If only Narcissism was a syllabus taught in school, so many of us would have been able to identify the red flags before it is too late.
@MeCynthiaAnn
Ай бұрын
No matter how hard you try to connect with a narcissist, it is like watering a plastic plant. No matter how much watering and nurturing you try to do, it will never grow. Thank you Darnish for all your videos. From JANESVILLE, WI
@angeldee7287
Ай бұрын
😅 ❤ yes. Great analogy! Take care 😘💪🏼🙏🏼
@silviap.2650
Ай бұрын
...like watering a plastic plant... I love that, so true!
@fdog4533
Ай бұрын
I'm always waiting for my narc sibling to leave for work so I can play video games, watch TV, and chill in my house in peace. Without dealing with their Damn Narcassism
@user-df3eo9qx9p
Ай бұрын
Life is short....Time is valuable.....Love is sacred.... but Abuse is Abuse....Choose wisely. Thank you Danish.
@nrrr-e2f
Ай бұрын
I suppose many people don’t have an idea about narcissisim unfortunately. Empaths cannot easily identify a narcissist (i.e. a monster who looks like a good person) unless they experience it and increase their awareness about narcissism and self-worth. A narcissist can cause immense pain. That’s why an empath has to stop caring about someone who is definitely not worth it. In my opinion it’s not the fault of the empath. Rather it’s the narcissists’ fault who is constantly abusing and manipulating. So don’t feel guilty, forgive yourself and leave the narcissist to Gods’ justice.
@chitramarathe7619
Ай бұрын
Absolutely right......I have now realised that it's the problem with the narcs..... and not me.....thank God.... I'm not that bad one..... even God punishes them....poor souls
@mavjimbo
Ай бұрын
But when you do, you get it
@chitramarathe7619
Ай бұрын
@@mavjimbo but till then, they have eaten years of one's life
@donna-colorado8443
Ай бұрын
I did all of that with my husband of 30 years. Have been free of him for 8 years now.
@ladijefferson5923
Ай бұрын
Amen amen 😢
@pheart2381
Ай бұрын
Letting it go is an achievment. It means you are no longer emotionally trapped.
@fdog4533
Ай бұрын
I'm pissed off at my narc sibling, because they gave me the cold shoulder simply because I stood up for myself. What did my narc sibling expect?! Did they think I was gonna let myself continue getting stepped on? No! Screw that!
@pheart2381
Ай бұрын
@@fdog4533 I broke with most of my family. They are no loss and can continue their sad little narc lives. I don't really care.
@therealaayan
Ай бұрын
It's been two years since I discovered narcissism. I've watched every single video by Danish and other channels, and I've done extensive research on narcissism from its origin. Nowhere have I found anyone who says that narcissists can change. They never change; change is not in their DNA..
@fdog4533
Ай бұрын
No matter how old we get, my narc sibling still annoys me like they did when we were kids. Imagine the oldest in your family acting like a Toddler
@ValerieELacaria-qp7wm
Ай бұрын
Thank you Danish, you are describing my marriage of 43 years. I waited too long. He had fits of rage, was Jekyll/Hyde. For years, he hid it from our kids and family. We were high school sweethearts. In April 2023, I had enough. It took a domestic violence protective order for me to get him away from me. It was no contact for a year. Funny thing, 5 days after I took out the order, he slapped me with divorce papers. At mediation in December 2023, he wanted to reconcile. We are still on a mediation pause as the courts are backed up. He was required to do several things. There still has NEVER been an ounce of remorse, no cards or letters admitting his guilt. He tried to kill our adult son with a chainsaw, then a ballpine hammer. He violently said he was bliwing all of our heads off and burning the house to the ground. His eyes looked dead, like a monster. Thank you for making these helpful videos. I do feel the healing begin and continue. May the Lord Bless You Always. Valerie
@MeCynthiaAnn
Ай бұрын
A relationship with a narcissist is like having an empty electrical outlet. The cover is there, but nothings in it. God bless you always Darnish From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
@maljanfazilahmed2743
Ай бұрын
This is true.... Or bad things have happened... You say next time... Or you're waiting for something worse to happen. And yes we are full of hope as empaths... They will not change
@carparthero
Ай бұрын
never regret being a good person, to the wrong people. your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says enough about them. just don’t make the same mistake 2x with the same person, especially with a narcissist. the only good thing from dealing with a narcissist, aside from when they exit your life, is the experience and knowledge you gain so that it doesn't happen again. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@angeldee7287
Ай бұрын
No they won’t. So how do we change? How do I STOP being so damn forgiving? It hurts 😢
@fdog4533
Ай бұрын
Imagine them taking your other siblings to a movie, and even though they invited you, you don't wanna go(cause you're done with the Fuckin Narcissism) whats the narc gonna do? The narc looks at you like you're crazy for not wanting to go.
