We shouldn't say, I can't have a relationship with the narcissistic because - and list the reasons. We should say, the narcissist can't have a relationship with me because of - and list the reasons. Put the responsibility where it belongs, on the narcissist - they are the one that ruined the relationship.
@RKX_Errant
2 жыл бұрын
Good observation, great tool for the tool bag!
@violajoseph8549
2 жыл бұрын
"NO, You're the blame," says the narc. Lol 😆 🤣 IM GOD in there delusional undeveloped mind.
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Good point.
@nb5842
2 жыл бұрын
YES!!!!
@jmashack1
2 жыл бұрын
Great idea. That is going in my toolbox today!!!
@jennifera777
2 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 21:9 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome person.
@foxiedogitchypaws7141
2 жыл бұрын
I say the same thing to people who have a lot but live with narcissist people. They could leave but won't.
@seantraynor5180
2 жыл бұрын
Better is a meal of herbs where there is love... Than feasting where there is corruption... Love the proverbs ...
@chelleb3055
2 жыл бұрын
They live as though they are the writer, director and star of their own twisted reality show and everyone else is just a bit player or audience member. Go off script or fail to applaud on cue and you will pay. Just walk away if possible. If not, prepare to be shamed, humiliated, berated and ignored.
@cheri238
2 жыл бұрын
You are not Dr. Carter, remember that. ❤️Glad you are learning though
@victoriavitoroulis3273
2 жыл бұрын
We need some rotten tomatoes 🍅 for the narcs reality show 👎🏾
@MsYogiCat
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Chelle!👍
@donnamaco1
2 жыл бұрын
Perhaps this was her experience. Spot on! My experience too.
@danyellerobinson5940
2 жыл бұрын
@@cheri238 Does her understanding take anything from you or the doctor? You might wanna ask why you are offended by another person sharing their experience. It is how we all learn.
@jennifera777
2 жыл бұрын
Everything gets you in trouble with a narc because they are troubled.
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Jennifer. Sad but true. Somehow, it's your fault...whatever "it" is.
@marieldavison5121
2 жыл бұрын
@@SurvivingNarcissism Blame shifting
@sandyhenry3238
Жыл бұрын
❤
@sharonf3321
Жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking! What gets me in trouble with the narc? I exist.
@reganaewinston
Жыл бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾yes!!!! Nothing is ever their fault
@laurelvance5533
2 жыл бұрын
I'm just so tired of it all. It's exhausting, draining and demeaning.
@lifebetwixtheveils
Жыл бұрын
One of my biggest challenges was really wrapping my mind around and accepting the fact that it simply IS NOT SAFE to be emotional around a person like that. Your happiness is weaponized too! Every. Single. Time.
@echase416
Жыл бұрын
With an Narcissistic personality, anything you say, can and will, be used against you in the future.
@jackilynpyzocha662
8 ай бұрын
I get this, thanks!
@SamSolasdonSaol
2 жыл бұрын
Breathing is what gets you in trouble with any narcissist ALL 7 days a week. I attract them and I'm utterly exhausted.
@ZordaanTelevisioN
2 жыл бұрын
Hi there! Well, come on then... no salute? Okay, we'll work on that, won't we now? No no no, that was a rhetorical question. It's okay, and let's try to keep our apologies sincere but short from now on. ;)
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
You deserve more out of life. Can you go no contact?
@taraarrington2285
2 жыл бұрын
Yes nothing you do is good enough and they're always moving goal post.
@cyndigooch1162
2 жыл бұрын
Sam Solas don Saol I really feel for you and I've had a lot of issues with highly narcissistic individuals throughout my life as well! I've learnt that it's up to me to not let them into my life though, because they do approach, or whatever, many people and some do manage to repell them, due to listening to their intuition and having strong boundaries. ❤
@SamSolasdonSaol
2 жыл бұрын
@@janetstephens9563 Story of my life... it's such a vicious circle. I go no contact, new people show up in my life, give me hope and then their mask drops/the familiar red flags fly high. I'm so tired of overcoming so much awful.
@rosieE121
2 жыл бұрын
Knowing these things helps. As for crying, we should understand that there's no hurt as bad as someone you love and trust like a spouse or family member purposefully trying to hurt you.
@melodysledgister2468
2 жыл бұрын
It even hurts coming from your 90-year-old parents! You never get over wanting your parent to love and accept you. But when they can't, it's not a reflection on you, it is them.
@taraarrington2285
2 жыл бұрын
Yep ouch
@khaartoumsings
2 жыл бұрын
Dr Carter this is brilliant. After several years, this actually does become a behaviour code. And the identifying manipulations makes for safety and no need to respond. Thank you ; ) K
@coach_amy
2 жыл бұрын
@@melodysledgister2468 I have some hope to offer you. I did get over wanting my parent to love and accept me. It took a lot of work and years of no contact. But it paid off. Proof was when she passionately fought against me with an audience (and participation of some) hospital staff, and I remained unscathed and continued to fight for my brother's life (she wanted to let him go); and he's alive and cognitive and happy to have survived.
@taraarrington2285
2 жыл бұрын
@@khaartoumsings yes it's a pattern these people use. How does anyone trust?
@exx6312
2 жыл бұрын
Now that I am far removed - I can say I did every single one of these in my 21 year marriage. But I didn’t realize what I was dealing with. My fatal mistake was believing he thought and felt as I did. He only pretended and he was so convincing.
@foxiedogitchypaws7141
2 жыл бұрын
The are great manipulators. Me too, 32 years
@loner1295
2 жыл бұрын
I began to post almost exactly what you said, but when I saw yours, I went "yep. they got it!" and deleted mine. 😂
@anewchapter1336
Жыл бұрын
Exactly the same here with my 22 year marriage to him. He and his mother both covert passive aggressives and husband also sadistic. I used to think he was just immature when I couldn't figure him out but he is mother enmeshed too and now also taking testosterone injections which has amplified the narcissism.
@melodysledgister2468
Жыл бұрын
😧
@irishmermaid4
Жыл бұрын
I married the same guy. Dumped him 16 years later. Hope you found peace, luv.
@sbubb9155
2 жыл бұрын
Just do not play and you win.
