I have confidence and can make friends. Flirting though...😂.
@Ndinogona
6 ай бұрын
🎯
@w0ry035
5 ай бұрын
social interactions are more exhausting to us introverts because we're highly sensitive to small little negative emotions, we feel more anxious than extroverts, angrier than extroverts, more embarassed and we're bored by superficiality which all contribute to draining our social batery considerably more.
@daks8888
4 ай бұрын
Right. I mean I have trouble getting into being playful while talking to someone. I think it's because of depression really. Takes me a lot. I wish there were more videos on getting into being playful actually.
@dazz2469
3 ай бұрын
Yeah i have social anxiety which makes me avoid social situations completely.
@VioletRaven.
2 жыл бұрын
My favorite piece of advice in this video is the waiter interrupting analogy. If you are telling someone a story and you get interrupted, and the other person doesn't bring the conversation back to the story you were telling, they clearly weren't interested, so just move on. It's also a great way to show someone else that you were paying attention. If someone is telling me a story and we get interrupted, I will say "So you were telling me about..." and then I'll repeat the last thing they told me. People appreciate this, it shows that you were listening and that you care!
@SirCanuckelhead
Жыл бұрын
The latter part is basically a common test for a boyfriend when his gf is talking, the dreaded question "What did I just say?"
@VioletRaven.
Жыл бұрын
@@SirCanuckelhead Not really. I’m not asking the other person, “What did I just say?” I’m saying, “You were telling me about this thing, please continue.” Two completely different things.
@lord_osama3206
Жыл бұрын
@@SirCanuckelhead Somehow girls always find a way to make there men suffer in every situation 🤣
@Streamingstuff-qq3vw
3 ай бұрын
Im introverted my go to is where do the ninja turtles get their weapons
@Xackory
Ай бұрын
@@VioletRaven. this advice just isnt true do not listen to this lol
@clascaulfieldjr3653
3 жыл бұрын
“Weather’s been good, huh? “ “Do you think we have free will?”
@nateholmes2641
3 жыл бұрын
So are you ready for the day of judgement
@InglesporMinutoconAnthonyMartz
3 жыл бұрын
So why is it that we introverts do that? Are we naturally predisposed to doing that? Because i literally was thinking of having a deep topic with a friend later on tonite to make sure I could make the conversation last longer
@Mrko7M
2 жыл бұрын
@@InglesporMinutoconAnthonyMartz don't these deep conversations end just abruptly and just make you feel awkward and i don't even feel awkwardness mostly talk about something you and your friend share which made you get the chance to know each other this the fruit for unlimited small talk
@jamaldaood3633
2 жыл бұрын
@@nateholmes2641 lmaoooo
@boothagod3658
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@soulassassin0g
6 жыл бұрын
Small talk with stranger is easy. It's small talking with coworkers or classmates that is hard. Eventually you're going to run out of things to say and the only thing you talk about after that is work, which is boring.
@blah9629
5 жыл бұрын
same. i always loved talking to strangers, they hold no expectation nor standard or view over me yet and it makes me feel like i can be anyone i want because of the no-impression zone that we haven't quite pass through yet. DONT KNOW IF THIS MAKES SENSE BUT I DONT REALLY CARE. im tired. bye.
@soulassassin0g
5 жыл бұрын
@@blah9629 Don't worry, it makes sense to me. :)
@pikira2246
5 жыл бұрын
Especially when what the other person is talking about is extremely boring.
@artemis8368
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I like talking to strangers or meeting new people, but sadly at some point i run out of things to talk about with the ones i know (classmates)... so it gets kinda awkward... thats what i was hoping for to find in a video
@zelekshmira
5 жыл бұрын
For me it's quite the opposite: I don't know what to talk about around strangers, don't know how to start a conversation because I barely know the person. On the other hand there are various conversation topics that I can start with a classmate or someone else that I know.
@Jayhawker2000
Жыл бұрын
Another great tactic that Kanye taught us is to wear a black mask that covers 100% of your face. This helps to put everyone at ease.
@kokolatte825
Жыл бұрын
😫🤣
@willjamison
Жыл бұрын
underrated comment
@lucioloco4062
Жыл бұрын
Also admitting to love hitler will definitely skip the small talk
@JihadBunnydick
Жыл бұрын
Yeah I need to go to work like that
@NB20LOL
4 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@brandondaniels9471
Жыл бұрын
Charisma on Command: 💡 _I'm gonna use Kanye as an example to teach these guys how to master conversations!_ Kanye: _I'm bout to end this man's whole career_
@Anonymous-so1ho
Жыл бұрын
Lol I was waiting for these comments to start coming in
@Norie92
Жыл бұрын
came here to say this
@Wiseman__
Жыл бұрын
my exact thought lol.
@themisterg.
Жыл бұрын
Kanye has balls at least.
@sylvianartist8930
Жыл бұрын
what's going on with Kanye??
@betterbodies4u
5 жыл бұрын
I've noticed that Introverts are not shy when texting .
@FinesseFlightOfficial
5 жыл бұрын
Sam Fitt true
@blankness8
5 жыл бұрын
Yup! Texting is a good outlet for me because it gives me a lot of time to think, and because we're not face to face the pauses aren't awkward! Also I've noticed introverts tend to have a lot to say if they're comfortable and they're given time to open up, so texting is a good medium :)
@SheaHarris
5 жыл бұрын
Introversion ≠ shyness
@nofybn7794
5 жыл бұрын
Depends on if they can give me something to work with.
@valdanalimavidal7398
5 жыл бұрын
That's so me... When I start texting i can't stop
@phodilus2141
6 жыл бұрын
the video i should’ve watched right after i was born
@darthbane7140
6 жыл бұрын
same
@nefertitimontoya
6 жыл бұрын
It's cool how life hands you things in a particular order, may you use the video knowledge henceforth in good health
@wabdih
6 жыл бұрын
lol i like this
@markcacho6126
6 жыл бұрын
Lmaoooooo
@Escanorsataru
6 жыл бұрын
same here.. accidentally stumbled on this but it should have been years ago
@SSYabuddy
2 жыл бұрын
Does anyone else get chills through their whole body when you’re suppose to be saying something in a conversation but you really can’t come up with anything? I do all the time and just stand there awkwardly overthinking on what to try to say.
@piggybackedfromapizzadough5727
2 жыл бұрын
And you get so nervous to the point you can’t breath?
@RustyShackleford556
Жыл бұрын
Well that thumbnail aged well
@andreasberger4
Жыл бұрын
How to improve your charisma. Step 1. Do no try to get attention by wearing a mask covering your entire face just after a major ethical controversy involving kids as well as the company producing that mask. Step 2. Do no express that you loooooove a particular historical figure known being antisemetic and for his their involvement in the holocaust. Step 3. Do not post symbols which are tied to groups who were responsible for the biggest war in history on your social media profiles, particularly not if that group was a variant of facism known for race hate against people with those with the same genetic backgroud as yourself. Step 4. If for some reason you feel an urge to do 1, 2 or 3. seek professional help. Do not, I repeat, do not go on like television.