@joseannedube5489
Ай бұрын
It's like watering a plastic plant. No matter how much you pour water in the plant, it won't change a thing.
@carparthero
Ай бұрын
once you know the science of toxic/narcissistic behaviors. imagine how much time and happiness you can be able to enjoy elsewhere, if you leave a toxic relationship after the 1st red flag and never give them a 2nd chance. compared to when you didn't know about toxic behavior. going back to the narcissist, is like failing an open book exam, where you already had the answers to the questions. keep moving forward, don't look back, you're not going that way. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@user-df3eo9qx9p
Ай бұрын
Well said
@Baby-o4h
Ай бұрын
As soon as I get enough money the responsibility of me leaving the narcissist will be in action. I understand I didn’t need to put my explanation here but I figured might as well be direct because this is what it comes to for a lot of people.
@jshelley4592
Ай бұрын
Why is it always the money ? That's why I'm stuck too. 😢
@AmandaMiddleton-ul9ek
Ай бұрын
I'm like you, when I get enough money. I thought that would be this month but he got about half of my money. Now, I'll have to wait longer. I had asked for help but my help, my best friend, died from cancer last month. She was my only true friend here. My husband died over 2 year ago. Didn't date for a whole year then met this man. He had us all fooled. Even my mother, before she died, thought he was a good man. Come to find out, I'm just one of many women, along with a wife of about 20 years, that he has broken mentally, physically, and financially. Most of them won't talk about it openly for feeling ashamed and fear of retaliation. I'm an empath and didn't know what that was until recently, just like I didn't know what a narcissist was. He has drained me of my physical energy, my sanity, I question my own words and deeds so much I don't know what is going on sometimes. I have moments of clarity and feel like an animal trapped in a cage. He's hit me before, more than once. My best friend, before she died, saw the bruises. She told me to get out now. I had nowhere to go, no money, no energy. I stay tired all of the time. I have no family here. I feel so alone. Others have told me to leave. They see it too. It's easy to tell someone that. It's sometimes hard to be able to do so when you're beaten down and told your are nothing, you are no good, no one will believe you, your imagination is running wild, you're a drama queen, you're overreacting, you are just starting an argument because you are mean, etc,etc. Someone asked me if I really saw myself Ina long term relationship, say 10 years from now, and I said I didn't know. I doubt I'll even be alive in 10 years now. He knew I had health issues. I was upfront and honest about the when we started dating, and he said no problem. I went into anaphylaxis one night and he took me everywhere but the emergency hospital room. He rode around in the car with me yelling at me to wake up, use my rescue inhaler. He wouldn't use my epipen on me. He didn't even tell the police officer who told him he had to stop yelling and cursing in front of a nursing home with me unconscious on the sidewalk that I had an epipen. He told me he panicked, and maybe he did, I don't know, but I do know I became conscious again on the sidewalk with the police officer doing chest compressions on me. I got a couple of cracked ribs from that, but at least I'm still alive. I'll leave next month, try to save what little money I have left and try again. Hopefully I won't have another attack of anaphylaxis again any time soon. God bless you and keep you safe. Maybe we both can climb our of this hell like situation that is our so called life. Good luck and I hope you find the courage and money to get out today. 🙏
@Baby-o4h
Ай бұрын
@@jshelley4592 it’s used for power and control. They do this in multiple going into hundreds of ways that this can be used and is used in about 95% of abusive relationships and dynamics
@shellshelly1489
Ай бұрын
Same boat 😢
@Palatana24
Ай бұрын
It happened with me, red flags started hoisting just three months in our relationship but kept hoping he will change only to be discarded laterwith a child. Leave at the very first red flag emphaths, narcissist are evil and never change. Peace be with you all empaths🎉❤
@user-qv9nw1dq2f
Ай бұрын
I totally agree with you. Everything you said is spot on. We have no right trying to change another person, but we can and should leave the toxicity that is poisoning us.
