Vajtswv foom koobmoov rau koj os me vivncaus txog txij yus mus ua yuamkev los yus yeej tu siab txaus lawm os txhob tu siab mog yus nyob yus thiaj tsis muaj tus tsim yus lub siab mob os mog
@mollyyang1503
2 жыл бұрын
Sister, if I were you I will never stay with him regardless if he is a controlling guy or not. He didnt divorce you the first time because he wanted to mentally abuse you or wanted to hurt you back.
@hummingbyrde
2 жыл бұрын
The fact that he tried to kill her is worse than her cheating…Everybody is horrified that she cheated, but the kwv tij didn’t blink that he tried to kill her???? The only mistake she made was to return to him!
@dawbthoj8217
2 жыл бұрын
Yog koj mu lawm mu kom kawg txhob rov lo rau nw tsim os txiv neej tsi zoo li poj niam yuav zam tau txim os viv ncaus
@bazzthegoat-9909
2 жыл бұрын
I feel the pain of this story as I can relate. We go back because of our kids and in hopes that a person may change. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. We have to give it a second chance otherwise there will be regrets. Glad you survived and lived to tell your story. If you don’t love a person, please just leave. Cheating is never right and is a form of utmost betrayal. God bless.
@maiher6010
2 жыл бұрын
Lawv aw peb poj niam ces tsis muaj ib txoj cais li os,yog mus lawm ces mus lawm xwb mog peb cov mi vivncaus aw,
@hlubyang4072
2 жыл бұрын
Koj hais yog kawg yog muaj txiv es deev hluas nraug lawm ces txhob rov lo rau lawv tsim lawm...tau mus lawm ces mus kom kawg xwb txhob tig rov qab
@LinaLina-gv3hs
2 жыл бұрын
Never expect a man to love you second round after you cheated! If you cheat leave the relationship and never look back! You only return for karma smh
@peterthao4235
2 жыл бұрын
Niam NeejVam tus niam tsev ko yog ibtug Pojniam liam tshajplaws
@leahvon5905
2 жыл бұрын
It's ok, cov txiv dev tham hluas nkauj thiab yuav niam yau mas peb cov poj niam hmoob twb tsis tau phem npaum cas, tabsi yog peb cov poj niam hmoob tham hluas nraug mas cov txiv dev ua heev thiab dhia heev kawg 😆
@hmoobrasxeevchannel6649
9 ай бұрын
❤❤
@helenelao8855
2 жыл бұрын
Koj ua yog lawm tus niam tsev
@tsovtsistomtsov6064
2 жыл бұрын
Yog lawm nawb ib tsoom poj nioam Hmoob, txiv neej Hmoob ces qhia nej tias cov uv taus nej ces yog cov tuaj yug rau lub teb chaws no xwb, cov yug tim ub tuaj ces ceev faj mog, yog nej yuam kev lawm ces kav tsij mus kom kawg mog. Hais li xwb. Pab koj rhiab kawg.
@jhmongmusic2614
2 жыл бұрын
Mus lawm txhob los lawm os los yuav rov los luag tsis hlub lawm
@khialy1239
2 жыл бұрын
Yog Kuv ces koj mag phom kiag lawm nawb
@diayang8949
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating is never right. Yog yus tseem muaj neej na. Tus txiv neej uas tsi hwm tias koj muaj txiv ces txhob tham kiag. Nws yog neeg phem nws thiaj tham luag pojniam.
@choryang9860
2 жыл бұрын
Tus viv ncaus koj hais yog lawm yog yus tau mus lawm ces txhob rov qab los yuav lawm los ces luag tsim yus lawm xwb kuv yog koj ces thaum pib muab tau ntawv ces nrauj kiag es yus mus nrog tus tshiab lawm xwb cov txiv neej tsis hlub yus li ntawv yuav thiab nyob mus los tsis zoo dab tsi lawm es txawm li cas los koj twb muab nrauj tag Lawm ces zoo kawg tab sis lig zog rau koj lawm xwb os tsis ua cas txhob tu siab os nawj..
@siavang5637
2 жыл бұрын
We all grown adults. If both party can't live together just live separate no hard feeling. This is America not in laos anymore. I don't take order from anyone cause they don't live under my bed they don't knows nothing of whats going on in my life. When there's no love there's no point staying together. Glad you smart to moving out and moved on with your life.