@janicedeeter577
2 жыл бұрын
True...no contact and walk away.
@462ANIMAL
2 жыл бұрын
There is no point wasting your energy trying to reason with them. They usually walk away.
@462ANIMAL
2 жыл бұрын
@@Chris-dw7gq The one thing I find we all need to do , is not keep thinking of all they’ve done to sabotage you and just their over all behaviors.. We need to keep positive, move forward and keep doing good for ourselves. Keep them at a distance if you can’t rid yourself of them , and never let your guard down.
@janorth9986
Жыл бұрын
I usually do the walking.....to much stress. No money to move. Picks at me until I blow. That way she can blame me!
@462ANIMAL
Жыл бұрын
@@janorth9986 I’m sorry to hear that, stress is terrible.. it causes health issues .. need to buy ear plugs.. or get some wireless ear buds and listen to music .. really makes a person want to start messing with them.. like trying to drive them crazy..with out them knowing it .
@rebekahransom415
2 жыл бұрын
I just assume I'm always in trouble for something and do my thing.
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Good way to look at it. Consider the source.
@cyndigooch1162
2 жыл бұрын
Rebekah Ransome I can relate to this and usually feel anxious after receiving messages from people, especially family members, because I assume that I must be in trouble again for something I've done, or haven't done! Mind you, I do cause issues at times for telling the truth (not in a blunt way) and was even physically assaulted for being a "trouble maker" by the female leader of a religious cult I got caught up in when I was young. I don't remember what I said or did now, yet it was probably for speaking up about the bizarre behaviour of the so-called leaders, who both would've spent time in jail, if it happened today. I'll leave it at that because I got carried away yet again and wish you all the very best for your healing journey. 😊
@skinnyway
2 жыл бұрын
yep! thats it right there! no matter what I always seem to be in trouble for something so I just do me and keep on going.
@dalialovesdoggies4361
2 жыл бұрын
@@SurvivingNarcissism Woweeeee Just had a MOMENT OF AHHHHHHAAAHHHAAA living with a VN for 19 years. Hollyyyy mama. 😂 Thank you so much Dr. C I live in Canada. I dont have $350.00 for any therapy. ARE there any support groups on line?
@rhondajoaquin2286
2 жыл бұрын
My mom is a tyrant and being a only child and cut off from the world because I was told by her that what she said and is saying to this day is all that I need to know. I was in my mid fourties’ before I was able to completely understand what a mind can do to another person. I have learned the hard way. She is 86 years old and still run’s the show with other family members but not me anymore. 😎
@foxiedogitchypaws7141
2 жыл бұрын
Rhonda! That is so sad. But I know how much control someone can place on another person even if they have died, their condescending narcissist words can still trigger that terrible feeling. 🤗🦊
@Elizabeth-yg2mg
2 жыл бұрын
They tend to live forever--you've got another ten or 15 years! Mine lived to 96, tightly controlling everyone to the last breath.
@joanna0988
2 жыл бұрын
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg They seriously do live forever, sucking up everyone else's life force 😅
@michelepascoe6068
2 жыл бұрын
Me too. Mine died at 80 with me still begging for acceptance and trying to please her, with a smear campaign against me that went on for decades. However, around that time I started learning about narcissism and all my questions were answered. I'm living a new life now, free of the flying monkeys who continue her legacy at the slightest opportunity. I can't believe I listened to my mother's words for so long and ended up doing some things that made no sense at all (like spending every Sunday at her house for years as an adult, even though I didn't want to).
@michellehill718
2 жыл бұрын
🥳
@user-oz7nw9sq7y
2 жыл бұрын
The only thing that works with a Narc is to not them in your life in the first place. If it’s a relative or coworker have minimal contact. Get AWAY if you can and RUN as far as you can whenever possible. These videos are great because I have finally learned to identify them right away. I used to make all of the mistakes Dr Carter just mentioned. I enjoy my own company my hubby’s and our pet more than anyone! We don’t need toxic people in our lives.
@patriciajoseph3035
2 жыл бұрын
It's eerie. Like you're being monitored all the time. They pry into your stuff etc.
@Dj.D25
2 жыл бұрын
I had people I suspect were narcissists watching me on social media. But I too was watching them after the drama they gave me. Sometimes I notice them discard friends and relationships over and over. Anyone who deletes so many people so fast is a red flag to me.
@Datb2
2 жыл бұрын
Yes. I had a narc hack into my Facebook and pretend to post as if they were me. Isn’t that scary
@itm4173
2 жыл бұрын
Not only do I "Like" these videos, I "Love" these videos. They're intrinsic to my well-being and growth towards claiming the Me that I never got to know. Dr. C, I wonder if you ever give a think to all the good you're doing for so many invisible folks. :)
@caroleminke6116
2 жыл бұрын
He’s a saint to do this in his retirement years
@Ivan-bf2jx
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I just need to hear Dr. C's voice to get back on track after interaction with the narc. Recovering from a narc abuse and getting free and healthy is a long journey.
@jmashack1
2 жыл бұрын
Yes Dr. C. YOU ARE AMAZING. I am in my healing and recovery process but every once in awhile because everything went haywire with the narcissistic person before he's left I have questions and you answer every one of them. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
@Juke582
2 жыл бұрын
Oh believe me the Doc knows just how he is helping people all over the world, and he is overwhelmed at his reach and has indicated how much we all mean to him! I feel a compassion from this Doctor like no other! Amazing support in our recovery! 🤗
@karendovey3538
Жыл бұрын
Agreed, these videos are my therapy! With Dr. C's calm manner and soothing voice it's like balm to the soul. We need a ❤️ button for these videos! 🙏🥰
@amuddymoose
Жыл бұрын
I’ve made all of these mistakes. Only recently have I really opened my eyes to the abuse I’ve been suffering for years. I always knew something was “off” but couldn’t put my finger on it until one day I watched a video on narcissism and then all the light bulbs went off in my mind. I’m angry at this point, angry that I didn’t recognize the truth earlier and angry that I’ve wasted years trying to fix a relationship that was doomed from the start.
