I learned that anxiety wants me to fight against it. Fighting empowers it. Last year I did a few things to let go of that struggle: 1) Eliminated strong caffeine (coffee was causing my body to go into fight mode; caffeine was like fuel for my anxiety) 2) Mindfulness meditation (the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels was a great start for me) 3.) Journaling my emotions (old school paper and pen writing for 5 minutes...just spilling my thoughts on paper, then tossing it) 4.) Setting boundaries (I did not have good boundaries, never knew how to set them with people. Saying "no" is so important.)
@alexanderguryev2416
Жыл бұрын
I also had a "bad" experience, feeling scared everytime I was drinking coffee and indeed I felt my heart beating fast which made me scared. But since I really love drinking coffee, I realized that stopping caffeine will not be a good option, because it becomes another form of avoidance. So I told myself why do I have to deprive myself of things I like doing, just because of the fear to feel afraid? I mean cutting off caffeine may indeed help in reducing anxiety, but if you do avoid feeling anxious caused by drinking coffee, it may just be another form of avoidance, in my humble opinion.
@rijd2304
Жыл бұрын
@@alexanderguryev2416 I can relate. If someone makes a really good coffee, I might have a tablespoon (literally that small) just for the taste, and it's enough. High caffeine spikes dopamine to high levels, which then neurochemically impacts serotonin and anxiety levels. I switched to green tea and cacao because they have less caffeine and natural feel good chemicals...but if I drink too much cacao then I feel the coffee effect so I'm careful. It really comes down to experimenting.
@gnarthdarkanen7464
Жыл бұрын
I'd suggest it comes down to the concept of "moderation"... It's okay to drink coffee. It's not okay to drink enough or to make it strong enough to hurt yourself... Experimenting helps us figure out what we really like, and how much is enough versus too much... Personally, I'm concerned that I'm some kind of freak. I can drink a quart of high-caffeine and super sweet REAL cappucino and go directly to bed... lucid dreams... no sweat. I don't do that sort of thing out of habit, because somewhere I have the "good sense" to know that's probably not good for me, even if it doesn't seem to effect me the way it would any "normal person"... i.e. the sweats, jitters, staring blankly at the wall, racing heart, and chaos in their thought stream... etc... Our internal improvements are a journey throughout our lives, and we're likely to occasionally stumble upon things that we wish we'd found sooner in our lives, but maybe we were simply not receptive to them until the moments we "found" them as it were... The main thing is to find what works for YOU, and go with it. Life will also change you over time, and so the techniques and habits you build will need occasional "tweaking" along the way. That's all part of the changing that comes with growth, maturity, and development. ...AND everyone is an individual. What works for some (like myself tanking down a big load of caffeine and going directly to sleep) won't work for everybody else... ;o)
@ivanivan5511
Жыл бұрын
I admire people like you like actually do the homework, have the will to look out how to overcome mental health issues. You wanted to get better, so you went for it and did it. Congrats!
@elifante
Жыл бұрын
In my case, I need to reduce my sugar cosumption, and continue excercising... it is like magic c:
@bridiewright1519
Жыл бұрын
Having a terrible time after losing mum, it's my dad's birthday in heaven today too, not helping, thankyou for your uploads ❤
@bentaylor2430
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry. Praying and hoping for you to have peace! Blessings to you!
@brightspacebabe
Жыл бұрын
I understand. My mother’s 21st anniversary of her passing is this month, and my father passed May of this year. Hugs and prayers for comfort for you in this agonizing time.❤
@bridiewright1519
Жыл бұрын
@@brightspacebabe ♥️♥️
@bridiewright1519
Жыл бұрын
@@bentaylor2430 thankyou
@SoCalRegisteredNurse
Жыл бұрын
Awe I’m so sorry. Cry if you need to. Hugs from across the pond ❤
@maddiesta
Жыл бұрын
You're the best emma. You've saved me from ending up at the hospital many times.
@mb19873
Жыл бұрын
My husband of 26 years passed away July 31st. Anxiety has heightened, having trouble in society, driving, have no friends, and I am 67. I realize I must learn to be me again, but right now I can't remember who that is. I have to drive, go out in public, go to the doctor, etc but really having a hard time. I also realize how inept I have become socially. God has caused me to make some good strides, but I need to move ahead faster. This feels . . . Awful, alone, brutal, lost.