@mickyyang6338
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating is never right, regardless of gender or for any reason. If you’re not happy, fix it or leave it. But I also understand that 2 wrongs don’t make 1 right, so therefore you were both wrong and hopefully this is a good lesson for you both to learn from. Good luck to you both.
@hmongoshmoob599
2 жыл бұрын
very well said.
@msmaix808
2 жыл бұрын
Lol people like him, you cant reason with. Always think hes right and never see his disgusting attitude.
@nkaujnouyang7610
2 жыл бұрын
Txiv neej never muaj lub zam txim rau ib tug poj niam twg li nawb. Es yog tau hloov siab taug txoj kev kov lawm ces Txhob rov qab los li lawm xwb hos. Peb cov poj niam thiaj zam tau lub txim rau lawv xwb. Hos lawv xam tsis tau rau peb pojniam li ov.
@emilyxiong4270
2 жыл бұрын
Cheaters will always get caught, don’t matter how smart you think you are. There’s a God watching over cheaters
@15kou1
2 жыл бұрын
Lub neej yog nyob tsi taus ua ke lawm ces cia nyias mus nyias, yim nyob ua ke ces yim mob siab thaum kawg yuav muaj ke phom sij xwb
@greenladylalaland4222
2 жыл бұрын
You killed a cow to wash his face off and made him looked good again? WTH?? Peb hmoob poj niam very low class! If you are the cheater, just leave quietly🙈🙊
@suabyalei8421
2 жыл бұрын
Ruam tshaj cas deev tau nrauj tsis tau es mus yuav tus hlub yus. Tos koj mag sim phom los nrauj niag phem xwb tsawm siv nyoo tsis nrhiav lwm tus. Cov poj niam ruam ces zaj twg los lub nyoo xwb.
@nouthao4669
2 жыл бұрын
Yog thaum koj txiv txim siab mus tham hluas nraug lawm ces txhob rov los lawm mas. Yeej paub tias nws Yeej tsi hlub yus li os. Mus lawm ces zoo thiab phem los txhob los lawm.
@naibmua8014
2 жыл бұрын
Yog ma yog kuv ce twb tsis los lawm os
@Zeb1245
2 жыл бұрын
I provided services to women and youth in troubled relationships when I was young. The type of behavior your husband has is what we called ‘charmed syndrome’. They are people that charm the pants off of their significant others, but will eventually be physically, mentally, and/or emotionally abusive when they have their partner(s) under their spell. When it comes to infidelity, one is better off leaving the relationship before jumping into cheating. One may never know what their partner is capable of doing to them, and there are such thing as ruthless side pieces, too, but that’s a different story for another day. Your safety matters the most and please continue to prioritize that.
@masaelee8989
2 жыл бұрын
Txiv neej mas dub thaj li nws mas yuav ib tug los ua ua qau npib tas luwm tseem rov qab yuav nws thiab poj niammas yog dev siabtiag li
@junelove3839
2 жыл бұрын
Lady, if your not smart enough don't cheat on your husband. Should of stand your ground and left his ass.
@dianeonyxiong9457
2 жыл бұрын
Txiv neej hmoob cov ntau yeej siab phem li hiam li no. Qhov koj mus cheat yeej tsi yog lawm tiag los mas tab sis yog coj koj rov qab los tsim xwb ho zoo dab tsi. Ladies learn from this story. If you cheat never come back . With Hmong men they never will forgive or forget. There is only one reason to take u back and the is to mentally and physically hurt you. Ladies if u ever cheat don't look back . Remember with Hmong men they think they have the right to cheat and expect the women to accept it.
