There's nowhere to hide when my writing is staring back at me.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
That's a great quote! I might have to use that...
@andreapisac
Ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing this, Shane. I’ve been a long-time follower of yours and I really appreciate your newest content. As a fellow overthinker, I was so surprised to learn that when I got a dog and began training her in various dog sports, I experienced so much awakeness. Dogs are dynamic animals who communicate in body language 99% of the time. Being tuned into what they are saying to us through subtle changes of the body or how our body language influences the dog can keep you in the present moment. I always feel relaxed and grateful for being alive after such sessions.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
I love this! What a great way to learn getting out of your mind! It's incredible how much animals can teach us, isn't it? I've never had a dog, but I've learned so much from the cats I grew up with and have had in my life.
@valniles6100
Ай бұрын
Thank you for being so open and, yes, vulnerable. Few people in your space are willing to take the risk. I have several close family members who experience depression. I want to help but don't know how, and I don't feel qualified. I haven't experienced what they describe. So I listen but feel helpless. I am a "fixer," and I don't want them to hurt. I look forward to your introspective writing course. I have so many physical challenges, and it does drain the brain! I am sorry for your challenges and appreciate you for helping others.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
That is tough. I know the feeling of helplessness when someone is suffering and you can't do anything even though you really want to. I think it's important to remember that it is really not your responsibility. You can be present and loving towards those people in your life but you don't have to (and can't) fix them. As for me, don't be sorry for my challenges. I regret nothing and I've ended up drawing strength from even the worst things that have happened to me.
@DougLietz
Ай бұрын
Awesome video Shane! Definitely optimizing my KZitem feed... in case the Algorithm God's are listening 😁 As an overthinker myself, who has spent more time than I would like to admit, at a point below centre on that vertical access in your diagram, your message definitely resonates for me. However, as of late without realizing it, I have been spending a lot of time in your quadrant II awake-active zone with the writing and journaling that I do... but now with an AI twist. For a long time I have used the "Morning Pages" approach for putting myself into that introspective mode, and am often amazed I end up. Now with AI, I've managed to take my introspection to a whole new level. Instead of pen to paper writing or typing, I just pick up my microphone and start rambling, sometimes with a purpose in mind, but often times not. Then I click a button and an incredibly accurate transcript is generated instantly. That transcript is plunked into ChatGPT with prompts to clean it up and make sense of my thoughts... again with incredible accuracy and intuitiveness. I end up with having all of my digitally captured insights archived into second brain PKM system, which is also powered with AI based search that works incredibly well. I think I've said incredible 3 times... because this really has opened up the floodgates for me, in a very manageable way. Anyway, after listening to you in this video, Shane, I can see that what I am doing fits very nicely into your definition of active meditation. Combine this with a walk in the forest or sitting on a rock staring out at the ocean with your dog sitting by your feet smiling inside with no judgment whatsoever (thanks @andreapisac for the "man's-best-friend" reference)... well... life is good... at least more often that not 🙏
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
Wow, a rare case of getting actual use out of AI tools! I have tried something similar, but my results have not been as good as what you describe. An obstacle for me is that my phone's mic doesn't work properly but I've been too lazy to do anything about it 😅 But you're encouraging me to give this another try. I have been wishing for some process that turns my ramblings (indeed ideally during a nice forest walk) into something usable.