@wumpkin
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away 4 1/2 yrs ago. I too went through the struggle you are now in. Give yourself time, as you rediscover yourself again, it does start to get better. It is so strange, even your home feels differently because the sounds it makes are different because your spouse isn’t in it. The death of a spouse affects literally every part of your life & the little unexpected changes are sometimes the biggest problems. It took me just over 3 years to finally start finding my own rhythm of life. My late husband gave me the absolute luxury of not having to deal with any problems, when he passed away it was quite the shock to realize it was all up to me, I don’t like it, but I am well able to do it. I still struggle with driving a little, but that too is getting better. I’ve never been big on socializing, I have always preferred family to friends, so that aspect of my life thankfully hasn’t changed. I wish you well on your journey & pray you keep looking for the little signs that you are making forward progress. You can do this, you just have to remember that😊
@patrickmchenry4916
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry to hear this. You will be in my thoughts. Keep moving forward, it may feel like it, but your not alone. There are so many of us that struggle every day. 🙏
@lustgarten
Жыл бұрын
Be very kind and gentle to yourself and realize you need time. Break down tasks into the smallest steps you can.
@scoutdixie4412
Жыл бұрын
Give yourself time. I lost my husband 15 years ago, left with two young children. I plowed through like a bull. I think that was a mistake. Rest, have bad days, curl up if you need too. Time does heal things, but don't rush.
@avamiller2325
Жыл бұрын
I lost my husband 2 years ago after 43 years of marriage, my anxiety is the worse ever! I pray for us all🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
@foxc8646
Жыл бұрын
I don’t have a lot of money so these videos are a large part of what is saving me thank you
@diane11m93
4 ай бұрын
THISSSSSSSS 😢 i so thankful only God can repay her kindness for giving this for free turn my life 360
@JP-nz4em
2 ай бұрын
These are way better than seeing a psychologist trust me. I ‘ve experienced it
@EB-gt1pq
23 күн бұрын
@@JP-nz4emso hard to find a good one… the most recent one made my anxiety worse
@earthzeroapothecary
Жыл бұрын
Changing my diet helped my anxiety more than meds ever did. I stopped eating sugar and carbs, cut out coffee, and started taking adaptogenic herbs. It was like a switch went off and it's changed my whole life. When I started feeding my body what it actually needs, my cells weren't as responsive to stressful environments and situations.
@me.6917
Жыл бұрын
This is really encouraging!! I've been getting a little bit of anxiety at the thought of getting healthy and losing weight (dumb, I know lol) and today was day one of changing my eating habits. I know I feel best when I eat clean. I am hoping it will help with lowering my overall cortisol levels and reducing stress.
@roo5940
Жыл бұрын
@@me.6917not dumb!! Very normal!
@IrishMexican
Жыл бұрын
Stopping the intake of carbohydrates can be dangerous for certain people. I would advise that the individual consult with a trained and registered dietitian before considering such a dietary modification. Follow the research and scientific consensus.
@now591
11 ай бұрын
Um no. They are the least informed. Even the famous food pyramid is wrong.@@IrishMexican
@earthzeroapothecary
10 ай бұрын
@@IrishMexican I actually follow my internal guidance and listen to my body and pay attention to how I feel after eating. Food is supposed to give us what we need for fuel and to nourish our cells, but dietitians are taught an incorrect model and don't understand how local plants and herbs help support our body. I wouldn't consult a dietitian, nor would I follow scientific consensus because their opinion may be different than what I need. I'm in charge of what I eat and the biofeedback I get from my body. Why would I give away that power to a system that doesn't align with it? No, thanks! I trust myself first.
@Nightwalker25-m3u
Жыл бұрын
Emma, i think your one of the top therapists hands down.
@alexandrabogner9638
7 ай бұрын
I'm in autistic burnout after over 30 years of being undiagnosed. My ADHD means I have constant noise in my head. I have GAD, RSD and lately I'm not only in constant fight/flight mode as usual but my anxiety is in constant hyperdrive, it's gotten so far that I can't sleep or eat properly. I stumbled over your videos and they're the only thing that can give me a bit of relief even just for a few minutes. I don't have a very big budget but I'm definitely gonna try the full course eventually. What makes it extra challenging is that as a neurodivergent person I have huge difficulties with body signals/feelings. Very often I don't notice that I'm not actually angry but hungry, or I'm not actually afraid, I'm tired. Thank you for posting these videos!!!!