@user-wn1bs4oc7b
Жыл бұрын
Miniam laus aw kuv yeej hlub koj kawg leej twg tsis nrog yus ua yus lub neej ces leej twg yeej tsis paub yeej xav hais tias yog yus tsis tsim txiaj xwb no tab sis kuv kuj xav hais tias ua ib sim neej xwb yus tau tus niag ua tsis txawj hlub yus es tsis ntau yus tiag tab sis kuj tsis txawj hais lo lus zoo ntxias yus lo lus hlub los hais yus thiab ces yus yeej kawg ntsib tus luag xa ntxias yus lawm ces kawg yuav yuam kev mus rau luag cov mus zoo xwb xwb li tsam no ces yuam kev lub neej tsis kawg lawm ces leej twg yuav hais li cas rau yus los kav liam mog txhob tu siab lam nyob li ko nrog koj cov mi nyuam lawv twb loj loj lawm ces tsis nyuaj siab dab tsi lawm mog
@sunnygirl973
2 жыл бұрын
Ruam UA luaj. Tseem mus tuas nyuj thov. Koj yog tus yuav nrauj es nws TSI kam ces tsum xwb . Yus muaj yus hauj lwm ces yus yeej tsis tuag lis os. Kav tsij ntxov nrauj zoo duas os.
@nengvang5883
2 жыл бұрын
This story make me cry.
@pajlisyaj1716
2 жыл бұрын
Deev hluas mas haj yam txaj muag tshaj qhov thov tus txiv naw
@chiliayang5832
2 жыл бұрын
Viv ncaus koj thiaj kam yuav nws xwb os yog peb cov tau ua txhaum ces kav tsij nrauj xwb zoo dua Viv ncaus kav tsij khiav kom deb li deb tau nawb txhob ntshaw tus txiv zoo li koj mus ntxiv lawm os viv ncaus
@ouradventuresnspecialmoments
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sure you've learned from your lesson...A word of advice, if your husband doesn't love & respect you from the beginning; he won't love you after the affair.
@autumnlossij-muas1490
2 жыл бұрын
Thaum yus txiav txim siab tawm mus sab nraus lawm ces txhob tig los saib qab lawm os mog. Txiv neej siab phem2 li.. yus koj tus kheej kom zoo2 lawm xwb
@donnietrump9517
Жыл бұрын
Lus txhawb siab ces yog siv Los nplawm koj daim tiab kom hle tbiab nrhab koj ceg xwb os!!
@bluewhisper5008
2 жыл бұрын
I don't have any friends after marriage too but I'm OK. My best friend is my husband and my kids.
@Thao22
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, it's true that she should have left if she was not happy..but it doesn't give this guy a reason to treat her this way.
@pajlisyaj1716
2 жыл бұрын
Txawm zoo li cas los yog tus txiv tsis hlub yus lawm ces nrauj ua ntej mam deev hluas es lwm tusxav yuav yus los luag thiaj tsis ntshai yus nawb
@txawjnyom3986
2 жыл бұрын
Poj hmoob aws tus hais lus mos2 zoo li koj ces xav ntxhias tsuav ntshuag xwb mas txiv neej thaum yuav nt
@HaibTshajHaib
2 жыл бұрын
Never go back if you cheated on your spouse.
@xaihlub34
2 жыл бұрын
if you want to cheat, make sure you don’t get caught at all or leave before you cheat.
@jackieyunan4899
2 жыл бұрын
Cov poj niam hmoob meskas es raug luag deev tag ces liam dhau lawm nej tseem yuav los txhob hlub lawm nawb cov kwv tij hmoob aw...
@neenimeow2826
8 ай бұрын
Yog cov pojniam tham hluas nraug es liam dhau lawm, es thaum cov txiv neej tham hluas nkauj ces yog thiab zoo heev los? Kuv xav tias thaum ob tug tibneeg tsi muaj txoj kev sib hlub lawm ces nyias mus nyias xwb. Txhob hais phem phem rau cov pojniam mas. Ua ntej koj yuav cem tias "poj niam hmoob meskas liam dhau lawm" koj twb xav zoo zoo lawm koj mas cem los? Los yog tias koj khib thiab chim tias vim peb nyob rau lub tebchaws muaj kev ncaj ncees rau pojniam thiab txivneej ibyam? Txawm yog pojniam txivneej los yeej muaj siab ntsws ib yam os.
@hmongreallifestory5293
2 жыл бұрын
You did the right thing by leaving him
@existencewarrior2920
11 ай бұрын
I like to hear his side of the story before I can pass judgement.