@notagain779
Жыл бұрын
@Jumping Ranger, Lots of us have been through the same sudden awareness and feel the anger. The best thing is, more and more is being learned all over the world simultaneously because of these comment sections and the sharing over the internet. Before the internet, great psychologists like Dr. C and Dr. Ramani could only see one person at a time, or write a book. So things progressed much more slowly before KZitem. (Just my thoughts) Give yourself some credit for facing the painful truth that so many of us eventually come to after knowing someone who gives us that "something's off" feeling.
@papi9114
Жыл бұрын
The narc in my life is a brother, and I had the same experience as you...the worse shock being when I realised how long it had been going on against me in the background. A smear campaign of huge proportions! 6 months out now, and I would say try to get support if you can. I thought I could rock back with help from videos such as dear Dr Carter (my hero!), and they have saved my life pretty much🧡, but you also will need support to thrive and not just survive. In the UK there are groups that help with domestic/emotional abuse. I start in January and I need it so much. Blessings for your journey back to you :)
@Ganymede_52
2 жыл бұрын
When I woke up out of my mother's control, and made it clear to her that I was done with her, she immediately started trying to destroy me. She told a slew of lies about me to family and the community where we lived. My family obeyed her out of fear, and began to hate me because it was what she wanted. I moved to the other side of the state and cut off contact with all of them, and that started my healing. Going no contact is often the only way to avoid a malignant narcissist's rage.
@miss_whipps
2 жыл бұрын
I have made every one of these mistakes, and the foundation of my character is being corroded as a result. It is so painful to watch myself change in such negative ways as a desperate, pathetic attempt to survive in an unhealthy, futile relationship. It's time to save myself and disentangle! Thank you for another EXCELLENT video, Doc!
@mindyann8903
Жыл бұрын
I have made the same mistakes. Trust me. I got to a point where I was questioning if I was the narcissist because my behavior all of a sudden was not aligned with who I was as a human being…. Oh not to mention I was called toxic daily by my ex partner. It’s all very confusing. Be gentle and kind yourself and most importantly forgiving. It’s never too late to start over & become the very best version of yourself. 💫
@miss_whipps
Жыл бұрын
@@mindyann8903 thank you for your beautiful and compassionate response! ❤️❤️❤️
@rebeccaluff-smith8674
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been recovering for a couple of years now Dr C and I needed these reminders. Thank you so much again for your work
@brianreed8271
2 жыл бұрын
It's been 3 years for me, I never would imagine it would take this long.
@keplermission4947
2 жыл бұрын
I would like to say that covert narcissists are very dangerous to your future well-being. Be observant of any treachery towards you when they're around others, assume the very worst scenario is being planned by these diabolical people. Beyond your knowledge they do their level best to cruelly destroy your life whilst acting innocent in your company. Trust your gut but DON'T show that you are aware of any suspicion. Behave well at all times and try not to get too stressed out. Others are suffering what you are.
@Juke582
2 жыл бұрын
@@brianreed8271 it can take a while to recover Brian. It’s horrible abuse and it’s been 2 years for me but at some point you will get closure through learning and reflecting. It’s helped me tremendously! Don’t beat yourself up forever and work on ways you can change yourself so as not to attract those toxic people again! Watch videos on boundary setting as I am and you will see the path forward and leave the past behind for good! I am almost there! Hugs 🤗
@brianreed8271
2 жыл бұрын
@@Juke582 I had no idea I was being emotionally abused until after the divorce. As I learned about narcissism and emotional abuse I had constant flashbacks for over 2 years. I had those aha moments several times a day. And then I started hating myself for being so stupid and not recognizing it for what it was. I think I have that behind me. I'm working through it, some days I feel really good for a while. And I thank you for your encouragement
@bluecollarlit
Жыл бұрын
The sleeping dog on the sofa. Makes me feel cozy and relaxed.
@benwilliams5236
2 жыл бұрын
Can a man take a serpent unto himself and not be bitten? Can a man take a coal unto himself and not be burned? Such is the nature of the narcissist.
@constancebarrett1398
2 жыл бұрын
Done all this and I quit! I do what I think is right for me.
@amandahodge3809
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve experienced this before without realizing this is what the narcissist wants. You know you’re truly dealing with one when it’s a parent and they get a kick off of when you’re crying to them saying you just want them in your life. And then they say “well you never gave me a college degree.” They just truly have no empathy like Dr C said!!!!
@redsquirrel1086
Жыл бұрын
I very quickly realised that in order to keep my narc "happy" I had to abandon myself and my own opinions in order to suit her. What I didn't realise was that whatever I did or said it was never going to be right or good enough. She played with me like a child plays with a toy. It was a degrading, humiliating experience that taught me a lot about myself and about how cruel some people can be.
@andrewschultz6608
2 жыл бұрын
"Narcissists are data gatherers ..." ouch! I thought this way of someone and it seemed harsh. Because we all need to gather data to understand things. But then I realized I made sure never to bother them with frivolities like things I enjoyed for their own sake.
@l.5832
2 жыл бұрын
There is no 'us' with the narcissist. My narc husband of over 20 years said while we were still married "there IS no us". Likewise, my narc sister would not allow me to have any input on the planning of our mother's funeral. She told me straight out there was no luncheon after the grave side service. After the service, a guest (who was a friend of my sister's and I didn't even know) asked me if I was going to the luncheon. Apparently, I wasn't invited to my own mother's funeral luncheon........
@rg-mi5hh
2 жыл бұрын
How sad that you had to go through that. Jerk.
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry about what you’ve gone through. Give yourself grace and try to distance yourself from the narcissists in your life. Family members can be so hurtful, particularly during such a sad time as the death of a loved one. You must set boundaries, and make sure you’re telling yourself the truth. Their behavior is a reflection of them not you. It wasn’t a luncheon for your mother. It was a luncheon for your sister. Maybe there is a way that you would like to commemorate your mother with a few close friends? Or even alone.
@martyrose
2 жыл бұрын
Hey! Don't feel bad. My name wasn't mentioned in the obituary.