@AminalBeast
2 ай бұрын
How are you doing now? I hope you are doing okay ❤
@galin8306
Жыл бұрын
Hi! Maybe my story will help someone. When I tried a physical exercise from this video, I started to cry. I realised that my feelings of anxiety, stress and discomfort are strongly associated with a feeling of humiliation. At first I couldn’t understand why, but then I got an idea. I was bullied at school. A great humiliation and sometimes violence for many years were always in a company with stress and anxiety, so maybe I remembered them as an individed group. Then I had a thought, that I'd never overcome discomfort to get joy. Survival - yes, joy - no. So if I feel that the situation is not about survival, I just want to get rid of nasty feelings as soon as possible. What for? It turns out to be a paradox: if I don't need to survive, I stop doing anything - and my anxiety gets stronger than ever. But… “NEVER overcame discomfort to get joy”? Never? Really? I tried to remember situations when I overcame my anxiety to pursue my goals and when it ended up with joy and happiness. At first it seemed impossible. But then one by one I started to remember more and more situations like that. In the end I felt really proud of myself. And now I feel different about overcoming nasty feelings, I don’t feel such a strong resistance anymore. Now I think that I need to focus more on situations, when I feel anxiety at first, then do something anyway - and feel joy (not just survive). I hope it will help me to associate anxiety with joy, not humiliation. Thank you, Emma, for these videos! Thank you a lot from all my heart!
@barbiec8179
Жыл бұрын
Wow. You know what? You just pushed a puzzle piece into place for me. Thank you... and I'm proud of you for persevering and reaching the joy on the other side as well. :D
@madisonpoiry216
10 ай бұрын
That's awesome! I agree. I was pushing thru anxiety for only survival (i.e. eat, sleep, work) but I rarely exercised it for joy. I used to take dance lessons with my husband and it was one of those things that was so easy to skip or get too self conscious about, but we never regretted going. We'd always leave with a skip in our step saying we need to go back.
@zariashreef5228
11 күн бұрын
This is really helpful, thank you! I love your description of not just survival but joy. In spite of the anxiety and discomfort you did it anyway, many times. Don’t we all? I used to feel ashamed that I was anxious, which paralysed me even further. Now I’m learning to not reject the anxiety as the feelings of a coward, but reframe myself as brave because I’m feeling anxious but doing it anyway. Then I can feel proud too.
@ЕмилияДимитрова-с1с
Жыл бұрын
I will share something funny that happened to me while listening to this video, especially the part with the exploring the roof of my mouth. So I try to get into the present moment and just explore the palate with my tongue, and simultaneously I hear my mom screaming in the backyard to our dog like 7-8 times "Jerry, no, Jerry nooo " every single time more furious and louder. And after 10 years of therapy, I realized that my mom was the core reason for my uncontrollable anxiety symptoms nowadays. And after tons of pills taken, jumping from one diagnosys to another in the last one year, 20 years of my life gone through fears, anxiety, avoidance and you name it... feeling that I have lost every last ray of hope, I am watching Emma's videos like a drowning man clutching at a straw, and I am executing this simple exercise moving my tongue at the palate, and I hear my mom screaming at our dog at the top of her lungs " Nooo, nooo.." and somehow I kind of laughed at the whole situation. Thank goodness, Jerry isn't expected to live 50+ years, but I'm sure he is in a lot of pain, too. Thanks Emma, you are amazing !
@angiegruner5523
8 ай бұрын
Emma, I just want to thank you for your kind heart and tell you how much I appreciate your videos. I went to one therapy session about 20 years ago and didn’t feel heard at all, so I never went back. I didn’t trust others with my feelings anyway and quite honestly didn’t understand them enough to name them and explain them. So I felt it would be a waste of time and limited resources to pursue finding a therapist who could hear, understand, and help. I started reading books and watching videos in a long journey of healing. I have also relied on my faith, journaling and praying for direction. A couple of years ago, I found your videos and learned that I could search (in order) for the videos from your course on emotional processing, and they were life-changing for me. I am still practicing how to recognize emotions in my body, name them with the help of your emotion wheel, and process through them so they are no longer stored in my body, causing physical issues. Though I’ve never thought of myself as having anxiety, I decided that watching your videos would help me to understand others with anxiety. I am watching them in order and just finished #5 about willingness. I am already learning so much that I can apply to my life, and it is reinforcing what I learned in the other course. I am forever grateful for the many hours you spend creating these lessons, recording them, editing them, and posting them. You are so good at explaining complex issues and offering practical ways of addressing them. Thank you for sharing your gift. You are making a difference. ❤
@steve4524
Жыл бұрын
Totally accept it, learn to not be afraid of it. Then you don’t fear it ❤️
@ThoughtsAreReal
Жыл бұрын
Despite hearing about their poor privacy practices, I tried Better Help and I was not impressed. I won't be going back unless they radically change their processes and management style to be (in my opinion) patient-focused rather than profit-focused.