@tammyhollis1519
Ай бұрын
I haven't left because I hope he will be a better person. I KNOW he won't change because he told me he isn't changing anything.
@kerrieoneill8165
Ай бұрын
Sitting in the guest bath (so HE can't Danish) after being water boarded with the garden hose on Father's Day by narwhal husband, I came up to the porch to beg for him to dry my soaked things. Reasonable request? He slammed out of the security screen door THROWING ME to the sidewalk. Get OFF MY property! To be fair he didn't break my back, he ONLY pushed me down so hard, my spine disconnected in THREE places! As he tells it "I fell". My doctor🤔 was astounded that I had driven myself to hospital. It's AMAZING the control they have over us😔
@wendyg.2664
Ай бұрын
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I wish you peace and safety. 💗
@megandavis324
Ай бұрын
Wow! This short video gives so much depth into the cycle of the abuse. You have such a great way of explaining the struggle 🙏🏻
@eleonorabartoli2225
Ай бұрын
I think it's the fear that they put in your mind, they do not have to harm you physically, they just make sure you know it is always possible.
@AnnaMartins-dt5we
Ай бұрын
This is so TRUE!! Those gaps between arguments and disruptive behaviour, those days in which we get back on our own two feet and fell free! Silence, peace of mind, doing whatever it needs to be done without criticism, we feel so much better!! It’s an illusion!! We are as you’ve mentioned: lying to ourselves We are simply wasting our own lives. Narcissist destroy our clarity of reasoning. Thank you for your truthful words!!
@user-is2kg3qi6m
Ай бұрын
Again ….. this is very true !! I am always told it’s all me..
@erinhanna6323
Ай бұрын
You are spot on! This is the exact conversation I had with myself almost every day for 30 years and then finally the big thing happened and I got out. Sometimes I feel anxiety for no obvious reason, usually when I am going back home afterwork even though that person is long gone. I literally have to breathe, to consciously pay attention and name all the things I see and hear...mud on my shoe, the heat from the sidewalk, or the hum of the car's AC. I do a little inventory of what possible danger I might be in, or not, from each and everything I notice one at a time. After a few minutes of this little brain break I always wind up feeling reassured, more relaxed, and connected to the world again.
@dexy05
Ай бұрын
Danish! This had to be your best video so far... I have watched all your videos... Nothing to beat this one... I have watched it over and over again. The sooner one realises a narcissists the better it is! The guilt is immense later.
@irinakushnir8338
Ай бұрын
Yes I can remember I waited until I no longer felt safe with my mother, thus then with ex spouse
@user-dianetaktak
Ай бұрын
This is true.... I waited until my partner cheated before I could throw him out of my house. But I knew he wouldn't go if there wasn't a very obvious reason. He did go, it wasn't easy, but he eventually had to accept he's not coming back
@houmanrm
Ай бұрын
Very true, all is true
@Eduforall_
Ай бұрын
Ι did the opposite because I understood my narcs sister tricks. I was taking care of our old parents for years almost 8. When the opportunity showed up to work abroad I asked my spiritual's father permission and my parents permission to leave and I left. leaving her with all the responsibilities that she never took up. Result my father died after 4 months my mother after a year. She didn't let me know or invited me to the funerals. She only asked for money some days after and she robbed all the things that I had in my houses thinking she has the right to do so. When I saw her she was pissed of and she wanted to trigger my rage. But I saw her pure love ( that I still feel) I understood she is sick as well as her environment. I tried to hug her and tell her that I love her but she was acting like crazy. I still don't understand why. I asked her what's her complaint and she said: don't you know? I said no tell me and she just made a face. ( can you call this communication?)