@LexiMcneal
6 ай бұрын
@@andreasberger4but he made graduation😔😔
@60sbabydoll777
6 ай бұрын
@@andreasberger4irrelevant. He made graduation
@Syrupsandwiches69
6 ай бұрын
@@andreasberger4he made runaway tho
@zeus3180
3 ай бұрын
was looking for this comment
@MrCmon113
5 жыл бұрын
#1 Quit the small talk and get on to something interesting. "The weather is beautiful today." "It is, do you think we should engage in an all out trade war against China?"
@Raikeran
5 жыл бұрын
lmao
@estevanperez6161
5 жыл бұрын
😂
@alexanderdavid4271
5 жыл бұрын
F*ck this 🤣 you should at least get 1k likes
@OscarGeronimo
5 жыл бұрын
lol, I almost spit on the screen. XD
@beyondviolet
5 жыл бұрын
Taxtro well, you did it
@FaiGal
4 жыл бұрын
I'm so awkward. Most of the time when there's a pause between the conversation and my mind goes blank trying to think of something to say to engage, I just smile and say "yeah."
@leoniexo5627
3 жыл бұрын
@@MvsicAdd7ct lmaooo that's what I sound like 🤣
@nimo2714
3 жыл бұрын
I’m even worse I’m like “....that’s crazy...” when nothing about the context of the conversation or what was being told was ‘crazy’ at all.
@T.Harry79
2 жыл бұрын
The “oh yea?” is my go-to.
@jajajajayeahyeah237
2 жыл бұрын
@@nimo2714 oh gosh once time i was checking out at a supermarket and asked if there was a deal going on still and after he scanned my items and confirmed the deal was indeed still active i just went “cool.” HAHahha….. 😓😓
@mollywilson5639
2 жыл бұрын
"You're kidding'
@deli_bread
Жыл бұрын
As an introvert, something I like to do to skip small talk all together is just ask a hypothetical or interesting question. Some of my go-to favorites are "Is soup a drink?", "What do you think about garlic bread?", or the classic immortal snail problem.
@chaosness7684
Жыл бұрын
thank you for this. def gonna ask people this once i graduate and test if this is reliable
@peterdanisek2188
Жыл бұрын
are u 14
@viniciusgrosse1958
Жыл бұрын
@@peterdanisek2188 Are you someone who thinks they're cool and different?💀
@viniciusgrosse1958
Жыл бұрын
@@peterdanisek2188 yeah kid, I totally believe you
@peterdanisek2188
Жыл бұрын
@@viniciusgrosse1958 bro you're like 16, don't tell me anything
@scripsur8203
2 жыл бұрын
As a former introvert, I would like to excuse you from all this trouble and enlighten you with a magic solution to instantly be able to handle small talk. And that is to just SAY ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. Literally. Anything that comes to mind - you say it. It is the most effective way to become more extroverted and be able to handle small talk or even keep a convo going. Your mind silently makes up answers, statements, questions, jokes and possible teases to anything that has been stated, it just doesn't propose them to you directly. It kind of hides them deeper in your brain. Your have to manually catch them and then the only thing left to do is to sound them out. Simple. At first, it might seem intimidating because you dont know which of the many sentances given to you by your brain to pick. Thats why you should first try it out on your close friends (my no.1 choice) because even if you mess up they won't take it seriously. Then, after you get the hang of it, it becomes as easy as just saying things. I am not kidding. You just start talking on autopilot and it works (talking from experience here). So yeah be sure to try this out and I hope y'all are prepared to ace any upcoming small talk. Best of luck :)
@DoomedKnight
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you will try this out with my family and friends
@sqtuck
2 жыл бұрын
Introvertism and extrovertism can't really change, it's how your brain is wired. But yes, you can definitely learn to _behave_ differently. You still need time to be alone and recharge, right?
@Malicos
2 жыл бұрын
This is a funny concept but I wonder if it would work. You see, I find myself "parsing" all of the subjects as they occur in my head before I bring them up in conversation. Maybe if I turned the parser off... lol
@ashivau
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much it’s nice knowing there’s people like you sharing your experience! I’ll try practicing this in my head and test it out with the close friends I have and family members thank so much :D
@muslim4307
2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@AryanSharma-ce6hw
4 жыл бұрын
"We are introverts until our vibes match"
@iiReTr0Z
3 жыл бұрын
Our*
@geensjc
3 жыл бұрын
💯
@AryanSharma-ce6hw
3 жыл бұрын
@@iiReTr0Z Arey sahi toh likha hai XD
@gigachad9163
2 жыл бұрын
@@AryanSharma-ce6hw bhay wo japani hai usko hindi ni aati.
@rayanrashid7413
2 жыл бұрын
@@AryanSharma-ce6hw are Nahi our aye ga
@bermymon99
5 жыл бұрын
Hard mode: small talk as an introvert Insane Mode: small talk with social anxiety
@cinder8871
5 жыл бұрын
MH's Elect nightmare mode: small talk as an introvert with social anxiety
@travis_redfern6771
5 жыл бұрын
송민민 I mean I just feel like the majority of introverts also have social anxiety tho.
@gamedev6290
5 жыл бұрын
Then all people are introverts. There is absolutely no need in illogical unpleasant not understandable "small talk" that has no value other than following a local british cultural standard non existing in the outer world. There is no such thing like small talk outside of britain. The world does not revolve around you. You do small talk - you are considered at best low intellectual or low-confident by 400 millions of post soviet citizens. At worst you can end up in a clinic. This is NOT okay to "small" talk unless you are scared, in state of affect or in rave
@lila5338
5 жыл бұрын
AscensionToMadness definitely death mode
@athing18
5 жыл бұрын
@@gamedev6290 I did not understand this post
@ogjrap6928
2 жыл бұрын
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="123">2:03</a> “Can I hug you?” I died 💀
@sythic_x
Жыл бұрын
Literally learning how to be a human......
@conan6561
3 ай бұрын
Almost like we’re brainwashed not to be or somethin… crazy aye
@sythic_x
3 ай бұрын
@@conan6561 That comment 10 months old; I was not expecting a reply lmao
@conan6561
3 ай бұрын
@@sythic_x u know that’s not a good habit to get into
@xxxphilippxxx6260
Ай бұрын
@@sythic_x so you didnt expect this comment a year later, either!
@sharigriffith3230
5 жыл бұрын
As an introvert, watching this video did nothing but make me feel exhausted.
@Bcke14304
5 жыл бұрын
The narrator of this video spoke way too quickly for me, as an introvert, to take in any of what he was saying....
@max-pn8tt
4 жыл бұрын
Honestly same my girlfriend considers me an extrovert but in reality I’m an introvert and this video was tough to dread through but I feel like it helped
@XxSh4d0wxX
4 жыл бұрын
Right? It just reminded me how tiring interactions in general really are.
@belfam89
4 жыл бұрын
I was exhausted before watching so I cnt blame the video 😂😂😂
@sparklingfashion6276
4 жыл бұрын
Shari Griffith if you were an extrovert all of this would be natural. thats why nobody can teach us this stuff
@MemeSnack
6 жыл бұрын
What point have I reached in life were I have to search for a KZitem video on how to engage in a conversation :(
@nightfighter7452
6 жыл бұрын
You're not the only one fam, its okay
@mako.m1885
6 жыл бұрын
fucked up I know
@cameronschlobohm8562
6 жыл бұрын
Adulthood
@Walamonga1313
6 жыл бұрын
Meme Snack Lol, I didn't have to search it. It just popped up in my recommended videos.