@FriskyTendervittles
Жыл бұрын
Parts work/internal family systems and EMDR has been a game changer for me. Instead of hating those protectors I love them and thank them and it’s much easier to come out of a loop
@skeablade
Жыл бұрын
Same!
@chetan9533
8 ай бұрын
How can i start practising these?
@FriskyTendervittles
8 ай бұрын
@@chetan9533 if you are able to go to therapy find a trauma informed EMDR therapist. If not, there are EMDR ball videos here on you tube but be careful because if you don’t have a practitioner with you to guide you you may not have as efficient results. Also the book Introduction to Internal Family Systems and No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz. There’s also an app for IFS but it’s not user friendly unless you are sort of familiar with the practice. Good luck.
@daryn2826
Жыл бұрын
Two weeks ago I had my first Anxiety attack and went to the hospital ….only to be let go and go to my Primary Doctor for some medication for my issue. I started walking and tonight I had another attack while walking and called the EMT just to say my heart is racing I need to learn breathing techniques before I pass out. Been feeling like I’m gonna have a heart attack . I’m starting this breathing and also your video on how to control your thoughts. Thank you for offering free advice, it’s already calmed me so much!!
@shannonsims8942
3 ай бұрын
You are always there when I need you ❤ thank you for these videos . I'm the most anxious type B person there is 😊
@janethansen9612
Жыл бұрын
That was a great analogy with the painting. I find curiosity is my go to tool when I'm feeling a lot physically which is how my anxiety manifests).
@emdobz
Жыл бұрын
How do I overcome anxiety and panic that upsets your stomach, to point of needing to rush to the loo at any given moment? So hard to break the anxiety cycle when your head knows what to do, but your body doesn't listen 😢
@ryank1273
4 ай бұрын
Same here, realizing that I'm a slow procrastinator, being about 1/4 century old, stuck in the days of steam and nuclear energy. Put myself in the shop being retrograded through anxiety and moderate stresses. Thanks for reminding me that I'm just a brain in a skeleton!
@stevec404
11 ай бұрын
Sequestering my feelings, not allowing most to rise and be recognized, put me at risk for the anxious and depressed state of mind I currently struggle to exit. Work through anxiety. Acknowledge our feelings. Root cause fixes that work. "Resistance is futile." Willingness is freeing!
@Dobetter15
7 ай бұрын
Emma you are truly gifted you have helped me so so much ❤ Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
@nadezhdavasileva4911
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Emma! Your content has been life-changing and extremely inspiring.
@jolapola696
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Emma for making this course on anxiety for us. I struggle with anxiety and avoidance after a severe trauma I experienced.I dont get support from my family and friends as they dont seem to understand how Im feeling and my daily struggle. Your videos help me a lot, when I listen to you I dont feel lonely with my anxiety.Thank you profoundly for all that you do.God bless.❤
@brendaf3132
Жыл бұрын
Yes, I seem to be in a similiar situation. None of my family understand my anxiety or how I feel. They just accused me today of being to negative. They accuse me of being condescending and I never feel condescending at all. I get accused of talking to long and saying more than they want. In other words they constantly tell me how bad a person I am. I don't feel hateful or mean towards other people and can't understand why my family think this about me.
@brendaf3132
Жыл бұрын
I don't know what avoidance is but, it sounds about right for me. I avoid confrontations a lot. I don't like revealing my feelings to other people because I know they will not believe I have those feelings at all. I have been treated that way.
@stevec404
11 ай бұрын
Paused @5:40...Massive bouts of anxiety fed by lifelong cPTSD and recent events brought me into freeze mode. Willingness sporadically came to the rescue...yet the anxiety and overwhelm kept returning. A missing piece of kowledge was that I could feel the anxiety as you suggest; and work through it without shutting down: a concept so effective yet so new to me that I find myself having to get used to it.
@petebergren2402
Жыл бұрын
Hi Emma, Thanks so much for this video! For many years, I have been stuck in not wanting to enter into social situations because I haven't wanted to feel awkward, anxious, or worry about what people might think of me. I am 39 now and am starting to realize that I can be assertive and I can learn to move towards that anxiety. I have a friend now who lives in the same condos who is much older than I am and I have talked to more people lately. It's a journey, but I am not going to quit! Thank you!
@dep7311
Жыл бұрын
Need this video a lot... I find difficulty in being at public events at school because I feel fear everytime I am near certain people and scared when I am surrounded by their fellow batchmates. Sometimes, I find it unexpected when I get an attack. I avoid it by listening to my thought and lied down. Gone for a few hours until the afternoon. Will watch the other videos and wait for the other 20+ later on!