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
@@martyrose me neither
@libbynovotny9979
2 жыл бұрын
with my ex bofriend it was about about his place, his stuff never did he use US never he has no idea how a realtionship or even friends work
@williamdillard8330
2 жыл бұрын
One of the biggest mistakes with a person who truly has NPD is being too nice and hopeful with them. And this is the reason why. Have you noticed they wont go near some people with the bullshit they lay on you? It is because they recognize that some people have strong non negotiable boundaries. Once a narc has tasted blood. Your blood that is. They will see you as a target until death. I believe a narc has to come to believe that you have fully developed a mindset that will allow the narc figuretively, to walk off a cliff. This can be diffucult because you might trully love this person. Still you have to develop an unbending behavior pattern of indifference towards that narc because in spite of your love that narc is going to be a narc towards you always. And they WILL take your love as weakness.
@andrabcool1600
2 жыл бұрын
I have a dance of çome forward to her to help, back off and shut down when the battle ensues. I must do this dance, because she stays here in between going home 2000 miles away. We are both caring for my Mother who is in a challenging life situation right now, with dementia. She is in charge of Mother's caregivers. She has hired many nice people, but I have to fill in the blanks, and I am in a wheelchair. I am not receiving money, I am just my Mother's daughter. My hours were 21 hours a day and 48 hours on the weekends, when she went home. I have, after a year and a half, negotiated caregivers here about 8 hours a day and several days where only the nurse comes in for half an hour to bath my Mom. Today is my sister's birthday, and I bought gifts, cake, and so on. She blew up at me. Angry. I do not understand this. I been doing the come forward to help and back off when irritations are inflamed on her, dance for all this time. But this is a first, when I got together this birthday celebration, spent my money, and basically, when she leaves today, were having the cake. I have decided I like the gifts I got her, so I will just keep them. I hope she feels better with me backing away. And she will read this because she somehow knows everything I type into my phone. Even when she is 2000 miles away. I think when I move, and I still come to help with my Mom, it will be better for me, because then I will have more control of my own body. I would never leave my Mom without help. She can't afford caregivers more than what she is paying. If she somehow could get along without me, I would quit and just take care of my own physical troubles. But for now, I must do this dance. I stay in my room mostly when my sister is here, but I have to come out to cook, laundry, give the meds, feed people, and so on daily.
@RN-gx7wt
2 жыл бұрын
What are you talking about, show me someone at 14 years old who has had STRONG BOUNDARIES, 18?, 21 maybe, 27 then? You can't love a person with NPD, simply because they have a false persona, that what you believe they are isn't there to begin with. NPD are truely a void to begin with. They care less if you have strong boundaries, they will wear you down, and the clue is in hindsight you will know what this will look like.
@theabileneranchertar7882
2 жыл бұрын
When I have my family around my ex won't say a word but as soon as I come alone to pick up my son, she and her flying monkeys (her family) will verbally attack me and taunt me to get me to react just so they have a reason to make me look bad.
@rebekahransom415
2 жыл бұрын
When we say we "love the narc" it usually means who we THINK they COULD BE or are beneath it all. But the narcissism IS who they are.
@williamdillard8330
2 жыл бұрын
@@RN-gx7wt Respectfully I know from first hand observation that there are people they know not to cross.
@iamgoddessoflove
2 жыл бұрын
Don't make up excuses to stay with a narcissist because you have children with them, due to financial matters, or because you're afraid to leave. Get some help right away! You deserve so much better! 💙KZitemr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
@ellenwest1129
2 жыл бұрын
@goddess of love, where do I go for resources. I’m on disability, my money pays for vehicle and home, I’m broke all month. No vehicle, no money
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
@@ellenwest1129 Were you married to a narcissist?
@denicehaley9902
Жыл бұрын
Thanks! I’m in the same boat-disabled. Will look into these resources.
@lilithschwarzermond7342
Жыл бұрын
"Narcs try to keep you in the ditch of dysfunction" yes, you nailed it Dr C. Thanks!
@natinamack5123
Жыл бұрын
I did all this with my mother before I knew what I was dealing with. I'm finally starting to heal at 52 yrs old from the unknown to the known.
@janepoppet3843
2 жыл бұрын
One of the hardest parts of recovery is being introspective, and figuring out which characteristics are our innate personality and which ones are internalised from our parents. Often discovering so much that was internalised to the point of echoism. It's not really us or who we are xx Sending warmest healing wishes to everyone 💗
@skinnyway
2 жыл бұрын
great statement. I havent a clue what is me and what is them. and its really hard when someone who doesnt have your best interest at heart points those things out and you ruminate over it for years wondering what else might be twisted because of who it came from & thats all you know. it makes you wonder what else you were taught wrong. 'what else am I doing wrong because of them' basically. its been a very strange trip.
@malkaringel7864
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Best wishes Jane ❤️
@janepoppet3843
2 жыл бұрын
@@skinnyway similar experience here Patty. Told by my malignant narcissistic parent since a little girl that I was like him and his family. Even my achievements weren't really mine - he'd tell me it was thanks to his genes,, and tell other people that too. Of course, he'd then ramble on for ages about how great he was at the same age as me. Even my anxiety (and c-ptsd symptoms) now as an adult - he told me before I went no contact that I have anxiety only because I have his genes. Nothing to do with decades of emotional abuse. Be gentle with yourself. I have to remind myself there is no time limit on healing 💗
@natinamack5123
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Sending the same to you!
@melodysledgister2468
Жыл бұрын
@@janepoppet3843 Healing can take a very long time to heal, but recognizing lies as lies and truth as truth really helps it along.
@skinnyway
2 жыл бұрын
#1 being conceived #2 being born #3 breathing #4 waking up every morning #5 needing care because you're a child #6 still living #7 just being you
@danceofjoy2940
2 жыл бұрын
WOW! Bang on.
@danceofjoy2940
2 жыл бұрын
So True.
@jkarink
2 жыл бұрын
Yes
@thinkingallowed1st
Жыл бұрын
That's a lovely take x
@katyb2793
8 ай бұрын
I know.. and I'm sorry. You're worth way more than that 💕
@lisapinho170
2 жыл бұрын
I had a 40 year friendship end about 7months ago with a narcissist. I also had a 13 year romantic relationship with a narc that ended one year ago. I'm having a hard time trusting people now. I have a friend for 2 years that is friends with the narcissistic friend that our friendship ended. I like this person a lot but I don't trust the mutual narc friend and not sure how much I could trust them or anyone. It 's hard to trust for me now after so much abuse.