@conta-fake6723
6 жыл бұрын
Well, at least you're trying to improve
@ItalianBMT.
2 жыл бұрын
My problem is I end up getting mad at myself if the other person doesn’t doesn’t like me after our interaction. I don’t feel like I did well enough in our conversation because I want to improve to be a better talker and I end up angry. Sometimes I’m even frustrated with myself while the conversation is going on. I’m annoyed even thinking about it. It happened earlier today and got in my head all day.
@andymiller1597
Жыл бұрын
It's a horrible feedback loop of becoming more negative because I'm bad at talking then being worse at talking because I'm in a negative headspace
@camzy01
Жыл бұрын
That mid-conversation frustration is the absolute worst, especially when you feel the other person picking up on it in real time. The internal conflict between wanting to improve your interaction skills, whilst also fighting the intrusive thoughts that you're not doing good enough is literal hell. The weight of doing these mental gymnastics makes interactions really exhausting too, further disincentivising the journey for improvement. Isn't life great haha
@rabitevil
10 ай бұрын
Same here. Like I tried to be friendly and nice, but ended up scaring people away and they thought I’m weird af lol wtf
@musicmeister1313
5 ай бұрын
are you me?
@westonnwaimo4002
Жыл бұрын
“he so quiet what’s on his mind” Kanye: “I guess we’ll never know”
@PowahSlapEntertainmint
6 жыл бұрын
_(Mhms in Kanye)_
@TheComedyButchers
6 жыл бұрын
*(Mhm intensifies)*
@DillanV
6 жыл бұрын
Kanye is a genius
@mintybin
6 жыл бұрын
😂🌝🌝
@neighbor472
6 жыл бұрын
Dillan V yee
@abirdconcernedforhumankind2345
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kanye, very cool!
@Alexis_005
5 жыл бұрын
If introverts knew how to use this points when needed. We wouldn’t be introverts. My Mind goes blank the minute someone tries small talk
@WelcomeToMyDream
5 жыл бұрын
Introverts don't have these functions "built-in", but we can learn from videos like this, or books in my case, before KZitem. Learn and practice. I'm still an introvert with social anxiety, but people who don't know me well usually can't tell. Obviously I'm still working on it, since I'm watching this video and just subbed to this channel. Blue Skies!!
@atomonx5582
4 жыл бұрын
Making eye contact most of the time gives me brain damage 😂
@danarzechula3769
3 жыл бұрын
Then make them talk about themselves. You'll never need to speak
@alyxms5826
3 жыл бұрын
I swear
@sylvie8860
3 жыл бұрын
ikr we just dread the exhaustion of having to converse 💀
@ctvxl
Жыл бұрын
I have always considered myself an introvert. I *hate* mindless small talk! When I was a young kid, I was painfully shy around strangers also. As an adult, I no longer feel shy, but I do tend to be mostly quiet around people I don't know well. It took a long time, but I finally was able to understand what it was that made me feel uncomfortable talking to strangers. And that is I don't like confrontation. I like to avoid it if at all possible. I just find it exhausting. And, when talking to a stranger at a party, etc., you don't really have any idea of the mindset of that person, so you risk offending them and causing confrontation. I have found that when I am surrounded by intelligent, open minded strangers, conversation just happens organically with little effort. But most people do not fall into this camp. Most are unintelligent, brainwashed sheep, and those few of us that are "awake" will inevitably annoy them or become annoyed ourselves leading to confrontation. I realize how arrogant this sounds, but it is really true.
@zagrosqazy3798
Жыл бұрын
The thing with introverts is we don't want to talk about things we Don't like
@ketgremlin8776
4 жыл бұрын
Two introverts who don’t know each other trying to engage in small talk is horrible
@vitoscalita
4 жыл бұрын
Comedy gold
@synthesize5618
4 жыл бұрын
Facts bro, as an introvert, it’s painful af
@ao2415
4 жыл бұрын
True. “What are u doing?” “Nothing, you?” “Same.” *silence*
@blackdiamond4049
4 жыл бұрын
Oh that's fun
@nickkriebel1884
3 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@colorchangingsoup
2 ай бұрын
The problem of not knowing what to say is what keeps me silent most of the time
@SmallTalkInc
2 жыл бұрын
Speaking as someone who's always been an introvert but learned a lot from working in hospitality and retail: ask questions (about the other) whenever you don't know what to say. Listening to others is far more helpful than thinking of what you want to say or when or how you have to say it.
@littlewammity9896
2 жыл бұрын
valid, but there have been many times where I consciously 'take charge' by asking questions which leads to the other person getting too self-involved. I end up learning everything about them without them having learned anything from me because I can not get a word in or, if I relate to myself for some balance, they steer it to themselves again. that's when you realise they're either very insecure or a narc.
@kimmybear100
5 жыл бұрын
I just never have anything to talk about. Literally nothing.
@comfortlucia
5 жыл бұрын
Can relate 💯 I just end up just smiling or laughing awkwardly at myself because my brain is literally frozen at that moment
@pikira2246
5 жыл бұрын
omg same XD
@jakesampson5629
5 жыл бұрын
Kimberlyn Mcmurray I literally have the same problem, so to combat that I began just talking about stuff that interests me, as long as it was mildly appropriate in the convo. So for example, I actually found in like job interviews the employer actually respected ( occasionally) if I asked 'hey have you seen that new movie...' or whatever. I thought I may as well try it a few times as it's better than an awkward silence.
@rambichan5997
5 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you all have something to talk about now
@pikira2246
5 жыл бұрын
Michael Hong You think we can just walk up to someone and say “yo I have nothing to talk about”?
@kolos4650
6 жыл бұрын
God I love this community, where we can talk about this uncomfortable subjects and actually see that everybody is bothered with this stuff to different extent. I love you all
@augustgreig9420
6 жыл бұрын
Kolos Love you too!
@swampfox984
6 жыл бұрын
We should make a Facebook group for this. Like Real Men Real Style did.
@jamesmason7979
6 жыл бұрын
Much love to you as well.
@albertrono1370
6 жыл бұрын
You know what, let's make the Facebook group!
@DeliciousBADBOY
6 жыл бұрын
Alberto 💯 Groupname: Socially Awkward Men?
@JesusGonzalez-it2sv
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to all of you who feel you don fit in and I'm sorry for the people who don't get you. In my friend group there is one of us who is introvert but we understand and we try to make him feel as comfortable as possible and make him feel part of the group cuz he is. I hope you all find good friends that understand.
@Venuk
Жыл бұрын
It's all in you're head, trust me. Put yourself in the right situation and you will be amazed at how social you can be. That will be the stepping stone and it will only get better from there.
@FiIIerguy
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks human. I can now communicate effectively with my coworkers
@lovelylluvia5300
5 жыл бұрын
Lmao thanks
@nooriman5944
5 жыл бұрын
Are you a robot?