@cosmickev7526
Жыл бұрын
Saving me one video at a time. Just when I think I’m winning the fight anxiety comes back and shows me to not stop training. Ty may GOD bless u and your loved ones also.
@aaronweatherson4379
Жыл бұрын
I like Dr Gabor Mate's acronym, RAIN: Recognize, Acknowledge, Investigate, and Nurture...
@arnoldoree
9 ай бұрын
My deepest thanks and gratitude for your ongoing caring, help, support, education, and empowerment toward those in some of the most difficult places known to life. God bless you Emma.
@adorablecats9891
Жыл бұрын
Emma, I have a friend who had 5-bypass surgery about a month ago. I talked to her for quite a while yesterday & she is having anxiety. I told her about you on KZitem & just sent this one to her. I can’t imagine that it would not help her. Sooo thankful for you & your ministering of your valuable knowledge & expertise of helping us out here.
@dawnbissett6732
Жыл бұрын
Hi Emma! You are a Leader. So many very helpful videos, aptly named. Easy to understand content, caring delivery. LOVING your look today. Best ever.
@Phoenix28ASMR
3 ай бұрын
The painting was interesting I love looking at things in a different way like art. The wall sit reminded me of childbirth exercises I took to learn to handle the pain of contractions. I like the deeper mental aspect.
@Reyrey-cn2qj
Жыл бұрын
emma u have no idea but you are saving my life . i hope only good finds u .
@nadinedurand9964
3 ай бұрын
I am so grateful for all the helpful content that you create. I went through a very difficult anxiety cycle while being a missionary in Japan. Watching your videos helped me to break the cycle and rewire my brain. Two years later I now find myself back in a anxiety cycle after my father passed away. Watching this course is helping me to again come to a place of being willing to experience my anxiety. Thank you so much for all you hard work. May Jesus bless you.
@chickydrummy
11 ай бұрын
From the bottom of my heart, thank you Emma. Your videos have helped ground me through many uncomfortable episodes. I look forward to watching more of them and exploring my resilience. Sending love and peace to anyone reading this. You can do hard things. You truly do deserve all the joys that the universe has to offer. 🌻🌺🌸
@aio370
7 ай бұрын
I cannot thank you enough for posting these videos. You have no idea how much you’ve helped ❤️
@CameliaTex
3 ай бұрын
Fantastic! I loved the experience of watching the painting. From discomfort, to judgement, then admiration of the skillful artist, then sadness when I paid attention to those eyes. Wow!
@robertomarquez1512
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for all you do! You help the world and, in my sphere, you have allowed me to cope sensibly and in a healthy manner. Being a 20 year Infantry veteran, you also allowed me to direct or help fellow veterans in positive coping mechanisms to our everyday issues. Thank you!
@umbertoyltp
Жыл бұрын
Striking examples to experience the various excercises and do something else than before!
@shadowlocos92
8 ай бұрын
You’ve really helped through dark moments, thank you.
@merinikolova5846
8 ай бұрын
I've just discovered this channel. Thank you immensely for helping us. ❤️🙏❤️🙏
@shivagoel6576
5 ай бұрын
Great video, great help.. I’m gonna make myself absolutely open to feel anything at all. I’m fine with everything as feeling feelings doesn’t harm me. I feel so relieved and relaxed now. Thanks 👍👍
@ronacademy23
Жыл бұрын
This is great advertising. I honestly would have never considered buying an anxiety course but after watching your videos, I’m really thinking I should for the first time. They have been extremely helpful. Thank you
@burgerxxl6115
Жыл бұрын
Maybe this helps someone: To distance yourself from whatever emotion arises so that you can curiously observe it without being consumed by it say to yourself „There is anxiety“ instead of „I feel anxiety right now“
@westingband
11 ай бұрын
Wow. I have been closed off to my feelings for decades. Awesome help.
@alexanderguryev2416
Жыл бұрын
Great video! Thanks so much for what you are doing to help people with anxiety. In my opinion, you could also precise, that when you confront your irrational fear, not only would it be good to experience your emotions willingly, but it would also be helpful not to seek an avoidance, waiting impatiently for the "scary" situation to end. For example, if one is scared of taking trains, it would be better for them not to watch impatiently the time, waiting for the situation causing discomfort to end.