@colleenshea2293
Жыл бұрын
Yes, trust breaks down after these experiences. I have no expectations of people anymore. I find it helps.
@izawaniek2568
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for great professional advice dr Carter. Narcisists do not change. We need to radically accept that fact. Your tips on how to deal with them are spot on. We want to live with dignity, respect and civility and we need to be the people who live in peace. God bless you.
@imnoel8214
2 жыл бұрын
Thinking like a normal person where a narcissist is concerned.
@rebekahransom415
2 жыл бұрын
This was awesome, Dr C. Operating from an attitude of detached Pragmatism is key, and you explained it so well. We gotta fall out of love, or stop needing them emotionally. It sounds lonely and cold hearted but we gotta be the logical one.
@freechick6585
Жыл бұрын
Very, very true. We have to detach our emotions from them. We are normal; they are FAR from normal.
@melodysledgister2468
Жыл бұрын
It's not lonely or cold hearted. It's actually the loving thing to do NOT to feed their narcissism. Remember, we are not their only victims.
@therealrhodiemx
2 жыл бұрын
I just moved into a new neighborhood in December. A couple months later the neighbor came and felt the need to tell me "the rules" of the neighborhood. When he said, "Some of us have been here 10 years and some of us just got here", I knew what I was dealing with. This was a great video! Thanks!
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Yuck!
@Datb2
2 жыл бұрын
Wow
@melodysledgister2468
Жыл бұрын
Is it too soon to move again? 🤣
@mercyofgod9243
Жыл бұрын
@@melodysledgister2468 😂😂😂
@miamyself9897
Жыл бұрын
Avoid at all costs!!
@crezante
2 жыл бұрын
My employer (until yesterday) has many traits of a malignant narcissist. He used to give me impossible tasks (state authority related) and then call me out as incapable of doing my work. He also was insulting me, yelling, cursing, and shouting in a tremendous rage. After a few hours, he invited me to lunch. As I politely denied the invitation, he fired me. Now I am free of the nightmare I went through during the past three months. But he refused to pay me the salary for the entire month of august (knowing that I am in a particularly bad financial situation. He kept shouting that it has been my choice to leave this job. Which is not true (even if I feel relieved now). Within 1 year, I was his 18th assistant manager.
@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589
2 жыл бұрын
Seek legal advice. You are still entitled to get paid for the job you did. It is your right as an employee. Hope you find a new job very soon.
@foxiedogitchypaws7141
2 жыл бұрын
Gus has got to be the smartest fur kid, listening to your advice. He is such a sweetheart. Foxie Dog sends hugs 🤗🦊 I haven't had to use " None the less" in a while. But then I haven't told certain people what my plans are, I already know what the negative responses will be. 🤗🦊
@violajoseph8549
2 жыл бұрын
Move in silence 🔕
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
Good for you!
@zoespiteri5034
Жыл бұрын
Yes I won't be telling certain people anything either. My life to do what ever I want in it. Be late be punctual be me. So many overriding bullshit put on me to abide by this and advise by that. No controlling human being for me ever again. Limit my exposure to any unkind judgemental person to zero. Yes that's right zero. No more no more.
@cymbolichuman433
2 жыл бұрын
I really have gotten so much better to stand up for myself through persistence. It's like they can't learn to #1 Quit telling me what to do...#2 Attempting to guilt trip me into doing what they want me to do...#3 talk to other people about me when I am right there. #4 Forget their mistakes and yelling at me for the same thing.
@Voirreydirector
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, dear doctor. I apologize to dear team healthy for not catching things live, all of the regulars who are so welcoming and supportive and such. After so long I still feel somehow “beneath” those who raised me, I feel words like “mistakes” and “in trouble “ like blows from above. With your help, therapy, medication and my husband I still am working on climbing out of that hole. Thank you.
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Susan. You're why I do these videos!!!
@katyb2793
8 ай бұрын
@@SurvivingNarcissism can I ask, what do you when the narcissist is your carer, and you're bedridden? When they deliberately do things that hurt you or affect your health, and it can't be ignored, but you don't have any control over anything because you're bedridden and at their mercy? Your videos are so calm and helpful, I really appreciate it. I'm just exhausted and struggling to apply it.
@tacottogetherness7604
2 жыл бұрын
I know I’ve won the battle with my narcissist when I get the silent treatment, my narcs final move is to end the debate by no longer participating
@jkarink
2 жыл бұрын
You never win with an N. Be careful at this point. They are likely raging inside, and no doubt gearing up for the next fight. N's live for the fight.
@faustostar9627
Жыл бұрын
@@jkarink he or she did win... if you think about it, the win is having a piece of mind.
@bluestar.8938
2 жыл бұрын
I have made each one of these mistakes several times over but now with your guidance Dr Carter I get it now, i see them for who they are. I got it. Thank you Dr Carter and Gus too : )
@LL-jd5mn
Жыл бұрын
Who is Gus? A doggo of his or something😁
@melodysledgister2468
Жыл бұрын
@@LL-jd5mn See the dog in the background?
@sthomas4634
2 жыл бұрын
Being me and being free
@christanatwork
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks again, Dr. C. Been there, done all 7 unsuccessfully. The best part about being away from the person is the revelation that I'm really quite an ok guy. Have not had to apply any of these 7 tactics with anyone ever since. It's great to be normal!
@francesbernard2445
2 жыл бұрын
This video is encouraging to those of us who have left a narcissist and to whomever is planning to leave a narcissist too. In summary of mistakes made while continuing to stay away from having to live under the same roof as the narcissist: 1. Reacting by trying to counter control in the same game called narcissism. 2. Reacting by pleading, trying to pursuade, etc. while the narcissist is often changes the rules to whatever suits them instead. 3. Reacting by trying to guilt and shame which only will be received as more attention to the narcissist anyway. 4. Reacting by giving up in life in emotional collapse and self pity. 5. Reacting by people pleasing the narcissist and by pleasing the narcissists flying monkeys too. 6. Reacting by further trying to explaining to the narcissist about what a healthy relationship with them needs to look like concerning your needs too. 7. Reacting by taking to heart insults which the narcissist and their flying monkeys offer to us. - After we have learned about the dynamic of narcissisism and how to avoid it in our lives more than most people have to we could later become more successful than they would have been otherwise as result.