@kaoxiong6148
2 жыл бұрын
Only woman can forgive her cheating man…not too many men can ever forgive their cheating wives. It’s better to leave the man now rather then been in a lifetime of tortures by the husband. 😩
@juliesiong1351
Жыл бұрын
Cov me viv ncaus aw yog tus txiv tsis hlub tsis fwm yus ces nrauj kiag xwb Los ma ua nej pheej yuav nyob kom luag ua saib nej li tus tshiaj tus dev na!! Es txhob mus deev hluas li nej ma muaj ntau txoj ke rau nej taug os tsis yog mus deev hluas os nawb 😢
@kermoua6883
2 жыл бұрын
You should never come back to your husband. Divorce him after he found out you cheat on him.
@nkaujhmoobusa2116
2 жыл бұрын
Cheater should leave. Men and women who really want to cheat on their's spouse should divorce first. Zoo heev yog koj tus txiv tsis hlub koj cas koj tsis nrauj tsos mam tham
@minecraftboy2676
2 жыл бұрын
Sister, you should never have killed the cow and begged forgiveness for an @ssho to begin with. The marriage will never be the same especially with Hmong men. Only us Hmong women will be the one who can go back to live and love them to the same from the beginning even when they have been cheating and back to us. Your story is a lesson for us women to learn, thank you. Glad you have left the bastard!!!
@jolinaxiong571
2 жыл бұрын
Txiv neej hmoob ces yeej siab phem li ko
@xwmkabyang354
2 жыл бұрын
yog nws tua koj tuag los nws kawg mus nyob txim tuag lawm xwb mas nws tsis dim li od
@thengvang9553
2 жыл бұрын
Yus mus ua hauj lwm los yog yus nrog tej phooj ywg tham mas tsis txhob tham txog yus tus txiv los yus tus poj niam es yus pheej muab lawv nrhuav tias phem npaum ub npaum no rau cov phooj ywg mloog os. Yog koj pheej muab yus tus txiv li ntawv ces luag saib tsis tau yus ces luag yeej yuav ntxias tham yus nawb. Yog yus tsis yuav lawm no koj mam tham os. Txawm nws yuav phem npaum li cas los yuav tsum nrauj tso mam tham hluas nraug nawb thiaj tsis muaj chaw npam os.
@xeyang7542
2 жыл бұрын
Evil man. Cheating is bad but taking someone back just to torture them is pure evil😡😡😡.
@jackieyunan4899
2 жыл бұрын
Peb cov poj niam hmoob meskas ces yeej liam li koj ntag lau...
Two wrongs don't make a right. If forgiveness can't be given, it's best you separate. Glad you are strong enough to leave
@MissPeachie
2 жыл бұрын
If you have the guts to cheat, why don’t you have the guts to divorce your husband in the first place? If you were truly unhappy, should’ve just left. Cheating is never a solution.
@gogirl91v91
6 ай бұрын
That guy only wanted her back for revenge he is truly evil.
@suabnaglor9055
2 жыл бұрын
Pam xeeb tham tau cas ho tsis yuav yog thaum kuv txeev siab lawm mas kuv yuav tsum rauj tau mam ntxeev siab
@koklee8429
2 жыл бұрын
Your husband has all the rights right now.
@bher35able
2 жыл бұрын
Again, ladies and gentlemen Hmong men are King 👑. Hmong culture is catered toward men only and women have no rights, but to listen and obey. So sad and tragic to still be living in this kind of culture in this generation.
@dav5119
2 жыл бұрын
Too bad this woman cheated first. When women don't have rights, they may seem pitiful, when they have rights they are no better than men and worse. I don't feel bad for this niam dev.
@hmoobxwb7119
2 жыл бұрын
Only the Hmong people created that kind of rules-culture for them to live that.
@leahvon5905
2 жыл бұрын
That is why Hmong have no country, because Hmong men think they are the kings of all women's in between the legs, Hmong men are so busy focusing on controlling and owning the Hmong women's yummy clams that they can't build and control a property of country 😆 listen to all these Hmong men, all they do is take control of women's and how many yummy clams that they can get, and when they do decided to do something like the Hmong leaders they scam people for money that's all
@redfish3204
2 жыл бұрын
I guess this only happens in our Hmong community because it doesn't happen outside; it's all rainbows and unicorns.
@Zeb1245
2 жыл бұрын
Say that to the kaydoo and meska women that have a lot of not so nice things to say about the sexism from the men of their race 😂 At the end of the day, sexism sees no colors and creed and this is coming from someone who dated outside before and have witnessed a handful of Hmong women tolerating abuse and racism from their non-Hmong partners. It’s just they’re quiet about it. At the end of the day, we have to raise our sons to be respectful and teach our daughters to make wise choices in partnerships
@95leefamilychannel33
2 жыл бұрын
Only Hmong women will forgive men & not revenge. Hmong Men will never forgive women & will revenge. But there will be no more trust anymore.