@DougLietz
Ай бұрын
@@shane.melaugh I've found that the native voice dictation on phones is less than ideal in terms of accurate transcriptions. After trying a few different third party apps, I discovered one called VoiceNotes which is still in Beta... it's from the same developer(s) that created the BuyMeACoffee app. There are several things that I like about this one, starting with the fact that they are doing a REALLY good job of customizing their AI to NOT mess with my thoughts by putting words into my mouth. Some of the apps I've tried get way to "creative" with their interpretations and embellishments... not exactly what you want when you are wanting to be "intro"spective. The Voice notes app has a nice range of "levels" of processing, depending on what you are wanting... from cleanup... to summaries... to main points outlines... which are the features I mostly use. But they also have repurposing functionality that allows you to create ToDo lists from your ramblings... plus email copy, tweets and even expanded blog post content. Oh, and another thing that is really good is that they have a pause button, which I have not seen in any other app. So, if you get interrupted during a recording session, you can hit pause and then come back to continue recording right where you left off. Recording time is limited to 20 minutes per session... but... if you end up talking past this hard limit, the app automatically starts a new session without missing a beat. It's a bit of a manual process to stitch together multiple sessions, but I'm guessing they'll address that at some point. Downsides... it's in Beta, so I've had to put up with some bugs... and the skeleton team is not always quick to respond. But all in all, I'm lov'n it. Added benefit, we now use it for all of our internal team meetings. No more relying on memory to manually record detailed notes after the fact, where misinterpretations can sometimes be an issue. After the meeting, just click a few buttons and everyone has multiple versions of what went down... from the raw mp3 recordings... to a verbatim transcript... to a very well written summary... to main points bulleted out... and even a to-do list of next actions to take.
@DougLietz
Ай бұрын
@@shane.melaugh I responded to your last comment Shane, with some feedback about the app I am using in my new voice based journaling workflow.... but I see it got deleted 🤔
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
Nice, thank you for the recommendation!
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
KZitem does tend to delete comments pretty randomly. But I do see the one where you mention the VoiceNotes app.
@michaela-thiede
Ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I describe the up and down of the mood with the analogy of an elevator. When you’re in the basement, everything looks dark and you can’t see light. The view is different from the 5th floor. But you can’t find that view from the basement. Thanks for mentioning that you've experienced a wide range of the spectrum. I recognized, I do, too. I've been in a very dark place for a very long time. Do you know Jack Pransky’s book: Somebody Should Have Told Us!: Simple Truths for Living Well It came to my mind whilst watching your video.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
That's a really good analogy. I'd add that because it's so dark in the basement, it's hard to even find the elevator door down there. I haven't heard of that book, but I already love it from the title.
@michaela-thiede
Ай бұрын
@@shane.melaugh If you read it, please let my know if it was helpful. I experienced the same with meditation. I got even more in my head, wanted to make it “right”, wasn’t able to concentrate and got in a lower mood. It was like shaking the snow-globe to expect it to get clear. 🤪🤪
@JonasNielsen
Ай бұрын
Great video Shane! As an overthinker myself I've never felt the appeal of meditation, so seeing the active side of the graph gives a great new dimension to consider.
@QuietHamster
Ай бұрын
What I have discovered is that mindfulness is equal to being awake, being conscious. And it's a physical thing in the brain. Studies are clear that being mindful quiets down the activity of the DMN (Default Mode Network). The DMN who is associated with rumination. (Thanks for Shirzad from Positive Intelligence to put the spotlight on this, and Gary Weber too) I have done 3-min mindfulness exercises (only 3-min at a time) for a few years now, and it did work for me. I can snap out quickly of negative thoughts. And by adding Bilateral Eye Movements to quiet down the amygdala to my 3-min sessions, that reduced a lot of my stress. (Thanks to Huberman on KZitem for sharing the research on that) The challenge is to believe in it enough to get started, and to stick to it long enough to have a long-term effect.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience with this! Bilateral eye movement is super interesting. I've not experimented with it myself, but I read about it and it's one of those things that's just fascinating. So simple and it seems to have such a strong effect.