@gracelion
Ай бұрын
I told my partner tonight that It Is over...m'y second relationship with a narc. This video Is so PIN point for me. I have been waiting/boiling for tooooo long😢
@chitramarathe7619
Ай бұрын
Thanks a tons Danish....ur work has made many lives easier and happier..... God bless you ❤❤❤
@poonamkhanna3383
Ай бұрын
Thanks Danish for making very informative videos on NPD. My husband is a scapegoat adult child and I want him to make understand that his mother and brother both are narcissists and destroying our relationship deliberately. So I request you to make a video on this topic, so I can save my relationship with my husband.
@christelleny
Ай бұрын
Hope is our biggest enemy, the last thing we lose, and the last thing we re-learn in our healing journey. #Narc101 ❤
@Madhuri5801
Ай бұрын
What the use of this knowledge if we don't have support system. A victim wants to leave but need practical support at least for some time. Without this all this knowledge becomes philosophy.
@AnitaSharma-hc3ib
Ай бұрын
Everything you said is spot on ❤I appreciate your efforts❤
@charlie-girl72
Ай бұрын
i did this until last year, i admit, after all he wasnt that bad. the truth is. he is
@user-dz7pi5wi6t
Ай бұрын
About 2 years ago, I realized that my parents are narcs. It took me a year to accept that they do not love or care about me. And very recently, I decided that I should stop caring about them too...for my own sake and sanity. The breaking points? It was whenever they sided with or gave gifts to other narcs who started a smear campaign against me in our neighborhood. My goal is to go no contact as soon as I can...I've had enough.
@ay-tj7pj
Ай бұрын
Yeah they will say you're toxic when in reality they are the one who are toxic
@SueZeeQue123
Ай бұрын
We need a support group
@Sophie-ur2qb
Ай бұрын
It's so hard to break out of these thoughts. I feel like im doing okay until a message pops up from my family. I go back to thinking maybe it's not that bad.. maybe I'm blowing things out of proportion. It's been a few years since she put her hands on me. She's not "as bad" now. But it hurts my heart. There's no acknowledgement like it's just normal for her to treat me like shit. I make excuses for my dad because he apologised for what he did to me. I forgave him. In my mind what he did was nothing compared to my mothers actions.
@satishchanderdabas8606
Ай бұрын
Hi Danish.You are a wonderful person and life saviour for many empaths.I always wonder how rightly you explain all these things...We suffer and still can't explain to others what we are going through so people don't understand our problem. Please make one video for parents who has to rear a narcissistic child bcas its really hard for them as they love their child but they know this child can be a torture to society or people around that child.....what to do in this situation?How to take good care of narcissistic child and society both? How to keep themselves connected to society in a healthy way?
@roxannegorena7281
Ай бұрын
Keep giving benefit of doubt. Hoping for that moment redemption 😢
@WomenEmpowerherCoach
Ай бұрын
Each and every word is so true....
@shirishkumargandhi4494
Ай бұрын
I have subscribed your channel recently and show many videos on Narcissism. I really like the information provided by you which are very very practical. After watching many videos I feel that I am dealing with a Narcissist female boss at office. Pl post a video on Female Narcissist at office.
@kofiopoku3367
Ай бұрын
sometimes it's best to plan your escape well so don't end up back with them or inside thier grips again
@i-am-Successful
Ай бұрын
So how to get out of such type of toxic relationship... please please please sir help me to get out of it please...I want your immediate help ..🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@sidnasir5483
Ай бұрын
U r explaining all what i am thinking these days. Literally i am doing this. Been going through 3 months of silent treatment of covert narc bcoz what je demands from me am not giving him. Me too thinking tht he not hitting me then y i leave. But this all happens every year twice or thrice.