@gino14
5 жыл бұрын
We have just assisted an alien invader in the conquest of Earth. Do you feel better for yourself?
@Will-gi3wg
5 жыл бұрын
@Depressed The Girl Oh my. Did you end up getting fired? Did you show signs of anxiety at work? I've been through this.
@luna010
4 жыл бұрын
as a fellow human I agree this will be very useful for my social interactions with my friends
@usagitsukino3638
5 жыл бұрын
_Say how the other person's statement makes you feel_ Me: *Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn*
@findlayrankin9769
5 жыл бұрын
usagi tsukino not trying to be rude or anything but that kind of response about not caring is probably why your watching this video.😅
@usagitsukino3638
5 жыл бұрын
@@findlayrankin9769 actually, I'm quite good at smalltalk. However that doesn't mean that I'm always interested in everything that someone says. Some people are just boring.
@devinuluc3183
5 жыл бұрын
@@usagitsukino3638 Some people are fucking boring indeed. It takes two to tango. If the other person aint doin shit, then I'm just gonna walk out.
@Dash62g
5 жыл бұрын
quality comment
@kajaaki8422
5 жыл бұрын
damn this is so true 😂🤣
@bastidface
Жыл бұрын
The problem with introverts is that they're intuitive enough to know that making small talk is a waste of time. It's incredibly awkward pretending to exchange worthless banter and niceties with others who likely want nothing to do with you and vice versa. All it ever leads to is extreme tension and feelings of isolation.
@SomeoneWitSkill
2 жыл бұрын
Me and my sister are very similar to each other. We both have pretty high anxiety, including social anxiety, and were introvert. I realized early on small talk is in fact a skill that you need to keep practicing with. Got to the point where I'm comfortable talking to anyone without feeling weird. My sister on the other hand is still struggling but I'm trying my best to get her through it. This was a great video, a few tips I found personally. Wish everyone the best of luck!
@Austin-on4zr
5 жыл бұрын
"Hey." "Hey." "How are you doing?" "Uh... lemme pull out my notes real quick."
@gekyume588
5 жыл бұрын
Me: "Hey." Her: "Hey." Her: "How are you doing?" Me: Not bad... How are you doing? Her: I'm doing great! *awkward silence* Me: "nervous chuckle.. yeah.. well, i have to go but it was nice seeing you! talk to you later" xD
@aliciaelizabeth7551
5 жыл бұрын
Wow most relatable thing ever 😂
@rhall5550
5 жыл бұрын
“Hold on i need to watch this video first”
@tashat60
5 жыл бұрын
Yes! Lmfao. This is me too!
@eves5297
5 жыл бұрын
"How come, what was so great about your day?"
@yohancyrus6159
5 жыл бұрын
The goal of most of my conversations is for them to end. And I can give the best answers to questions in the shower next morning.
@Duweeadyale
4 жыл бұрын
People alway great ideas when their on the shower 😂
@mrlion9719
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I kill it asap so there is no chance for the conversation to turn awkward, making it awkward...
@atomonx5582
4 жыл бұрын
I want conversations to continue but I always find myself somehow ending them
@danarzechula3769
3 жыл бұрын
Hahaha!! Thanks
@HenrikMyrhaug
2 жыл бұрын
Not an introvert, but I remember struggling and having to take some time to learn to keep a meaningful, engaging conversation. Personally, I find there are a few rules that made it much easier for me to keep a conversation going: -Whenever asked a question, try to answer with in- depth, descriptive answers instead of short, simple answers, like 'yes', 'no', 'I'm fine', 'It was good', etc. An exception to this rule is if you can tell that the person who asked the question wants you to give a short answer so that they can follow up temselves and add context. Don't be like Kanye and answer "Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. Yes." to a series of questions meant to get a conversation going. -Whenever discussing a certain topic, it can be good to just add in a few tangents about topics related to whatever you are talking about. You should give enough information that others may become curious about the tangent and start asking questions or talking about that. Tangents should however not be so large that they derail from the original topic unless the other person wants to do so. -Ask questions that encourage the person being asked to give an in-depth answer rather than a 'yes' or 'no'. Don't ask 'How was your day?', but rather something like 'Have you done anything interesting today?', and follow up with more qestions or talk about whatever they mention. -Pick up on small tangents that someone adds while talking, and ask questions or start talking more about the tangents. If someone mentions their work, a hobby, or some interesting event, ask questions about that to try to arrive at a topic that you will both find interesting to talk about. -Don't talk politics. Politics really easily get frustrating and boring, and can be a good way to kill the mood. It is fine to bring up current topics that people may be divided on, but don't start an argument about it.
@BamaNick
2 жыл бұрын
As a introvert I mastered this at work without realizing that was what I was doing. I have always avoided conversations unless they were about specific deep meaningful topics, or certain activities I was really invested in. If I had little interest in the current topic, or if the topic was just small talk. I am nearly dead silent just listening to the others in the room talk.
@frogosplayer1
5 жыл бұрын
Seems like my people have gathered in the comments... now we can all stand around in awkward silence, laugh nervously, and not make eye contact together ...
@adr_x1114
4 жыл бұрын
👀 👉👈 \ / ,/ \,
@feliperuiz4884
3 жыл бұрын
````👀 👉👈 \ / ,/ \,
@carl_consumer.of.reality
3 жыл бұрын
😶 👕 🤝 🩳
@greatestever5539
5 жыл бұрын
I find these videos very interesting, but I hate watching them because then I feel like I'm a lifeless robot that has to learn how to hold a full conversation with someone.
@luna010
4 жыл бұрын
sometimes you just have to accept that you're a lifeless robot
@cal6741
4 жыл бұрын
a f f i r m a t i v e
@izadave8991
4 жыл бұрын
@@cal6741 the distant future, the year 2000
@tati79ana
4 жыл бұрын
Don't think like that. The thing is that the world is ridiculous and shallow. 🙄
@Thetypingcow
4 жыл бұрын
It’s okay to make an effort to improve yourself!
@avemew5407
Жыл бұрын
the thumbnail aged well
@ducky8323
2 жыл бұрын
I always remember Anna Akana's tip for dealing with small was to ask the other person questions because people love talking about themselves (and you end up learning/getting to know the other person better)
@isabel9394
5 жыл бұрын
Introverts are typically good and fun people. But you just gotta be patient with us :(
@MySweetAriane
4 жыл бұрын
Yes. Thank you.
@PersonaofWill
4 жыл бұрын
Cute dog creature
@carcart5304
4 жыл бұрын
This is true, thanks.
@indiralopez1890
4 жыл бұрын
I am dating one and I completely agree with you. Ican't get enough of everything he says. He's fascinating. And I only waited 2 full years ;-) now, not letting him go, ever
@kinglucos5146
4 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@amiemcconnell8324
5 жыл бұрын
Someone: So how are you? Me having anxiety and thinking about this video: I think people focus too much... on the past...