@hmoobclassicsongs4864
2 жыл бұрын
Cov txiv neej thab thab cov pojniam muaj txiv ces zoo li thaub pheej no tos tsis tauv cov pojniam muaj txiv seev txog Txoj kev nyuaj ces txawm pib thab ntag os. Nej cov pojniam ruam ruam tsis paub txog cov txiv neej thab luag pojniam ces coj li no.
@katrinashong8171
2 жыл бұрын
Live your life. Lesson learn leave don’t cheat. He will still be the same with another women.
@chervang6550
2 жыл бұрын
Oyo twb pom xeeb mus deev hluas nraug lawm es tseem rov qab los thiab. Cheating still cheating no excuse here!
@kbx5793
2 жыл бұрын
Maum dev liam! Tshuav me2 ces plab tawg kiag haha .. nuam qhuav ntxim!
@kaitelecom4155
2 жыл бұрын
Mloog zaj dab neeg no tsua pom txiv neej hmoob phem rau poj niam hmoob lwm hais neeg mab suav pob thawj nplog mes kas mev dub cas kv pom txiv neej hmoob tsis phem tsim txom tsis cem poj niam mes kas mev dub li txiv neej hmoob cem poj niam niag poj niam ruam tas li xwb os hmoob
@ZLorchannel1484
2 жыл бұрын
Peb cov poj niam hmoob tsis txhob ua ruam tsab ntse mas thaum Yus txiav txim siab mus muaj hluas nraug lawm css txhais tau tias yus tus txiv twb die long ago hauv Yus lub neej lawm yus tsis need rov qab los lawm yog yus mus deev hluas nraug es tseem khuv xim Yus lub niag neej quav dev ces txhob mus deev hluas nraug xwb mas 😁
@vongyang5834
2 жыл бұрын
but if the men do it then it is fine and can have a second wife hahah... a good story to learn from.
@hmoobxwb7119
2 жыл бұрын
That’s how Hmong men are doing and that’s perfectly ok. Men will not tolerate if the wife does exactly what he did.
@nkaujhmoob86jual72
2 жыл бұрын
You should've file a police report
@haislustseeb9533
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating is still wrong. Don’t blame your spouse why you cheated. If there's no love in the marriage, please leave.
@phenglee3056
2 жыл бұрын
Kuv muaj ib zaj zoo ib yam li zaj no thiab cov tub tsis mloog lus leej txiv hais los tseem hu pus liv thiab leej txiv thiaj coj cov me nyuam mus sim phom tom hav npua teb thiab txaus ntshai kawg li nawb
@chang3568
2 жыл бұрын
Sister, u are worth so much more. Please leave that jerk and find your own happiness!
@owlpix8273
2 жыл бұрын
It is the Hmong women that continue to let Hmong men behave like this. They’re so weak and have no self respect.
@hmoobxwb7119
2 жыл бұрын
Totally true.....men do bad, disrespect and cheat because the wives tolerate their wrong actions, so they keep doing.
@PM-oe5mk
2 жыл бұрын
Cheating is cheating, it doesn't matter the reason. That being said, Hmong culture really needs to change regarding their attitude towards bad marriages and letting husbands off the hook when they cheat. If there is no longer love in the marriage, it's time to call it quits, and sort the kids afterwards. The reason why your husband was able to be so cruel to you was because he stopped loving you a long time ago, and he used your cheating as the excuse for his own cheating and scaring you with the gun. It's good that you finally left him, but you should have done that a long time ago, even before you met your boyfriend -- it's pretty obvious your husband didn't love you.