@aise3722
2 ай бұрын
most of my life ive let my thoughts sway me. one bad thought could ruin my whole day. i think part of what made it so intense was my effort to try and stop those thoughts. i never realized the attempt at stopping those thoughts were what could have worsened it
@gember1382
Жыл бұрын
My mind keeps saying: "I know I have to accept and feel these feelings, but I DONT WANT THEM!!!" Sigh.
@christina7972
Жыл бұрын
Ask yourself why you don't want them while placing your focus on where in your body you are feeling them.
@Alphacentauri819
Жыл бұрын
The "I don't want them" focus and energy...can actually make them more stuck. Also, if you put a command of "I have to"...sometimes rebellion can rise up. What do you want? To be free from anxiety? To be empowered? Not a victim? Not in a state of helplessness? Shoot for that. Say, "I want to be free from anxiety, I will feel it, even if it is hard." Surprisingly, the resistance, can cause more suffering than actually allowing yourself to feel it, with compassion.
@Stellamamma
Жыл бұрын
Emma says you dont have to want them or even like them. Just acknowledge them and go about your business
@atelier27
Жыл бұрын
This is all great and I have learned for me a great deal of my anxiety is physiological: allergies, hormones (hrt helps all)along with many supplements. It hasn’t eliminated it but greatly reduced it. I have done an extensive amount of mind/body practices and they help, but most did little until i got the physical stuff managed now the mind body stuff can work. Hope this helps someone.
@stevec404
11 ай бұрын
That picture in the National Gallery. I, too had an initial response of revulsion that only lasted a few seconds. Then my own sense of humanity, untinged by judgemental Western ways, told me to look deeper. She has aged, as do we all. Current videos make fun of celebrities who have aged. Maybe this woman was beautiful in her youth. Maybe she touched people with a pure heart and spirit. I knew that after those first few seconds of near revulsion, my clearer thoughts would bring me to tears. They have.
@IanMcEwan-in3yx
7 ай бұрын
I HOPE WE GET THROUGH ANXIETY
@kkbutta7
Жыл бұрын
Girl, I think you’ve single-handedly saved my life
@ivanaminafra7613
3 ай бұрын
you are just great. Thanks. Helping a lot!
@amyhutto1104
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant! Thanks for sharing your wisdom, as always!!
@justaset
7 ай бұрын
Wonderful course and especially that video. Thank you so much 🙏 You are saving lives and souls ❤
@bayleemckittrick1899
11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. I love all of your videos.
@musethx1
Жыл бұрын
That was so helpful, thank you Emma!❤
@Tamtamabambam
Жыл бұрын
37 seconds in, man, you're a genius Emma.
@bigmac9488
8 ай бұрын
This point, about being willing to feel uncomfortable feelings, has been a big epiphany for me. I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to suppress negative emotions and feelings of anxiety, and in the past few months it has gotten to overwhelming levels - prompting me to finally take back control of my life and wellbeing. I felt my life getting smaller and smaller and thought to myself, is it worse to feel anxious in the moment but have rich, fulfilling experiences, or live a life of misery because I’m afraid to do absolutely everything? The past 2/3 weeks I’ve been learning to accept, even embrace, the discomfort of doing certain things that have recently made me anxious - and what I’ve found is that, once you are willing to sit with the discomfort and allow it to inevitably pass, what comes afterwards is genuine joy in the moment. I’ve had this happen on two separate occasions in the past two weeks and it has been truly enlightening. Suffering that momentary discomfort and pain is totally worth it for the fulfilment you can obtain afterwards.
@himeshsinghshishodiya
Күн бұрын
She's so strong wtf 😂😂 I died trying to match her wall-sit time 😂😂
@ahmedsabry3909
10 ай бұрын
thank you so much, this message is from Egypt. you are great and am grateful to you.
@TrialTappersMentalHealthTips
Жыл бұрын
Your teaching style is very impactful and helpful. I love the visuals and activities for us to practice.
@nicolas_-_-_
Жыл бұрын
Hello! Thank you very much for this new video! I'm gonna listen to it again and again.
@shisharupu
2 ай бұрын
I had to go re-watch the comparison video after this. I did the leg sit exercise along with the video, but I couldn't last for as long as you did, and I felt really discouraged by it. The pain was so intense, and my feet were slipping, and the thought of how long I could keep going was so loud I could barely focus on just being present and accepting the feelings and noticing other sensations at all. I felt like I wasn't good enough, that I quit when I should have been able to push through and keep going, and that I was doing a bad job of practicing willingness. After watching the comparison video again, I'm trying to focus on things that would help me, like wearing shoes instead of socks so my feet don't slip. And trying to focus on the fact that I was trying, and that's all that matters. But I admit, I still feel discouraged despite that. Like, at what point is quitting the exercise good enough and I've dealt with the discomfort enough? Or at what point am I quitting early and avoiding it? There's no answer there, and that makes me anxious. I don't want to be a perfectionist, but I also want to feel like I acted with enough integrity. As I keep learning and watching more videos, I hope I can figure this out.