@yapzor2623
5 жыл бұрын
Same thats my fucking problem right now
@stopstalkingmepleasehaha
4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@AT-wp8ri
4 жыл бұрын
🤣
@lastfambisayi4848
4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@whysosad45
4 жыл бұрын
Worrrrd 😂😂😂😂
@mandiekayfit4011
Жыл бұрын
Wow. My worst fear, confirmed. I was telling a story, got interrupted, and wasn't asked to continue it. I'm obviously boring. I'm also constantly trying to think of how to not have awkward silence in conversation. 😔😔
@Mellow_Flow
2 жыл бұрын
Been working on my conversation skills over the past year. I still struggle with small talk, but I’ve found that I faire really well once the ice is broken
@BierBart12
5 жыл бұрын
All this just seems too complicated to me. Sometimes I feel like I just wasn't made for this world
@borisjohnson217
4 жыл бұрын
Same
@mimimira5412
4 жыл бұрын
Same I don't understand how people live with each other.
@Observerw
4 жыл бұрын
Mimi Mira damn bro what makes you feel like that? I would to hear what you have 2 say
@mimimira5412
4 жыл бұрын
@@Observerw I just mean like, I don't understand how to have a normal conversation with people, I never have anything to say. Also when someone tells me something I never feel the need to say anything back, but when I think about it another person would have so much to say and it would lead to a great conversation. Am just really never interested in what people have to say, only when they are people am close to or if it's about something that interests me. But also am just someone who easily shuts out the world so attention span is short. I also tend to be very blunt, I say what I feel before realising it's gonna hurt someone, my friends have told me about this so many times that I don't have a filter.
@BierBart12
4 жыл бұрын
@@mimimira5412 I don't think there's any problem with that. I have problems talking to normal people, but I kinda built a "list" of "normal" topics in my head I can ask about to make the other person carry the conversation. It really depends on the person and conversations tend to die in around a minute, though. With weirdos, on the other hand, I can just talk for hours and hours making weird noises and meme references.
@StrongBalloonChris
5 жыл бұрын
Common question: "You're quiet, aren't you?" Me: "Yeah..."
@randomnamesoicanfindmyself3123
4 жыл бұрын
You like making noise, right?
@lani0515
4 жыл бұрын
It really be like that doe😳
@CyAnKS93
4 жыл бұрын
*Plankton voice* CORRECT!
@535_anshuj9
4 жыл бұрын
I can actually hear those voices while reading this. God,that's so annoying!!!!People never actually get it, do they??? I am quiet ,because you guys are doing enough damage by yourselves....Please just let me be!!!
@jademaverick8291
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, and then when you become close to the person who said that they're like, "And I thought you were quiet!"
@sam.aspiring
2 ай бұрын
I thought i was the only one going thru this dilema. Its grear to find out fellows w same struggle
@ganimisa
Жыл бұрын
Most people just want to talk about themselves and their situation anyway. My favorite escape is "got to go, I have to ...(any reason)".
@baemaejor8857
4 жыл бұрын
as an introvert I literally couldn't see any openings in that kanye west jimmy kimmel conversation lol
@ErnestKaltenStalin
4 жыл бұрын
I was confused too.
@SkittlesInYourHand
4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's because you lack confidence in yourself and how other perceive you. Jimmy was absolutely BEGGING to be interrupted any kinda comment by Kanye, but if you believe the person speaking doesn't care what you have to say then you'll just say nothing. I struggle pretty hard with this too, but just try to remember that people talking to you usually want to hear what you have to say.
@dawiddulian2403
4 жыл бұрын
Introverts just prefer to listen and not interrupt the story the person's telling
@garrycotton7094
3 жыл бұрын
Same, I was so confused! It just seemed like the host was talking non-stop without break ie. leave him to it.
@EmpressG
3 жыл бұрын
@@garrycotton7094 Yeah, Kanye was nodding and looking engaged. Probably wondering, "Where is this going?" Short of talking over Jimmy I don't see that the comments suggested that he should make would be relevant and could be taken as rude in certain contexts.
@jobe4279
6 жыл бұрын
Introvert here. I hate small talk. It's so boring. Much more prefer questions and answers with substance.
@findlayrankin9769
6 жыл бұрын
I know the feeling but in order for us to blend in with society you must do as I have done and transform yourself into a charismatic manipulative sweet talker so we can get into positions of power and take over the world from the inside.
@putturin4723
6 жыл бұрын
Why do you consider yourself an introvert
@derekdonahue2435
6 жыл бұрын
Findlay Rankin 😂
@mehvar2912
6 жыл бұрын
oh wise one, the rest of us all loooooove small talk......
@CaponeXX
6 жыл бұрын
I can't stand on online dating apps when girls say " hi how are you" wtf am i supposed to say to that?
@Astro-ep7id
Жыл бұрын
Bruh the algorithm is wilding 💀
@jeffmarcuse6450
2 жыл бұрын
When he mentioned the Yeezy shoes, Kanye's brain started racing in a million directions. He's listening to what Jimmy is saying but also think about everything that has to do with the business at the same time. There's so much going on in his mind, plus he'd rather listen and think about what's being said.
@Alexisasful
4 жыл бұрын
The moment you find all your introverted, depressed homies in the comment section sharing the same struggles with you is priceless.
@anneneville6255
4 жыл бұрын
At least now we don’t feel alone. But irl, I have almost never meet as awkward people as me, strangely. Hahha
@vitoscalita
4 жыл бұрын
@@anneneville6255 i mean im an introvert who is awkward but i don't show to others my awkward side i keep it to myself so u may have met awkward introverts but they didn't show u their awkward side
@anneneville6255
4 жыл бұрын
Leopold The III the Problem is sometimes when I try to hide my awkwardness, people think I am being arrogant :(
@Yunes948
2 жыл бұрын
We are one
@angieacabal7942
2 жыл бұрын
I have finally found my people.. Hahaha
@torachan23
6 жыл бұрын
My strategy was to always stare at the person intensely until they stopped talking and leave. Problem solved.
@Substantial-hf1rm
6 жыл бұрын
Tora Chan Jokes on you, akward stares just give me a boner!
@binyoung7297
6 жыл бұрын
Or just don't be there in the first place, right?
@Account-cu2lf
6 жыл бұрын
You are doing what Kanye does
@silashouse1954
6 жыл бұрын
😂
@hemidas
6 жыл бұрын
Simplest answers are usually the best.
@TheBestMOC
Жыл бұрын
I usually tell people to stfu with the small talk and say something interesting and then it starts something funny AND also makes them feel more confortable to say anything they might want to without much restriction/filter.
@friendlyneighbourhoodbisex4811
2 жыл бұрын
I am autistic and this channel has helped me feel more natural when I interact with other people. Thankyou!
@TeexMack
5 жыл бұрын
Introvert with social anxiety, anyone else?
@blankness8
5 жыл бұрын
Yeah same here :// It's gotten so bad that I actively hide from my friends if I see a one-on-one convo coming up :( (If they're in a group it's fine though)
@always1084
5 жыл бұрын
Here
@mine_neko
5 жыл бұрын
I can relate! But I'm trying to connect with friends again.
@holysecret2
5 жыл бұрын
+
@potaatoo8793
5 жыл бұрын
@@blankness8 huh I'm the exact opposite. I'm fine with a one-on-one but as soon as there are multiple people having some sort of expectation that I contribute something to the conversation I'm out
@lazybacon7520
6 жыл бұрын
"So, how about that sports team with the points."