@Chasing70
2 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you Dr C! I am so upset the last few months. My 13 year old grandson called me the filthiest words & won’t apologize. His parents are NOT REQUIRING him to even feel sorry! My son is a narcissist, but shows me the most love (crumbs, of course!), out of his dad & brother. My heart is completely broken that my family, that I worked so hard for has turned out to not love me in any way. They all refuse to communicate with me since I sent your videos to them! I used to fawn all over EVERY ONE OF THEM! Thank you for teaching me this information, you have saved my life! ON TO NEW ADVENTURES WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS traveling & crafting fun memories!
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing these kinds of hurts. Learn how to set boundaries with your loved ones. Their behavior is not a reflection of you. And yes, do enjoy time with your friends.
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
Narcissists can’t take constructive criticism, so don’t waste your time.
@Feribrat99
2 жыл бұрын
Best choice you could have made, been there and have done that. My kids are the best ones of the humans I know and they are adults so they can do them and I will do me. The rest are not worth the powder to blow them up with. [ that includes nieces and nephews as my sibs and parents were all enablers. and varying narcs. ] I am not missing any of them, sad but true. I only give it a few moments to feel sad about it and I send it on and get on with my life. They suck as humans and I don't, Yay ME......
@jmashack1
2 жыл бұрын
Good for you. Enjoy your life to the fullest and don't let anyone abuse you emotionally. You got this
@Chasing70
Жыл бұрын
@Commander Cecil McBragg thanks so much! Getting traumatized by them changed my personality in good ways. You keep being your amazing self! ❤️
@matthewparker6830
Жыл бұрын
You are the best therapist on KZitem. Such great counsel when dealing with controlling cluster B personalities.
@SurvivingNarcissism
Жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@daphnesplinter2842
Жыл бұрын
Narcissists insult. Make yourself less available. This helps me.
@mariadiez7165
2 жыл бұрын
To saw them out. Last year, I 'dare', to tell to my 'older' brother that, he is an idiot and... Ooh boy! He put the phone down, for start with. Now he doesn't really talk to me at all His Ego is so fragile... Bless him, as my mother make him and my younger brother narcissist. (My mother just passed the way on the 20th of August) It is so sad, as you want to be there for them, but.. You have to protect yourself firts and firts able My bother (4 years older than me), never had a problem to make me feel... make me feel invalilete!. He can not, now, even me and, for the first time in 52 years to call him 'an idiot' and, he is not used for me to 'reply' For many people, including myself, takes years to come to terms, but has to be done. You are very beautiful and content, that is why they 'get away' I think that 0 contact is very much needed, until, or of they need you and if YOU really can be there for them, as you are the most important person in your life. Without your own mental health and steadiesness you cannot be there for others. Please, look after yourselfs firts... The rest just CAN wait and has to wait. 🤗💪😊😘💕. (🛑)
@amandaroberts5111
2 жыл бұрын
Same here with narc older brother, sense of superiority is way over the top! l am minimising contact.
@Juke582
2 жыл бұрын
We can’t win as everything is made to be our fault! Getting away from toxic nut jobs is the only answer to a bright future with no regrets! I am so relieved these days! I’ve got the power now over my own life! 😁
@sylviaford3828
2 жыл бұрын
This was an excellent, straightforward segment! Thank you, Dr. C.
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Dr. Carter for helping us learn about narcissists, and how we can take care of ourselves. I made my husband move out about 3 1/2 years ago, and have gone no contact with him. The hardest part has been watching my grandkids cry for “Papaw”. Can you do a video about helping young children cope when someone they dearly love is a narcissist?
@yamlwoz
2 жыл бұрын
I'd really love to receive this help as well. My 2 granddaughters are suffering and I don't know how best to help them.
@christine9467
Жыл бұрын
Yes my daughter and grandkids suffer tremendously. They don’t even like him much anymore. He thinks he’s showing love to them by picking on them and bugging them, like a pest! He spends zero quality time with them. When he tries, it’s fake. It’s like he doesn’t know how to. He almost becomes a little kid around them and then gets angry once they make the wrong move. It’s quite tragic really.
@melodysledgister2468
Жыл бұрын
That is so sad! But you are doing what is ultimately best for them--removing the narc from his place of influence. Yes, narcs can be loveable. 🙃
@brianreed8271
2 жыл бұрын
No contact equals no mistakes. It really is just that easy.
@cathyaceves8611
5 ай бұрын
I've made myself physically unavailable. Silence. Stay in my room. I don't even enjoy my living room anymore
@seifmattw
2 жыл бұрын
I find it difficult to make myself unavailable, hoping the police will do enough and that I will heal. Thanks for the videos.
@jennywager6228
2 жыл бұрын
Spent way to long in the cycle of deathly interactions before learning this. I thought the discard was going to kill me but actually now I’ve climbed out that hole I learned it was the best gift he ever gave me. No contact is amazing!
@domesticated_kat
2 жыл бұрын
This video was so helpful I had to type a bit of it up to save as a note on my home screen. Thank you. Mistakes you might make when dealing with a narcissist: 1. Go into a Battle for Control. 2. Plead, Persuade, Coercive. 3. Put Guilt and Shame on the narcissist. 4. Collapse Emotionally. 5. Fawning, Enter into the Appeasement Mode. 6. Share your Needs, Hurts, and Desires. 7. Take their Insults Personally. Remember: There is no we/us. Prioritize selfcare. Respect your boundaries & values. Stay calm, don't explain/defend, "nonetheless". Greatly lower your expectations. Make yourself less/unavailable. They are very broken, you cannot fix them.
@jasongrice5465
2 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for making the list 😊
@makeishabanks6964
Жыл бұрын
I so enjoy seeing Gus curled up on the couch. ❤
@desertgirlwarrior1921
Жыл бұрын
Number 1 ✅ Number 2 ✅ Number 3 ✅ Number 4 ✅ Number 5 ✅ Number 6 ✅ Number 7✅ ON POINT as ALWAYS Dr C!!! Have tried all of them over the years but you're spot on...to absolutely no avail!! 😓 What an invaluable source of information you are in assisting us to grow from our painful encounters with these people... from having to endure such darkness of their souls, but now thanks to you, moving on towards the light of dignity, respect, civility & peace. Eternally grateful ❤💎🙏🙌
@SurvivingNarcissism
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!!