@KGchannel01
Жыл бұрын
Good work Tapper, it gives me a little hope to have a mainstream reporter holding them accountable
@santhilampon
Жыл бұрын
love your explanantions and strategies to dealwith many negative emotions can you do another on how to dealwith resentment and envy
@melitalyell6915
Жыл бұрын
You are awesome Emma!!!!
@kristenross2902
Жыл бұрын
I have recently been having struggles with anxiety. It involved another person and how they were treating me. I realized they were trying to shame me and even though my conscience was clear I was taking up that shame and carrying it. Through answered prayer I realized this and know that I don’t have to give that other person power over me. What others believe about us isn’t always true ~ we need to accept valid criticism and reject the box others try to fit us into. We make mistakes, we change and grow and aren’t stuck. Others opinions are not in my control, and that’s okay. Lots of things aren’t in my control, but God uses the hard things. Romans 8:28
@KC-mj6eu
Жыл бұрын
You are an angel of light. Thanks for all you're doing to help sooo many people.
@TheNanco1
5 ай бұрын
Hi Emma! This is Nan. I just wish for you to know that I am finding this course to be helpful. You have my gratitude. Peace, Nan Cohen
@PlumbTuckeredOut
Жыл бұрын
I tend to be a very concrete person. I can intellectualize anything and everything. Can you (Please!!!) explain the phrase "Make room for" to me? I think I can "make room for ____" but again, what I think it means is often very different from what it's intended to mean! And THANK YOU so much! Your videos have been changing my world for the better! 😀
@koorigashi87
Жыл бұрын
@PlumbTuckeredOut Hi, I'm not Emma but I believe when she says "make space (room) for your feelings", it means that instead of trying to forget/supress/deny emotions, you should acknowledge them and intentionally focus on what you're feeling and what's happening inside your head. It's about making a mental space, so that you feel your emotions in a conscious, accepting way. Hope this helps!🙂I also find these videos immensely helpful, especially the anxiety course.
@DihelsonMendonca
8 ай бұрын
⚠️ This lesson in a nutshell means: Allow the present moment to be whatever it is. Don't confront your feelings, let it be, and you won't be bothered by it anymore. This is a great lesson from Jiddu Krishnamurti. 🎉❤❤❤
@namasteyourlife
4 ай бұрын
You’re so great. Thank you❤
@mn9120
Жыл бұрын
You are like a volleyball coach or sth. Ready-steady-go. THANK YOU.
@dadimunteanu
8 ай бұрын
You are a master of wall sitting, I’ve managed to stay for 9 seconds
@tonin2942
11 ай бұрын
I love these videos. Really wish another sponsor could be found.
@qianyu2999
3 ай бұрын
Strangely, the little video with the painting brought me to tears.
@asho615
3 ай бұрын
Me too
@kunalk101
Ай бұрын
Same, it made me sad I judged the kind old lady
@soniasamivillin743
Жыл бұрын
10:46 Yes, I'm cryng because my first thought was unkind. And, now I see she's an older lady with kind eyes and curious hands.
@indigoziona
Жыл бұрын
I love your videos, Emma! I recommend them to people whenever I can. Just signed up for the Grounding Skills course, decided I should probably wait until next pay day to sign up for this one 😅
@yessumify
Жыл бұрын
Love this. Can't wait to practice it and teach it to my children 😌 🤗 ☺️ ❤
@hrushikeshsundale4640
Жыл бұрын
Clear...simple... Lots of love and respect🙏
@amyjohnson9439
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Emma, Watching your videos regularly has helped me so much and is a great reminder to "get better at feeling"!
@1979France
6 ай бұрын
Summary of video number 5: 2:19: What is willingness to feel? Use the mnemonic PEACE: P-PRESENT: Focus on present moment. E-EXPLORE: Observe and describe emotions without judgement; use a beginner’s mind, a fresh point of view. A-ALLOW: Accept your emotions. C-CURIOUS: Be curious: What am I feeling? E-EXPAND: Be open towards your emotions. 5:47: “The Ugly Duchess” exercise: spending time observing something that makes you uncomfortable will make you more and more comfortable. 10:58: Wall sit exercise: stay in the present moment and describe your physical feelings. 14:02: Quote from Dr. Becky Kennedy: “At the core, anxiety is the state of being uncomfortable in your body. Not feeling at home in yourself and wanting to be anywhere else. It's the fear of a feeling, and it's only a problem when your rules say you can't have it.” 14:26: Stressful video exercise: watch and observe your emotions. 15:27: Mantras: I can feel this feeling and still be OK. I can allow myself to feel what I am feeling.