@theItalianshamrock
6 жыл бұрын
Thats usually the one i use. Or "looks like its gonna rain..shit" haha
@Thoran666
6 жыл бұрын
+Jackson OMG I also love Ponytricks! Can I hug you? :D
@thisisdk7859
6 жыл бұрын
EhehahahahaHA!
@lillelinne63
6 жыл бұрын
Did the ball go?
@Vikasslytherine
6 жыл бұрын
I say we talk about geopolitics concerning the middle eastern region and Afghanistan's fate.
@daniell_1177
Жыл бұрын
Glad you included that clip of me at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="130">2:10</a>
@niaswalwyn7897
Жыл бұрын
Using Kanye West in this day is crazy 🤣🤣
@xoukilong
5 жыл бұрын
Good morning good morning, how are you? Good, and you? Good. That's my life everyday at work. Dozens times a day for the past decade.
@thesexyskywalker3283
5 жыл бұрын
I know! I hate this so much! Why can't we get it to go farther than this?
@xoukilong
5 жыл бұрын
@@thesexyskywalker3283 im just socially awkward. sometimes i say too much of nothing. (also doesnt help cuz im a janitor and that's my morning greets to teachers). sometimes i plan ahead of what to say. nothing comes naturally.. i think it's supposed to be natural.... right?
@ashleyphoenix633
5 жыл бұрын
That was me in my practice with my supervisor 😂 (I can imagine me at work doing the same thing)
@Soft_Ghost
5 жыл бұрын
Then you should stop saying 'good' when you doesn't feel good. Say 'No.', 'Not really.', 'I'm not sure.'; so they can ask you why and you can drop a bit of complaint about life and they can drop theirs. Bam! a conversation. I was like that too, a bit better now tho. The key is to understand that even the ones who seems confident have their own problems, so talking about your problem can make people relate to you.
@prisonmike6886
5 жыл бұрын
I felt this
@BigDeen509
5 жыл бұрын
Too much work, I'd rather not leave my house.
@xehP
5 жыл бұрын
ahahah fr
@motivatoraligator6
5 жыл бұрын
xDDDDDD
@Theendman42
5 жыл бұрын
But if you would rather never leave your house, when you do have to leave your house, your social interaction, that are inevitable, will function much less efficiently and fun then if you would go out, have a few VERY awkward and embarrassing conversations on your way to success. This is coming from an introverted person who would much rather not leave the confines of their house, but would also like to make social interactions less awkward then they are right now. It comes down to how you feel about interacting, would you rather it be better? Then you need to put in that work…this is assuming you weren't just making a joke that was baseless in the reality of your situation.
@xehP
5 жыл бұрын
@@Theendman42 lmao you're obviously an introvert, it was sarcasm...
@Theendman42
5 жыл бұрын
Yes, I know it was a joke, but I assumed that it had some basis in fact, hence why I said what I said. And yes, I am very much so an introvert.
@eurussaphire
Жыл бұрын
The first clip of kanye missing openings to be able to speak just makes one realise how awkward this interaction is, and how necessary it is to fill up a conversation with more than just "mhm" and head shake.
@DariaOrionova
5 жыл бұрын
Good Lord. I never thought I would relate to Kanye West.
@bluzoneoffline
4 жыл бұрын
the world may really be coming to an end😂😂
@Slynell1
4 жыл бұрын
You sound ignorant daria.
@coolmariobros-ul7yr
4 жыл бұрын
@@Slynell1 Why? How? She sounds ignorant because she found something in common with Kanye West? Them both being introverts?
@JustinBrando
4 жыл бұрын
then watch his interview he’s the most relatable person i’ve ever seen
@scottmescudi3553
3 жыл бұрын
Kanye is the goat!
@nickvnicholas7857
6 жыл бұрын
I hate when there is awkward silence after you decide to open up and talk. Like the other person expected you to stay silent but now they feel weird that you aren't It's like they know that you are an introvert, so they give you the silent treatment to try to keep themselves above you lol
@jussi-pekkalaakko8768
6 жыл бұрын
this
@silverknight1740
6 жыл бұрын
Nivk Miller, I called someone out for doing that once and guess who laughed the last.
@citrus4419
6 жыл бұрын
Wow that was spot on
@hismom5600
6 жыл бұрын
@@jussi-pekkalaakko8768 ABSOLUTELY this! I had the same thought last week and couldn't properly express the feeling.
@aceris5874
6 жыл бұрын
My roommate is like this. When I share something I find important (and I usually don't), and I show large enthusiasm, she'll just go, "Oh, cool."
@keithprice1950
2 жыл бұрын
My problem is that the small talk makes me feel so uncomfortable that I actually find it physically difficult to talk. It's like my jaw freezes so when those moments arrive I physically struggle to speak. It's usually a blurt followed by a gulp. Once the small talk is done and there is a subject to talk about, if I'm interested then I can start to relax. Annoyingly though, if the meaningful Convo starts to fizzle out and the small talk returns I freeze up again. I never fully relax until I'm alone again.
@deli_bread
Жыл бұрын
As an introvert, I have to admit that I am indeed terrible at small talk. I'll use the words "yeah" and "mhm" like 50 times because I don't know how else to respond
@whanowa
6 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately only very few people are _acutally_ interested in what others say. They just wanna dump all their shit thoughts on you, expecting you to shut up (because they leave no openings whatsoever) and then, even when you wanna engage in their story by sharing an experience, they interrupt and/or don't listen. That's why I hate small talk, actively, and it has nothing to do with being an introvert for me. I'd rather talk with a random stranger about their passion or the damn universe than go through a stupid conversation checklist.
@sheeeple2069
5 жыл бұрын
That is so true lol
@k9dogtraining
5 жыл бұрын
I completely agree. I've been duped a few times. Someone asks me a question that appears to be a conversation starter so I engage, but they just use my engagement as a segue to drone on and on about themselves or lecture me about a topic that they know very little about. I know one particular person who seems to asks me questions with the sole intent of disagreeing with my answer.
@sexybeast7728
5 жыл бұрын
Then you are not listening either. If they so desperately wanna tell you something, acknowledge it and then finish the topic no matter how long it takes which will result in opennings... if they keep repeating the same thing then YOU failed as a listener. If they keep ignoring what you have to say, either speak up about it, or find new people to talk to.
@alexanders1330
5 жыл бұрын
I feel like small talk is more for old people than young. Since we're connected more with devices we share similar feelings such as memes lol
@Mithrandir69
5 жыл бұрын
TLDR.
@user-bz1wh6xe4m
4 жыл бұрын
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="60">1:00</a> Notice subtle openings for you to share your thoughts <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="135">2:15</a> Respond with an open-ended statement to keep the conversation going <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="180">3:00</a> You don't have to answer questions if you want to talk about something else <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="251">4:11</a> Pause to create opt-in points for others <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="322">5:22</a> Try to get to a conversational topic you both care about
@user-bz1wh6xe4m
3 жыл бұрын
@Matthew Davis thnx bro
@123craftfun4
3 жыл бұрын
What I was looking for, thanks@
@danield8632
2 жыл бұрын
You’re amazing
@Jack-id4qm
2 жыл бұрын
Cheers mate
@Peeter8
2 жыл бұрын
Trying to think back and none of this was taught in school.