@truthh8597
Жыл бұрын
7 Things that will get you into trouble with the narc- 1) Go into a battle for control 2) Go into a pleading or persuasive style of communication with them 3) Putting guilt and shame on them for treating you badly 4) You can collapse emotionally (you tell them you got to me) 5) Over-appeasement, fawning, becoming a pleaser (you denigrate yourself) 6) Maybe if I can appeal to the narc’s decency and humanity (it does not exist) 7) You can take their insults personally (they insult everyone)
@rahrahrobbbieee
Жыл бұрын
Thanks
@truthh8597
Жыл бұрын
Welcome
@jodiburnett6211
2 жыл бұрын
I’m listening to your advice while applying it in my mind-why you just don’t mess with Dracula. Because he’s Dracula. Thank you so much for your help. Your kind, yet no bs approach is a balm.
@elainebau6354
Жыл бұрын
I love the sincerity of these videos. His calming voice is love.
@SurvivingNarcissism
Жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@t.l.7733
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. C, I think " Team Healthy" needs to create a board game (like Monopoly, Trivia Pursuit, etc.) that covers all things Narcissism ( tactics & terminology). A different way for victims, survivors to learn, engage, & heal. I guess the winner would get a future- faked prize or a Team Healthy Gus bobblehead 🐕
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Great idea. And a Gus bobblehead is an excellent marketing tool!
@aaronkwolfe
Жыл бұрын
Hmmm. “Narcissopoly” might have an added feature to bring awareness to the masses.
@thinkingallowed1st
Жыл бұрын
I have hated myself for mimicking their actions. Thank you for putting me onto the healthy path. I didnt like who id become
@stevesilver6444
Жыл бұрын
WOW, what great advise! I have fallen for all 7 many times -I was raised by one! (mother) -I married one! -then recently I discovered my sister was one, but she has always quietly played her games incognito! It took me so many years to discover and put 2 & 2 together concerning the person who I often confided in! (I always wondered how it was that my goals & plans were messed up 🤷🏼♂️) Turns out my sister does not respect freedom of choice! she would never tell me to my face that she did not approve, instead she pretended to like my ideas then quietly behind my back she would do anything & say anything to prevent my success! The level of my frustration is to the point of wanting to disappear from my family - there are many generations of this behavior.
@honey-feeney9800
2 жыл бұрын
I love Dr. Carter’s southern drawl and his Style, like a back country southern therapist. I’m a city girl and listening to Dr. Carter relaxes me.
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Pleased!
@southerncatlady
Жыл бұрын
I HATE that I fell into the mimicking cycle. I hate who I became with that person. I have always been stubborn, and utterly unwilling to take blame that isn't mine to take. But I turned into a nutcase about it, and I was so high strung that I was always prepared for a fight every second of every day. I hate that version of me. I don't ever want to be that person again!
@donna-colorado8443
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. C. You are such a loving caring person and I want to thank you(can't thank you enough)for helping all of understand what we are up against. Please give Gus a pet and a big hug from me. Please tell your wife hello and I hope you all have a blessed day.
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Donna!
@breakthroughmoment1647
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Dr. C, for your clarity on the subject. We morph into clones of them when we adopt their maladaptive coping mechanisms.
@VOCALCHEMY
2 жыл бұрын
Omg..... I've made every effort to check off all of the covered 7 examples!!!! Doc you're a blessing 🙌 🙏 ✨️ 💕 tears in my eyes and my smile is so wide... only bc you've confirmed the truth....this is the reason why I am open and desire to share my truth in public where I feel like I am safe to say the team healthy, yall we are officially stronger than ever ♥️
@Bellasun670
Жыл бұрын
I believe these videos have saved my sanity! Thank you for doing this… I realize I have been dealing with these throughout my entire life… I’ve also had some amazing people in my life… there are things I’m learning about boundaries and when to walk away and when to run…. I truly am grateful… I just dodged a bullet with a covert narcissist… I knew something was terribly off… I was feeling so confused and constantly felt off balance. When I finally got away from him I was able to have more clarity and now I understand what I couldn’t see when I was too close to the situation. Thank you from the bottom of my ❤️!
@SurvivingNarcissism
Жыл бұрын
You are quite welcome, Kimberly. Thanks for the encouraging words. Glad to be on the path with you!
@iys6890
Жыл бұрын
Anything you say or do will be used against you! Love that! Spot on!
@jeffwilliams9086
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for another great video!!! You have helped me adjust to my realities in a way I could never repay. I appreciate you so very much, such a blessing.
@americanmomma7674
2 жыл бұрын
I truly love and appreciate the information you provide in your videos, and am extremely grateful. That said, your doggie on the couch sleeping just fills my soul with joy….😁
@cathyaceves8611
5 ай бұрын
I think I have collapsed emotionally in silence. Silence has become the name of the game sigh
@carmenanderson2303
Жыл бұрын
Smiling! Never smile at a crocodile.
@Survivin2Thrivin
2 жыл бұрын
TIMELY information here. As always. THANK YOU
@SurvivingNarcissism
2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@OSTARAEB4
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, they always have an agenda that benefits them. They view any opinion other than yours is a threat to them and a direct challenge. It’s like staring a bear in the eyes. Yes, they are bossy and insult your intelligence by assuming you’re stupid. One I picked up a Hoover early in pandemic by picking up the phone after fifteen, twenty years which I knew was a mistake. She’d call several times a day to talk about nothing. I had to put the phone down and walk away and I can’t stand needy, dramatic people. She’s divorced and now living with a new guy. I live far away and always felt she called to butter me up for a New crash pad in the event The ex-con she’s with now threw her out. Yes, she insulted me constantly and told me I lived in the past but always told me stories about herself decades ago. I told her I’ve heard these stories several times and she of course didn’t like that. I went no contact about eighteen months ago or so. I feel much better and I don’t have headaches or tight chest anymore. A toxic, abusive mess! She told me I was a fraud which nobody has ever said to me. She has no justification for that accusation but I looked her up regarding employment platforms well known that begins with letter « L ». It’s all lies and indicates she’s still working which is a blatant lie given what she told me about her health. Even the picture of her is circa late nineties, early 2000’s and her glowing reference was from her ex sister in law! Yet, I’m the « fraud ». She embellished her job in food industry as though she was the founder of some major green, sustainable food fancy. I imagine her real job was wearing a uniform with a name badge and asking if you want the combo meal. 🍔😀😅
@oxigenarian9763
Жыл бұрын
"...your relationship skills become less and less effective." It took me a long time to figure out that typical relationship improvement advice is oil and water with these people. I spent years agonizing over my own inability to connect only to find out that you can't, you have to do the OPPOSITE of what the 'experts' tell you to do in order to get along with narcissistic personalities. These experts base their advice on people who are emotionally healthy and rarely admit that narcissistic relationships are a different problem altogether. Speaking from personal experience, Dr. Carter's video is solid gold advice on managing this kind of relationship when you can't just walk away....