@Tyt130
8 ай бұрын
What a fantastic lady.
@yaircabreramenendez2825
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for all your content! Videos that explain what is happening in me and provide me with tools to manage my feelings/emotional states in healthy ways are so helpful for me.
@ChristianP6245
6 ай бұрын
Wall sit caught me off guard. My legs hurt now💀
@bunniewood
Жыл бұрын
Hi Emma. A lot of people are extremely stressed (some are even ending their lives) over the cost of living crisis that is happening everywhere. What advice do you have for people struggling in this economy.
@meehu2495
10 ай бұрын
Thank you for your page. ❤
@dawnshire2069
8 ай бұрын
Cherrish your life. Focus on your gain of happiness and growth of wisdom. Some of the people choose poems to release stress and anxiety, just dont exaggerate. Its stage 2 of recovery after breathing exercise.
@arabellathornton9386
9 ай бұрын
Great video your a gem 💎 I’m glad I found
@alankeni
Жыл бұрын
What about when anxiety comes at night when you try to sleep and then it becomes a fear, when you go to sleep you fear that anxiety will come and it won’t let you sleep :( I can manage it during the day but at night it’s really difficult 😞
@karenmcdonald911
Жыл бұрын
Yes. I agree. I have been there and it is SO DIFFICULT. For me I had to do some deep digging into what my deep fears and thoughts are. As each one surfaced I felt them and saw what they meant. It takes a lot of work. I truly know what you are going through. My thoughts and prays are for you in this moment. I pray you will find THOSE fears, SLAY THEM and be brought to peace.
@karenmcdonald911
Жыл бұрын
One more thought. I feel it is underlying fear that produces anxiety. Once we experience anxiety we become fearful. A vicious cycle begins.
@scrubjay93
Жыл бұрын
I take my laptop to bed and play KZitem videos to go to sleep - I need to keep my mind from dwelling on all the things making me anxious. There is endless content on any subject and also ASMR videos made to help people sleep.
@mindovermovement6401
Жыл бұрын
Yoga. Journaling..vipasana meditation..all d best
@cieraanne7556
Жыл бұрын
Hi there! I don’t remember where I watched it, but I remember a therapist saying that anytime you feel anxiety at night, specifically with sleeping, you should get out of bed until it calms down, only getting back in bed when you feel calm again. This teaches your mind that your bed is a place of rest and not for anxiety, helping with a fear of going to bed. I’m not sure if this will help you, but I truly hope it does!
@1616Marius
Жыл бұрын
Everytime when I try to feel in my body and be in the present moment, this observing shifts me into a light dissociation which I hate
@catarinafloriano9609
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for all that, thanks for helping you are wonderful
@quelpelosi
Жыл бұрын
I love this videos! Thanks!
@oanamat9888
Жыл бұрын
You are amazing! So grateful for what you offer to us! ❤
@peppywood01
Жыл бұрын
Oh….the woman in the painting turned beautiful!
@SonamSingh-sp6ey
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, ma'am💙
@SoCalRegisteredNurse
Жыл бұрын
Some of us (me) are going through perimenopause and the fluctuations of hormones and the increased cortisol and adrenaline surges makes it very, very hard because it’s not just my mind doing it. My body wants to kill me right now
@androidplus5786
Жыл бұрын
Can relate to this
@alixnorman7389
Жыл бұрын
Me too. So strongly. I've researched a great deal about hormones and anxiety, but I'd love to hear Emma talk more about it. I trust her.
@SoCalRegisteredNurse
Жыл бұрын
@@alixnorman7389 I agree. It’s not talked about enough, how women’s hormones can influence our mental health
@Stellamamma
Жыл бұрын
@@alixnorman7389can you share your research? Going through this too
@CarolGasses
Жыл бұрын
Know this well. Eliminated all caffeine and limited carbs along with any kind of sugar. Eliminated any alcohol…rarely had it throughout life. Anxiety disappeared at about 58. Had to lower stress! Added weights including more exercise and stretching. Lots of breath work. Waiting for saliva test results now. Insomnia. I’m guessing our modern food system and way of life is a contributing factor.
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