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why we should look past appearances? what really matters? is it external appearance or inner beauty ? what do you prefer ?
First impressions are the best impressions- we are very familiar with this be it physical impressions or mental impressions of a person, the first one really makes an impact on the opinions we form about people.when it comes to today's world, recently physical appearance has the been of highest importance in choosing things like who we follow online or who we choose to date, or who we choose to start a conversation with on social media or even in real life. We only talk to people who look approachable and look good !
Even in situations where looks shouldn't matter like the looks of a person who has committed a crime or a person who is renting an air bnb these things shouldn't matter, but studies show that there are advantages to having the right look even in these situations. Defendants who look trustworthy are less likely to receive the death penalty and attractive looking clients can charge higher rents on Airbnb according to research! And yet here I am thinking looks don't matter beyond a relationship!
Appearances do matter but are we always right when we judge people based on their appearance ? this reminds me of the scene in the kung fu panda movie I recently watched, the bunnies looked so innocent and cute but all they love is violence and fights ! Similarly, most of the judgments we make based upon appearances are usually wrong and especially about the personality of a person, what they are thinking in their mind, their values and things of that sort when you judge someone based on their appearance. But why do we go for looks anyway?
There used to be an ad on tv in India which showed a woman who has wheatish complexion and couldn't get the job, but when she uses the beauty cream shown in the ad, her skin tone gets lighter and she is filled with confidence and gets the next job . This is an example of how we are being tuned to be a certain way, to have a certain complexion,to look a certain way or we won't have what it takes or in other words we will be lacking in what the world is looking for in us!
when we judge people based on their appearance and how they present themselves, we might end up in trouble a lot of times,
And sometimes our expectations of people and our preconceived notions of people determine who we hire, who we become friends with or who we choose to date, but eventually when they don't meet our expectations or when we realise that the external packaging that we have been looking at all along is wrong after all, they dont really have the qualities that we assumed they had, we become disappointed!
How do we navigate this world,largely focused on physical appearance? Here are 5 things which can be reminders for when we are completely focussed on external appearances next time!
Firstly,
Don't judge people based on appearance- sometimes we may be attracted to external appearance, but when we know the real nature of a person, how easily they get angry or how they are not a person who is generous or if they do not have a good sense of humour , all these things make us reconsider our opinions, and sometimes when we hire people based on their looks they may turn out to be less efficient than you expected them to be, so making appearance the top priority and not looking beyond appearances can be disappointing in the long run.
Stay curious- even though it is human to make assumptions and judge people based on appearances, be open to knowing more about people over time
Appearances can be deceptive- how often do we find ourselves in friendships or relationships where we realise the other person was completely the opposite of what we expected?
Compatibility- in relationships, when we look for partners who are compatible in looks, they may not really understand or have the same values we have and we end up being disappointed ! So the wise thing would be to check for compatibility in people not just by checking their social profiles but also spending time to understand their values and what we are really looking for in a person.
Qualities shine brighter- when you cultivate qualities like happiness, self love, confidence , good sense of humour, you will surely shine through and you will be at an advantage
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Jaeger, B., Evans, A. M., Stel, M., & van Beest, I. (2022). Understanding the role of faces in person perception: Increased reliance on facial appearance when judging sociability. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.
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