@DartmoorPaul
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr Carter. I’ve tried over many decades with my mum to get through and see some empathy, but now I realise she is a narcissist and your video here summed it up, all my efforts were wasted on her and actually caused my collapse.
@janjeny
Жыл бұрын
I tried to make my husband respond to my kindness friendship ans every time i was confronted with wall I realize I have made all these mistakes but no more. He says that I have changed and I am glad that he noticed. Thank you Thank you Dr Carter for the wonderful work you offer to us all
@einahsirro1488
Ай бұрын
I have done all 7 of these while trying to deal with my mother.
@hathlete4ever916
Жыл бұрын
When you realize that certain people are narcissists and the less you deal with them, the better off you will be in the long run. In fact, in your personal life taking things into consideration, not having to deal with them you can avoid trouble without them around. Some situations as sad and as ugly as it is we have no way of doing so because we have no choice but we have to see them like in a work setting, business gathering, family situation, etc. When you do have to come into contact with them, you don't find trouble, trouble finds you. Thank you Dr Carter! I hope this makes sense and has a point.
@lorilarsen9360
2 жыл бұрын
You bring great resources each time!! It’s amazing how I (and I’m sure sooo many others) get the exactly right message just at the right time! Thanks Gus!!! Also you too Dr Carter!
@VictoriaRebecca
Жыл бұрын
This is very insightful and helpful - these are all of the mistakes i have been making with the covert narcissist in my life -thank you so much! The more i learn about narcissism, the more i fully understand the meaning of "knowledge is power"
@IamStreber
5 ай бұрын
I kbow that this video is a year old , Dr.C thank you. I used to believe that I was broken because I felt so much pain and anger. I still feel it but I don’t see myself broken any more. The pain and anger is part of me and I don’t carry it anymore, instead I have learned to listened to it. I have been listening to you for a month now and I have learned what I wished I would have learned a long time ago. Thank you for your videos and thank you for showing me that it’s okay to be me.
@SurvivingNarcissism
5 ай бұрын
You are quite welcome!
@dianadeane9233
2 жыл бұрын
Each of these “maybe things will be ok if…” bargaining, anger, disbelief, sounds a bit like the stages of grief. 🤔💭
@Georgia.O
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes putting those boundaries is not readily feasible, if for example the narcissist is a boss or someone in a position of authority.
@triciapotter3331
5 ай бұрын
I agree with all of these mistakes and have made a myriad of them. Now, i just don't speak, am polite, and I mind my own business. Its not perfect but it helps.
@callalilly1988
Жыл бұрын
Oh, the circular debates. I learned to stop it once I saw one coming on. He did not like that. I noticed going home to my parents one time that I had picked up a habit that infuriated me with the narcissist. I was doing it to my mum, my intent was not malicious but it made me sick when I realised it. It made me feel like I needed to scour my soul with boiling water and bleach .
@maxwell-cole
Жыл бұрын
If there’s one important thing that I’ve learned from your amazing videos and knowledge about this is that it’s not worth ever battling for control in any relationship, especially a relationship with a narcissist. Time to catch up on this week’s videos.
@Sonzoul1
Жыл бұрын
bad habits emerge when you are around them WOW.
@lk8856
2 жыл бұрын
Dignity respect civility peace. Great words to live by.
@Earthether
Жыл бұрын
yes on circular argument. absolutely...they get madder and worse. these points are all correct.
@Cat-oj4oz
2 жыл бұрын
Woof! I'm thinking of how robotic I'm going to have to become to deal with the narc...it's going to take a lot of brain scrubbing to remove my "person" from the "transaction". When I "backslide" into personhood, I need your voice of reason...I go to church to become a better person, then have to pull the old switcheroo...I've developed concentric circles in my eyes, along with whiplash; the good thing is: the narc has a lovely daughter!
@AlwaysStampinVideos
2 жыл бұрын
Journal worthy instructions, Dr Carter! 💜
@sarilnn1603
2 жыл бұрын
Greetings to you and Gus. The constant craving for attention never abates. It allows you to go inward and allow for comfortable, peaceful, boundaries.
@sandys2672
2 жыл бұрын
With all due respect, I dont believe “Sulking and whining” is a good way to describe The emotional response of someone who is suffering narcissistic abuse. Especially when they’re being vulnerable because they trust you to help them.
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
I think anyone who has been in a long-term relationship with a narcissist has done all of the things that Dr. Carter listed. First it takes quite a while to understand that what you’re dealing with is a narcissist. Give yourself grace, because coming out of a narcissistic relationship is one of the hardest things that we could ever do. Learning to deal with a narcissist in a way that is healthy for us takes a lot of time to figure out. I look at Dr. Carter’s topics as information that will help me go forward. I think “7 Mistakes” gives us tools to work with, that will make our lives a little easier. I think about these things now when I have to interact with the narcissist. Sometimes I fall back into these old patterns. Give yourself grace. Two steps forward, 1 step back.
@janetstephens9563
2 жыл бұрын
I agree that Dr. Carter’s words may sound somewhat insensitive, but I am sure that is not his intent. He’s human just like the rest of us, and things may not come out “the right way.” Overlook the things that bother you, and glean the things that will help you.
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