@kiabtoomlauj6249
2 жыл бұрын
When women (Hmong and/or non-Hmong) allowed themselves to be paid for ($1, $2,000, $5,000, $10,000 $100,000, etc), in a barter situation where they don't get to sit in on the table of bartering --- in the name of "this is how our culture always has been and always will be... and changing it or modifying it wouldn't be a a Hmong culture any more," ad nauseam --- women don't start out in life in a equitable situation. I am a Hmong man and I've held that opinion since I was young, decades ago. I still hold it. I've never married and don't want to. But for those who do want to get married --- again, especially women --- you must not allowed yourself to be bartered away like animals (as precious animals that cost tens of thousands or as cheap animals that cost only a pig or two, in over-all cost), you should NOT allowed men to argue over how much it cost for your "bride price" or other ritual costs. You, Hmong women, need to talk to your partner (Hmong or non-Hmong) and simply come to an agreement, between the two of you, as adults, how much you're willing to pay for a celebration to honor your commitment to each other, with both sides of the family BEING INVITED to the ritual of union of two people who are starting out in their life journey.... starting out as EQUAL PARTNER where BOTH get to decide whether the celebration should cost just $5 or $50,000... IN SHORT, the ball really is in Hmong women's court: you decide what you want to do with it. NO ONE --- Hmong, non-Hmong, man, woman, what-not --- is going to be able to PROPEL you, a Hmong woman.... against your will.... to be married to any one else (Hmong or non-Hmong) who gets to dominate you, subtly or otherwise, if you SAID NOT TO IT. The Hmong traditional BRIDE PRICE binds the Hmong woman to HER HUSBAND, with the husband HOLDING all the important cards: I PAY FOR YOU and I can DECIDE how to love you or not, how I treat you, MY WIFE... Again, ONCE YOU REMOVE THE BRIDE PRICE from the equation, Hmong men can't hold that BS over your head, as both man and woman start out one owing NOTHING to the other, not in actual payment and not in ritualistic beliefs. Both go into a union voluntarily and EITHER ONE could get out at any moment's notice, she he or she feel being mistreated. In such a situation, both will feel a certain need to treat the other with respect all time or that other partner will just walk away from the union. You can say: "But even in an American marriage, there are cheating and abuses." Yes, but those are OTHER PROBLEMS.... additional problems... in a marriage. They have nothing to do with one spouse having more power --- in reality and in psychology --- over the other because THAT ONE has paid for THE OTHER ONE's head "NQE TOB HAU" (bride price).... Please, note: while some Hmong... especially women.... are not educated enough to understand the difference between a "bride price" and a "dowry," there is a big difference: A BRIDE PRICE, like what the Hmong still engage in, is when a MAN pays X- amount of cash, to a woman's parent, for her head (AKA "nqe to hau"), whereas a DOWRY, as White people used to do (especially among upper class folks), is/was a situation/a practice where the woman's folks (parents, brothers, et al) needed to come up with a "package" (cash, property, or other valuable items) so that a WOMAN would look "attractive" enough to be "taken" by a man. Big difference. Again, some Hmong women apologists (for the Bride Price system Hmong believe in and practice) want to confuse the two, to mitigate, in their silly heads, the Bride Price and how it so vicious penalizes women from the start. THE OTHER REALITY: the DOWRY among White people NO LONGER IS PRACTICED; if very rich parents of women, today, want to give her (and her future husband) properties, cash, etc. it is TOTALLY VOLUNTARY these days. No "package" needs to be worried about or worked out with her father, grandfather, and brothers... so a White woman may be attractive enough to be "taken off of the hands of her family" like they/Whites used to do it in the past. Again, Hmong women putting their foot down, saying NO to the BRIDE PRICE (aka Nqe Tob Hau) WILL NOT solve other marriage issues (cheating, fighting, abuses, etc that all marriages and all cultures/people have); but that act (no bride price) WILL STOP Hmong men (or any other man who marry Hmong women) from believing they hold something over Hmong women and it is UP TO THEM ... in their twisted little heads... whether to love or not to love their wives. A guy having to pay $5,000 or $50,000 for a wife does NOT make him think "Since I pay so much money for my wife, I must love her very dearly, after all, she cost me a lot of money." No! That's not how it works! When a person pays X amount for a thing or a person, it just means he or she thinks, consciously and subconsciously: "I have rights and control over the person whose head I've paid a large amount... If she is loving, I will love her; but if not, I will treat her as I wish."