@jaspreetkaur-ff4ln
7 ай бұрын
I love being introvert and quiet at work but people make me really uncomfortable by telling me “ you need to talk more and more” all the time. And making small talks forcefully all day long really drains my whole energy
@wilpri
6 ай бұрын
Literal answers are a sign of honesty.
@YokoshimaOfficial
5 жыл бұрын
I'm not interested in my life, that's why I'm better a listener...
@shivareddy8697
5 жыл бұрын
sam here ,wonderfully said
@markewings7525
5 жыл бұрын
No-one is interested in your life
@ryanrobin12
5 жыл бұрын
mark ewings- damn dude
@topangaleija
5 жыл бұрын
Me too hun
@artoriasoftheabyss1575
4 жыл бұрын
@@markewings7525 ironic
@fumanchu7
3 жыл бұрын
How to handle small talk as an introvert: 1. Be chatty 2. Control the conversation 3. Be witty or funny 4. Make sure everyone in the conversation is having fun So ... be an extrovert. I don’t know why I never thought of that. The next conversation will be a breeze!
@noreverie
2 жыл бұрын
These all still require talent, especially being funny
@marsilv4319
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂right
@memo5230
Жыл бұрын
Cant be an extrovert if your an introvert can you Mr 😂😂
@giovanniminotte2951
Жыл бұрын
this is equal to How to be rich 1. Have lots of money 2. Be very smart 3. Be born into a rich family 4. Star a successful business
@Aksh__12
Жыл бұрын
@@giovanniminotte2951 absolutely..
@appledough3843
9 ай бұрын
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="95">1:35</a> (Feel) - To move through small talk mention how the other persons statement makes you feel. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="178">2:58</a> (Better Question) - Don’t always answer the questions asked but use it as a springboard to answer a more interesting question related to what they asked. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="252">4:12</a> (Opt In) - Create opt in points so people have a chance to jump in the convo. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="320">5:20</a> (Deeper) - Steer conversation into deeper conversation you both care about. Ask ppl their opinions on movies or news stories or anything you care about.
@lindaneighbors4158
2 жыл бұрын
There is not one single conversation where I didn't obsess afterward about how awful I was. I HATE small-talk but understand it's a necessary evil if we exist in society, or have family we love. I think these pointers will help me so much. Thank you! I only hope I can remember to use them. Oh, I should say, my dread of conversations is due to my extreme awkwardness along with a feeling that people expect something from me. Like, I am trying so hard to be helpful in keeping the conversational ball rolling, that I'll steal it and run with it, bouncing it wildly all over the place so that, even if someone else wants to join in, they probably can't. Maybe that's introversion paired with ADHD, laced with a hefty dose of coming from a large family that expects participation no matter how much you don't want to.
@fooolsun4917
5 жыл бұрын
I just can't do it. When there's a group of people i just laugh, smile and nod, but when is only other person and me, i can't. I let the other person talk, and talk, and talk (that's why i feel more comfortable with extroverts that can't shut up, so i don't have to talk). But when they ask me my opininion i'm just like "oh...i see" or "yeah". When they ask me to tell stories i just can't think of anything. I have nothing to talk about with strangers.
@blankness8
5 жыл бұрын
Yes! I love small bigger groups (as in, groups that are still small but have at least four people) because there's not so much focus on me. One on one is actual torture. That's why all my close friends are extroverts lol, they just talk talk talk talk and if I like what they talk about then we're friends haha :D (I do try hard to think of interesting questions but sometimes they fall flat. My brain isn't hard wired for talking).
@SheaHarris
5 жыл бұрын
Hmm. I'm good one on one but don't know how to interact in a group.
@SamLovesOD
5 жыл бұрын
same!!
@jupiterdoe1776
5 жыл бұрын
Wow I never related to a comment more
@anasilva2323
5 жыл бұрын
For me at least I have a serious problem to fully engage in a conversation, or I can't start it, or it's just me talking. The funny thing is, a part of my friends have the same problem as you, so when I give a opening they just say "yeah", "hum" or nothing at all
@strawberrypanic9910
6 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this awkwardness as an introvert on spiritual level.
@Aleksaurus
Жыл бұрын
this aged well with ye
@1stJohn3.9-10
4 ай бұрын
The lack of communication has gotten ridiculous. Every single time I'm out in public, I love approaching as many people as possible. I can have conversations for 10-20 minutes on average, but sometimes 45 min to an hour or more. The longest random conversation I had was about 3 hours at the post office. When people are pumping gas, that's typically a captive audiance for 5-10 minutes. Young, elderly, male, female, couples. People seem Starved for connection...so I love to Encourage people.
@carpwithmilk8914
6 жыл бұрын
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="110">1:50</a> perfect representation of how Kanye expresses emotions
@DeliciousBADBOY
6 жыл бұрын
I need those emoticons to truly express how I feel
@PracticalInspiration
6 жыл бұрын
Lol, love it!
@megatronsroyalemissary382
6 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@KingBowserVlog
6 жыл бұрын
Guys, one of the biggest things I've ever learned is that putting the label of introvert on yourself will only make you act the part even more. Don't get me wrong, you will always lean towards more introverted or extroverted activity. However, imo it's more like a gradient. I'm a massive introvert. However, over the last two years I've made the effort to come out of my shell and just learn to love to talk. This is key. Don't learn how to have a conversation, learn how to *love* having a conversation. To the point where I used to think talking was draining but now I find myself talking more and more to up my vibe. If I was ever in a bad mood I used to avoid talking. Now I actually *want* to talk because it gets me in a better mood, and it's all because I became genuinely interested in people and in talking. tl;dr don't use being an introvert or extrovert as an excuse for anything. Talking and expressing yourself is just like any other skill, you just have to put the effort in.
@NicolineKorsvold
6 жыл бұрын
I spoke with a self-labelled introvert once who had the same approach as you. It made me think that having a growth mindset is applicable to so much more than, say, maths.
@KingBowserVlog
6 жыл бұрын
For sure! Never put limits on how you can grow in personality, and that includes being more expressive and talking.
@clarhck6
6 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this lol
@user-fj7jf4cj4b
6 жыл бұрын
Relate to this comment! Once you judge yourself as a certain one, you could turn the one in no time.
@sam-cn8tu
6 жыл бұрын
Brilliant! I used to have this mindset that if it’s not necessary to talk and if I can avoid the chance of any kind of awkward situation then so be it. But I said to myself, I guess not every interaction has to be necessary, and when I tried stepping out of my comfort zone and speaking to people I normally wouldn’t I’ve learnt so much! Things I wouldn’t have known before and it’s rewarding. Don’t get me wrong, some times were awkward, but I’m still alive lmao
@cat_91n
3 ай бұрын
finally a tutorial on how to socialise
@kcinad
Жыл бұрын
this thumbnail aged well
@JoeMama-ci9bd
Жыл бұрын
Just because it has Kanye doesn’t mean it aged poorly goofy
@HawkinaBox
5 жыл бұрын
Small talk is boring as an introvert. REALLY REALLY BORING. "How are you?" "Good." Then there is silence and I'm FORCED to continue the conversation when they won't! I HATE when that happens!