@QuietHamster
Ай бұрын
@@shane.melaugh Yeah, that's why EMDR is popular, it works great for single-event PTSD. But I created my own exercise routine using Eye Movements, and I got rid of lots of my CPTSD symptoms. Here's Huberman talking about it: kzitem.info/news/bejne/mYp9x6ymmqWVoKw
@mikalsen4
Ай бұрын
This video got me thinking of a practice I've done on and off which has really made me more present and more in touch with my true self. I struggle quite a bit with social anxiety, without it really being that noticeable to anyone else. It makes me go numb and focus inward, and that has been my habit for a long time, most of my life probably. The practice I've started doing is to go down into my body and "soften" it up, making it become more tender, and in that way become aware of the physical sensations I'm feeling. Often, it's a soup of uncomfortable sensations in my chest and belly. But often enough, those physical sensations are tolerable, and they lessen over time. Which makes them not so scary. So the practice works as a form of exposure therapy. Also, by being with those uncomfortable sensations, I am able to be with my emotions and my energy, which are in there along with the discomfort. I've recently started combining EFT or tapping along with this, a practice which seems kind of pseudo sciency to me, but seems to really help lessen the physical sensations. I've noticed I've become way more present around other people when I've practiced this consistently. Sounds like giving voice to those sensations in a journal also could be useful! Thanks for the video Shane, it makes a lot of sense to me!
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! I can relate to that feeling of numbness or shutting down. It's a response I have to certain situations as well. And I totally get what you mean by softening, internally. I've had a similar experience where it feels like some of that tension softens or melts when I just pay attention to it and stay with it.
@psychitsjames5302
Ай бұрын
EFT has a tonne of peer reviewed evidence for anxiety and stress based 'conditions'/experiences. It feels pseudosciencey but is a great way to work with anxiety. I use a lot of it in my work with clients & I find it to be a great way to become more comfortable with these feelings.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
@@psychitsjames5302 dude, I did EFT a bunch of times ages ago! brings back memories. in my opinion the first thing they do, the "I deeply and completely love and accept myself" part before the regular tapping? that's GENIUS. I half suspect that this is where all the benefits come from.
@psychitsjames5302
21 күн бұрын
@@shane.melaugh it's certainly a helpful frame to take. For some this can create resistance as some DON'T *love and accept themselves* so for those people I say I accept that I feel x or that y happened
@adamj2683
3 күн бұрын
This is excellent. This sounds like Vipassana (Goenka tradition) or like Voice Dialogue, or like Focusing (Gendlin).
@Moons_mooniverse
Ай бұрын
Hi Shane, first of… it’s important that you exist and it always has been! Thanks for the video :) I’m sure you heard about the Blue Zones (areas in the world where people live the longest). One thing that they all have in common is a deep sense of community and socializing. The impression I had over the years is that it seems that you spend a lot of time alone. Maybe I’m wrong and this is just your public persona. I personally find it very valuable to have a partner that I live with together. Having lunch together and just talking (obviously without being on the phone or doing something else). While I love introspective writing (from your silence the mind course) I find that a quick focuses 10/15 min chat with my partner helps getting from numb to wake a lot.
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
Thank you for your kind words! The Blue Zones idea has been a big source of inspiration for me and you're absolutely right that community and togetherness are so key to human thriving. This is actually a topic I will be making some content about as well. A lot of my work "away from the cameras" has been going in this direction.
@williemoore3162
Ай бұрын
Great video you have ☺️
@renebresar
Ай бұрын
Very interesting
@Tispaccoilculo92
Ай бұрын
Algorythm is scarily sharp: this is exactly my dilemma rn. I have lived an enourmous shocking delusion recently, and I am an overthinker, hyperrational, kinda scared. Not depressed luckily. I don't know what to do, because i would like to act in a logical and sharp way, but i have always hidden my emotions behind my reasoning. I fear to act impulsively, and i fear to act logically and push forward the barrier to my emotional side. At the end i'm trying to take my time to clear my mind, feels like impossible and kinda wrong, but i really don't know what to do
@Tispaccoilculo92
Ай бұрын
Note: i wrote this halfway the viewing, so i don't really know what you are about to say. It's funny tho i reacted to this trauma looking for the most positive outcome, and coincidentally it includes meditation and journaling
@shane.melaugh
Ай бұрын
I'm glad you found your way to this video. I don't know your whole story, but I think there's a good chance this will take a positive turn, because you're clearly already doing a lot right. You are aware of your patterns and tendencies, you notice how they're probably not going to help in this situation and you're looking to learn from the challenge you face.
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