@hmoobkatemiddleton-not3711
2 жыл бұрын
@@kiabtoomlauj6249 I agreed. I don’t get the practice of the bride price in Asia and parts of Africa like the dowry practices from India to the old west. In the past, the “smart” Hmong ppl try to come at me and said that dowry and bride price are the same but they’re not. To hell, I know quite a lot of “educated” Hmong women that cannot differentiate those terms. They’re similar by definition, but are different bc one term is for women and the other term is for men. Also at the end of the day, most women’s bride price or the dowry that she gives to her husband will never be enough in the eyes of her husband and his family if he isn’t all that in the first place. Idk how many times I’ve seen stupid Hmong men used the bride price against their wife’s will. And I have an Indian friend whose ex-husband said that her dowry from her family wasn’t enough and it gave him the reason to mistreat her. She told me that in her community, most abusive men use the dowry against their wives if it isn’t enough. At the end of the day, both practices are outdated and I’ve seen it harm women more than it does with the men.
@leejmuam1
2 жыл бұрын
Lady. It doesn't matter. Stop using your spouse for your excuses to cheat. If you're not happy then you get out, get a divorce, and you can go find your happiness. Cheating is wrong. It hurts your husband or wife. You're not the victim here.
@kovang1840
2 жыл бұрын
No sympathy for you, if ur marriage was so bad then divorce the man before cheating, I hear the same excuses..
@kelbra3689
2 жыл бұрын
Easier said then done. Some men threatened to kill your entire family if you leave. This traps you in an abusive marriage with no way out. Finding someone that understand and support you during this time usually leads to cheating because it's too risky to leave.
@tswvloskavyaj1197
2 жыл бұрын
Most people said she made a mistake. It wasn't a mistake. For most people you can't fix it leave is better
@pkcyang2910
2 жыл бұрын
Ib niag txiv phem npaum ntawv ib kis nyiaj los nws suav zuj zus ces tsis yog txij nkawm lawm os. Tej txiv hlub nws pojniam mas nyiaj txiag tso plhuav rau nws pojniam tswj.
@cwaneng
2 жыл бұрын
ko tusj dej tsis dag li kuv tus dej..😆
@kerlee7536
2 жыл бұрын
Txawm koj tus txiv tsis hlub koj Los koj kun nrauj nws xwb cas ho xav yuav koj tus txiv thiab hi xav deev hluas thiab xuab dhau lawm os tsis Tim leej twg li os Tim maum dev xwb yog maum dev tsis co tw es txiv. Dev yuav ua cas nce na
@emilyxiong4270
2 жыл бұрын
No excuses!! Cheaters are always cheaters, don’t say you scared of men they scare of you cheating again lady
@tshuxeng5267
2 жыл бұрын
you should have divorced your husband or at least propose to him that if he does not change, you'll divorce him. there is never a right reason to cheat.
@meexb6368
2 жыл бұрын
Tim koj cov neej tsa dev thiab tsis hlub txog tej ntxhais tsuas xav txog lawv cov niag ntsej muag dev xwb. Zoo siab koj dim niag txiv dev ntaw lawm.
@juliehawj3385
6 ай бұрын
Cov neeg fav siab li koj ces yeej tsis hlub yus tus txiv tiag tiag. Koj lub hlwb me2 tsis ntse txauv
@MeeKaZKT
2 жыл бұрын
Lesson learned for you lady. You should have never come back to your husband if your husband was that bad. I feel bad for your husband but also for you. You cheated, he cheated then you guys are equal. Don't let your guilt eat you and make you any lesser than him. It's good you left him in the end.
@daovang6028
2 жыл бұрын
To the woman in the story : If you know your marriage is kindof going downhill, at least try to fix it before letting it go. Your mistake was that you cheated on your husband. What makes you think that coming back the second time will be okay. For example : If a glass of water spill on the floor, do we scrape it back up, No....We go and get a new cup. The reason why he let you come back was for him to punish you. Things will never be the same as before, your just lucky that you didn't end up on the news. We , as husband's and wife's will never forgive and forget after our spouse cheated on us.
@smileanjo
7 ай бұрын
It's baffling how almost everybody in the comments is focusing on the cheating wife rather than THE MURDEROUS HUSBAND. Nobody just wakes up and wants to kill somebody. He's had murderous tendencies. Even if she didn't cheat he still would've found reasons to kill her. Open your eyes, hmong community!