@RyotaMitarai
5 жыл бұрын
I just found a solution, say 'What have you been up to lately?' I personally never used it but I heard all extroverts effectively say it at the beginning of conversation. Try it
@kristupasantanavicius9093
5 жыл бұрын
Its because "How are you" is not a literal question, its a greeting: "How are you doing?" "I'm fine, what about you?" "Wonderful." This is the same as 2 parties saying "Hi", but with a bit more substance so the parties can better gauge the situation and be able to direct the conversation appropriately. Its not just about the words that are being said, its also about the tone, facial expression and hand gestures.
@fatknuts
4 жыл бұрын
Ryota Mitarai the problem for me is it kinda sounds like something you would say to someone you already know, like if you haven’t seen them in a bit.
@mondraymondo
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Gawd cant they see im an introvert? Dont make me lead the conversation XD
@blue-balenci4181
4 жыл бұрын
RayMondoART its cuz we probably dudes
@mikeh5399
6 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video about the opposite skill: how to get an introvert to to engage in small talk? In the first clip, Jimmy was giving openings for Kanye to use, but he wasn't taking them. Is there something one can do, while talking to an introvert, to help get the conversation going?
@beholdandfearme
6 жыл бұрын
Direct open ended questions may help.
@Balala_
6 жыл бұрын
Arnold Harding this. you beat me to it ^^
@augustgreig9420
6 жыл бұрын
Generally, I'd say ask them how they feel, but it needs to be in a meaningful way, like relative to some topic or object, especially if it has significance or relevance to the introvert. And remember, sometimes it takes an introvert a little time to warm up to the conversation, so just keep it going an try to keep them talking. Don't dive Right in to the meaningful stuff, because they may not be ready. Ironically, you usually have to warm them up with a little small talk. Be irritating them or making them uncomfortable with a few banalities, the deeper more meaningful topic or question will become all the more enticing as a way to segue out of the mindless banter.
@renrosemary9882
6 жыл бұрын
This would be especially useful as I struggle getting quieter, more introverted people to open up to me. TwT
@battle-wornrobottauntproce1369
6 жыл бұрын
Don't give openings, just ask questions.
@8ontheside820
Жыл бұрын
I think with Kanye he likes to think about his answers, he is a smart person and I get the vibe that he doesn’t talk to just to fill the space
@irvingdelahoz9390
Жыл бұрын
I work as a service manager at an RV repair shop, and I can tell right away when some of my clients are introverted so I literally have to talk to them in a certain way so it's very obvious when they need to speak
@raws4209
4 жыл бұрын
the problem is that i genuinely dont care about 90% of the people i have smalltalk with so i dont feel like sharing anything out of my life and im not interested in theirs so i dont really listen. Which makes keeping the conversation going super hard.
@sosodrake1807
3 жыл бұрын
This right here
@user-ew9yq3ht2b
2 жыл бұрын
This
@thtswutshesaid
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely this.
@Isa-vy2bv
2 жыл бұрын
100% true for me too
@secretlifeofeve
2 жыл бұрын
Yeahh! That's why it's exhausting because we have to force ourselves to talk to them and squeeze or brains to think of something to say, and exert energy and effort to look interested in what their saying
@MichaelBusse1
5 жыл бұрын
I don't know if my kind of "introvertness" is different - but the problem I'm experiencing with small talk - especially with strangers - is that i very quickly run out of stuff to say. I can litterally not think of anything at all to move the conversation forward. I will probe every corner of my brain for anything to say, but nothing comes up. So if the other person is not extrovert enough to just ramble on and let me chime in when something finally triggers - then the conversation is over very quickly. So in theory these tools you are describing are fine - but they don't help. The problem is overcoming that mental block that very much feel like a black hole has suddenly opened in your mind - sucking away every idea you could talk about. You are simply pulling a blank however hard you try. That is also, I think, the reason is seems we answer so ilterally. It's the only thing we can come up with. Though iv'e gotten alot better the past 10 years - I will most often think so hard of what to say that i miss alot of social clues, and entire sentences from whom ever i am talking to. I've been both insulted and flirted with and never realised it before someone else have pointed it out afterwards, because I've been too busy being frustrated with trying to come up with something to say. In the end it will be so exhausting you just wanna go home where you can relax your mind a bit and be yourself. However - with people i know, for example my family, friends and close coworkers - we can talk for hours. In most professional interactions this is seldomly a problem either, when you just talk profesionally. It's only during small talk and social interactions this is a problem. For me anyway :)
@creampuff966
5 жыл бұрын
I relate to you 100%. I think SO HARD for something to say, but I just can't come up with anything. Also because of that, if someone tries to joke with me, I'll just smile, because I can't think of something funny to say back. It's frustrating! It doesn't help that my twin sister is good at conversating and making friends :( Glad to know I'm not the only one!
@Ash_Wen-li
4 жыл бұрын
I think it's because you're in your head too much when you're with new people. I'm like that too but i've gotten much better at being present in the moment when i'm talking to people.
@vrsce0178
4 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@ataallgirl
4 жыл бұрын
Great point.
@nehasalve1294
4 жыл бұрын
Same thing happens with me people get board with me easily
@lordofolimpia1
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know why, but I can talk non-stop to people I'm really close with without having a specific topic but I can't talk to anyone I just met even with a prepared topic.
@elpettywifi3081
2 жыл бұрын
seeing this 2 years later. trying to think of how to come in at an opening just left me with anxiety and confusion
@carpwithmilk8914
6 жыл бұрын
A Gordon Ramsay charisma breakdown would be awesome
@thecampfire4877
6 жыл бұрын
I love Gordon Ramsey
@botherpeejay9719
6 жыл бұрын
Glad I’m not the only one who’s been hoping for one. Gordon is the ultimate alpha male.
@dogeshibe5833
6 жыл бұрын
*Where's* *the* *lamb* *sauce?*
@pigeonoverlord9433
6 жыл бұрын
I've been saying the exact same thing
@annasavannah902
6 жыл бұрын
Google ENTJ
@Chaechaos
6 жыл бұрын
So me..... I just would rather not do small talk. Its seems fake to me. Im so awkaward because I find myself wondering if people do actually care how my day is going (Fill in any other personal question) . Or is it out of politeness. I actually care if I ask. Thats whats so wierd for me and small talk.
@jakubfrei3757
6 жыл бұрын
So true...
@stackenitup87
6 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way
@irvinlovesjesus
6 жыл бұрын
Jesus cares.
@louisledreff7978
6 жыл бұрын
Interesting coming from a woman. When I hear my sister chat with her friends, I feel like it's almost only small talk, like telling how you feel, listening to the other tell what her day was like while inserting short questions, acting like you're amazed ; "oh that's crazy !" while you're so obviously bored... When I talk with friends (men), the difference is so obvious. We don't do this kind of stuff, and when someone starts acting like that, we laugh at it, the person feels a bit stupid, laughs too, and we move on.
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