@user-is2kg3qi6m
Ай бұрын
He always says abuse is only when they beat you with fists in the face…. So not true. All the verbal abuse. But always says 15 years
@ayeshabaksh7699
Ай бұрын
I am very sure that my husband is a narcissist, as the characters you mention matches 100 percent. I got married 2 years back and I am bed ridden now due to spine Surgery, neuro issue. He takes care of me but without empathy and love. Seems as he is just doing it. Even he beats me in this bed ridden condition and threatens me to kill, which he tried to do like a psycho. Every moment I feel like hell and m getting depression, unable to recover properly. I cry everyday. Just want to get rid of all these things. I am suffering domestic violence. Feeling so helpless. Any suggestions please !!!!
@suranjabarat5457
Ай бұрын
Did you tell your family? Can you not go to your parents place?
@ayeshabaksh7699
Ай бұрын
His parents trust him more and do not cooperates.. as my both parents expired so left with young se sister who is working to take care of me and house.. My husband stays with us in the name of talking care of me..He traumatize us, fights at any point of time and gets violent. .. we have no option at home who can look after me in this bed ridden situation , but to tolerate him until I get well which may take few more months.. feels like living in hell everyday
@Prabhunathchari
Ай бұрын
Make a video on CHRITIAN narcissists bro
@fdog4533
Ай бұрын
You find yourself Constantly excusing their Ungrateful behavior OVER & OVER Again
@francesbernard2445
26 күн бұрын
I am done with waiting for anybody. Instead I have accepted the reality of probable being single for rest of my life after leaving two terrible ordeal marriages. Yes sometimes I am tempted to buy a new pair of shoes which would not be comfortable again after being shamed more than once for wearing comfortable shoes. Nobody is immune to temptation when for example us women are lying to ourselves when for example it comes to how a shoe fits in hopes of pleasing others. When thinking we have to fit into rigid gender roles that is always a clue there may be a narcissistic person present in our inner circle or who is stalking us while we do not have their number yet. That could be only an advertiser too. If we see the same advertisement being presented to us in totally unrelated contexts online then look out.
@introsanj
Ай бұрын
My mobile was been stolen by my narcissistic family, I suspect my mobile was been stolen by my narcissistic father or grandfather I was depressed a lot because it's not even been 3 months since I purchased this mobile which I purchased from my first salary and I no more wanted to stay with my narcissistic family now I'm in Hyderabad at my relatives place and I'm feeling very calm and peaceful without the presence of my narcissistic family...
@flexiveganc7441
Ай бұрын
Hi sir, good video's i learn a lot from. I have 1 question and i hope you or another one will answer me. I live in a appartement where I wake up a few times in the night because a (narcistic) persons(s). Yes I did everything in legal way and I put earpuds in my ears). I need another kind of advice then above.... Because I an move now to another appartement but I feel so much doubt because I do know there I can also hear noises in the night. For example because water boiler etc. From other site I do also know I felt here where I live a lot pain. And thought moving is the the solution because desirve better. But 1 neighbour is moving.... Still have 1 other narcistic neighbour who maybe wakes me up 2 times in the night. Like I sad its also possible in the other appartement. (But here I fight for a better live). Help I have to make a dissicion.
@weronikaasomsson2404
Ай бұрын
👉❤️When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥️ He is coming to avenge! 👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥️🥳 As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations. Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤️😊 Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤️You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥️ 😍 Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later! 🙌❤️🥹
@user-gv1jr6de3s
Ай бұрын
He gave my position ,I mean my job,to another girl And that was my enough is enough Cause...I have 2 children to take care of.. I don't think God is pleased with what he has done.. I just went no contact and left him in God's judgment He also told me to go with other men to make easily money Those were the 2 things that made me not want to know anything about him from now on.. S T O P DELETE
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