@hlh9393
2 жыл бұрын
Ruam nrog ruam ces kawg ib leeg yuav tsum liam.... Thaub lub hlwb nyob 75 tsis update . Hos thaub pojniam los ruam nyob under lwm twg cov lus, tsis muaj personality zoo li tus shadow xwb. Tsis muaj peevxwm ces kawg mag lawv dag yoojyim... Zaj story no ces the main problem is all about this. Ntuj es ruam yuav ruam...
@hmongremark2686
2 жыл бұрын
Poj niam muaj txiv liam li koj no muaj coob tus kawg thiab. Ib rab ntixig tsis pov koj khawv es koj thiaj need ntau rab ntxig kom kum koj yees txaus nkaus no mas koj yuav tau muab koj tus txiv nrauj ua ntej koj deev hluas thiaj chaws cai rau koj nrhiav ntau rab. Koj tus txiv tsis hlub koj ces koj thiaj deev hluas. Neeg liam hus nws kwj tse ces tham li no ntag. Koj tus txiv tsis hlub koj cas koj tsis coj nws mus rau nws cov kwv tij hais nws kom hlub koj.
@maoleekue1468
2 жыл бұрын
cov niag poj niam ua tsis tu cev ces ib nyuag txawj tu cev xwb twb pib deev hluag nraug lawm koj yeej yog ib niag maum dev cos tws xwb niag txiv dev thiaj nce ne
@txawjnyom3986
2 жыл бұрын
Yog li koj hais lawm os tus muam aw tau ua lawm ces ua kom kawg xwb nawb muab hais los mus mas koj tus txiv qia dub dhau lawm os tus niam yuav siv ib duas ob duas nug rawv xwb tus txiv qia dub li koj mas tau mus lawm ces mus kom kawg xwb mas nawb
@atheena5858
2 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear sister... niam txiv yog tias twb muaj 1 zaug cov nyom li no lawm txawm rov los..los tsis zoo lawm os. Mws yuav muaj qub lus coj los hais tas zog xwb. Yog nws twb lees koj riv qab es nws tseem tham hkuas nkauj thiab ces nws los yeej tsis zoo luaj twg thiab. Cov neeg tsis hais pojniam txiv neej txawm yog muaj teeb meet lawm nyob tsis taus uake naw. Xum nrauj zoo dua. Hope u find happiness sister.
@somman9639
2 жыл бұрын
Txoj mi kev uas niaj hnoob mus nrhiav hluas nraug rau ub rau no mas yuav tuag ib hnoob vim koj txoj ua phem xwb . Yuav txiv hlob txiv yau mas zoo rau koj uas tsis zoo rau ncov nraud nawb , xiv hlob mas nws npau taws ov vim nws mus pe pe koj niam koj txiv tej hlob tej laus huv si ais mas tau koj coj los puav pw naj ! Niag txiv yau mas cia li muab koj noj dawb dawb xwb tsis tau ua ib yam zoo rau koj li nav neb nyiag noj dawb xwb ne , txhob ghuas tias koj yov tus zoo no ov tus phem cais yog koj xwbkoj kav deev hluas nraug nws hem koj xwb nws tsis kav tua koj , neb cais tsis ghuas ib tug li os pauv tsis raug ntxiv li os
@leek-te5dx
2 жыл бұрын
Sister I'm so proud of you. I am glad you got rid of him. Find love again it never too late. Don't be with someone that treats you like trash. He is why you stray you were looking for love and support. I understand you.
@goldoral7848
2 жыл бұрын
Okay ✅
@Paulnhia68
2 жыл бұрын
Well deserved! If he doesn't love you divorced him then find someone who loves you, don't stabbed him in the back.
@SunsetBlvd85
2 жыл бұрын
Ok, so what if a man does it and expect the wife to be patient and deal with his BS? Typical Hmong boys way of thinking.
@thedark-_-lord8285
2 жыл бұрын
Lady….you should’ve leave him when u feel miserable being with him. When u betrayed ur partner, its really difficult for ur spouse to forgive or forget no matter how many years has it been. Once u decided to cheat, go all the way.
@kenjixiong4482
2 жыл бұрын
Before we can judge or a man or woman story, we need to put ourselves in their shoes, we need to listen to both party. I think cheating is still wrong, cheating will not solved the problem for both man and women, if you think your relationship is not working, move on....this is America, only you can control your future. Cheating is wrong for both man and women.
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