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@htp1146
4 күн бұрын
Very good video elaborating on the concept of emotional regulation that is scientifically recognized that this is the number 1 cause of procrastination. people don't avoid tasks, they avoid the feelings they attach to the task. the moment people can find calm in regard of the task, procrastination disappears.
@shane.melaugh
4 күн бұрын
That is a great way to summarize this finding about procrastination.
@beziehungstraum34
2 күн бұрын
I love the way life works sometimes. Today I was re-reading The Power of Now, the chapter on how resistance makes things more difficult. I am now hearing the same input from you. Thanks for the video Shane. And yes, I'd be interested in a meditation on letting go.
@shane.melaugh
2 күн бұрын
I love it when I encounter the same ideas from totally different sources like this!
@Running-Directions
4 күн бұрын
Great video, I've been struggling to come up with a suitable analogy to use with my running coaching clients to explain why they should "let go" of the outcome of a race as it ads unnecessary tension. Your "trying to sleep" example fits the bill very well. I will borrow that. Also interested in a guided meditation on letting go of trying.
@shane.melaugh
4 күн бұрын
I hope it helps! I think performing at a competition is an especially interesting case for this. It suggests to us very strongly that we have to "try", when in a way, all we can do is show up with the current level of training.
@bilbobeutlin3405
2 күн бұрын
Thank you so much, i really needed to hear something like this.
@shane.melaugh
2 күн бұрын
I'm glad it helped!
@Elythia
2 күн бұрын
Reminds me of my boss praising me for handling stress extraordinary well. My thoughts were "That's because I just don't give a f...!": When we have a deadline I just talk with my colleges about priorities and I try to optimise my workflow before I start. Then I just continue working, but it doesn't matter to me wether I can accomplish all goals in time or not. I know I did everything I could. And in the end it's not my company (and therefore not my problem). A missed deadline is usually manageable. Life will go on.
@shane.melaugh
2 күн бұрын
That's an interesting example! It looks to me like you correctly identified that adding stress and worry and fear doesn't do anything to help you do more or better work. I totally agree with "life will go on", I think we often are overly panicky about deadlines. It also looks like you're somewhat disengaged, like you're keeping yourself at an arm's length from the work and the business you're working for. Is that what it feels like to you?
@maritamatzk
3 күн бұрын
Yay, finally some productivity advice acknowledging this - against all the "no pain no gain" brainwashing we see ;). As a chronically over-tensed person I discovered the concept of "letting go of unnecessary tension" through bodywork. I am a former professional dancer and it makes so much sense. E.g. Strala Yoga is building on this principle and I love how you can practise "letting go in order to accomplish more" on the mat. Gives an awesome reference point for real life & work. Shane, I would be very interested in the meditation practice you talk about!
@shane.melaugh
3 күн бұрын
Ooh, interesting! I've never heard of Strala Yoga before. Another thing to look into!
@maritamatzk
Күн бұрын
@@shane.melaugh BTW thanks for the laugh your title section on YT just gave me: specialisation is for insects. I will use that line a lot in the near future 😂
@shane.melaugh
23 сағат бұрын
@@maritamatzk look up the full quote. it is amazing!
@maritamatzk
19 сағат бұрын
@@shane.melaugh I did and it is! Apart from the "plan an invasion" part for me. Do you recommend the whole book?
@shane.melaugh
6 сағат бұрын
@@maritamatzk I haven't read the whole book.
@caioscofield
3 күн бұрын
letting go of trying and not overworrying are very different. you should absolutely not stop trying.
@shane.melaugh
3 күн бұрын
Can you elaborate on this? What do you associate with "stop trying" that makes you say we should absolutely not do it?
@caioscofield
2 күн бұрын
@@shane.melaugh IMO "trying" is intrinsically connected to motivation/drive.
@shane.melaugh
2 күн бұрын
@@caioscofield ah, I see. My experience of this is that motivation/drive are also free of tension. I'm driven to create things, for example, and it really takes no extra effort or tension. That motivation is just there. In fact, it seems to be there whether I like it or not.
@michaela-thiede
5 күн бұрын
Yes, it seems to be counter-intuitive, but it's true. If it's hard to let go, you can "just let it be ... " without engaging, and eventually loose interest. Do you know Jamie Smart's book "Clarity: Clear Mind, Better Performance, Bigger Results"? It speaks to this phenomenon.
@shane.melaugh
4 күн бұрын
I'm not familiar with it. Do you recommend it?
@michaela-thiede
4 күн бұрын
Yes, I highly recommend it.
@shane.melaugh
3 күн бұрын
@@michaela-thiede Thank you, I'll check it out!
@harshitasareen
3 күн бұрын
Me with chores 🥲
@shane.melaugh
3 күн бұрын
Haha, guilty as charged
@8enable
4 күн бұрын
thought provoking
@maxandreasen1690
4 күн бұрын
Overall, a very interesting topic! But there's one thing I don't really understand. Clearly, there is a correlation bewteen well-being and the "flow-state". But how can we make the assumption that the "flow-state" would cause the well-being and not the other way around? It could even be argued that it would make more sense to have it the other way around, that general well-being would cause more frequent "flow-states". Maybe there's more to the source that you displayed in the video that I'm missing here?
@shane.melaugh
4 күн бұрын
That's a great question! I don't know if this has been studied formally, but my understanding is this: there's been a bunch of research into flow states and what triggers them. Or more precisely: what conditions make flow states more likely to occur. And from that research, it seems that general well being is not a major factor. Flow state triggers are things like: clear, direct feedback, challenge level matched to skill level, clarity about the task at hand, no distractions, a sense of autonomy etc. Of course, there's going to be a causation from well being to flow at some point. Presumably, if you're deeply depressed, that makes it harder to access flow states, for example. But from my understanding (and also my personal experience), within a pretty wide range, general well being doesn't seem to impact flow states as much as the other way around.
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2 күн бұрын
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