How you described being alone with someone of the opposite sex is one of the contributing factors for me continuing as a stay at home Mom and wife. Having a job in the world makes it quite difficult to avoid appearances of indiscretion. I’ve done the same with someone coming as a worker in my house, i had someone coming for a quote on windows and I had him wait outside until the person I had coming to be in the house with me got there. It was awkward the first time I said the please wait outside until they get here, but I’m so glad i did & it is way easier.
@RomanticRomeoCasanova69
3 жыл бұрын
I would describe it as a horned corno manso.
@TheSonshineLife
6 жыл бұрын
Girl, I absolutely love the way you see and talk about marriage!!!! And I absolutely look forward to Marriage Monday's. Keep on looking onto Jesus and fighting the good fight and persevering on this pilgrimage we are on- especially in your marriage! Not only because it is God's will that you fulfill you first and foremost role as helper to your husband, but also because you really are helping all of us Christian women out here that truly desire to love, obey and glorify the LORD and want to truly honor, serve and respect our husbands but struggle in this battle that often times feels like a war headed towards defeat and despair. But I'm so encouraged by you!!! By your choice to CHOOSE to be an excellent wife, and your choice to encourage women in their marriages and have a high view of marriage as God sees it. Your sister in Christ- Listening to you from eastern Montana😁
@moments_peace
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I have been married for 15 years and it’s been a huge blessing. We set up boundaries at the very beginning of our courtship. When technology became a bigger part of our lives, along with my husband now working in an office setting, we continue to set up new boundaries. I often find myself encouraging young married couples or soon to be married couples on these issues. It’s kinda sad most marriage counseling doesn’t address this at all. It’s wisdom in action. I love that you shared your wisdom with us! It will help many and encourage many who already practice a lot of this! Thanks! I love your channel so much because of the biblical wisdom, heart for God’s glory and encouragement to keep pressing in and on! Thanks!!!
@shannonedgar6781
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alana! I love what you had so say about all these topics. About the In-law boundaries, I've been quite worried about this lately because my mother-in-law is planning to move in with us after we buy our first home so she can have a new home built on her property. Anyway, she will be living with us for 6-9 months 😬 I worry every night about how that's all going to work out. She's a good lady, but doesn't have the same opinions on parenting and health. I'm planning to make a list (lovingly) of things to discuss before the move. I'm naturally a people pleaser and this is so hard for me! Lol but I know it's necessary. Thanks for being so honest and truthful with your videos ☺️
@creationoflove84
6 жыл бұрын
you just make me SMILE! Would you consider making a video on bonding spiritually with your husband? I am fascinated about that...that has not happened with my husband and I...yet...the Lord is working.
@hannasamiya3560
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Alanna, I am letting myself be moved by your gentleness.
@kristinccha
6 жыл бұрын
Also I do appreciate how vulnerable you were in this.
@nancyyaguila
6 жыл бұрын
Hello Alana, i recently came across your videos and i feel so content that i have! Its been helping me improve my marriage so much ❤
@kristinccha
6 жыл бұрын
Right before staying home with my daughter I nannied for a family who worked from home. It was often the mom that was there but there were times I was alone all day with the dad. I tried to keep it professional but I hated it as he was a chatty cathy.
@missnatalieOK
5 жыл бұрын
You rock! Thank you Alana💖
@ashlieleavelle
6 жыл бұрын
Great video Alana!
@mrskhan597
Жыл бұрын
Hello! This was such a great advice. I am so glad I came across your channel. I'm finding all marriage and faith related videos and going to take notes while I binge watch. God bless you
@RomanticRomeoCasanova69
Жыл бұрын
Mari complaisant greetings and corno manso blessings on this dark and stormy night. As the elders that stir the magic berries with their golden rods, bounce up and down on their raised beds, listening to the roasted pecan birds that ring the bells, watching your husband's severly dilapidated hair on his nearly decapitated head blow in the wind like an antiquated spanish kite. While the goblins gobble tales in the forests of yestertime, with the old oak trees moaning their discomfort. For cocu content is the way of your meek horn husband with the red face of compersion. ❤
@vickieneal3495
6 жыл бұрын
Alana, I'm not a Christian but I love your marriage videos so much. They are so wise & really speak to my heart. My husband & I had issues with him looking at "bikini girls" on Facebook . I looked back through your videos & they put a peace in my heart. Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
@southernmama7606
6 жыл бұрын
Love this. Thank you so much, sister. #lovefirst #onebody
@123genesse123
5 жыл бұрын
Wow thank you for this message! New subscriber and now I am trying to define my marriage since I just got engaged a couple of months ago. I’m still really young but the lord shall Guide me
@dsky93
6 жыл бұрын
You speak to my heart
@molife7044
2 жыл бұрын
Great advice! I agree with everything she has said here. I am so glad to know that I'm not outta touch or crazy! It makes me feel so much better about the decision I had to make by calling off my wedding to an unbeliever a few years ago. I was weak in my own faith and was tired of waiting for God to deliver me a spouse, so I returned to an old flame who I knew in the beginning was not a believer Thus, lots of mistakes were made. But, the thing that got my attention was the fact he chose an already married woman friend over me. I knew this was wrong especially since we had 4 months before the I Do's! And God put it on my heart and I felt uneasy and uncomfortable with her and the lack of boundaries between them. After, accepting his plan and respecting his way of dealing with the issue, I still wasn't really able to shake off the feelings about the relationship he has with her...and so thus another conversation that ended up him chosing her over me ending our engagement and wedding. He eventually realized his mistake but I stood firm in my decision not to be yoked to a unbeliever. He gaslighted me a lot making me think that I was crazy thinking this same way you speak about in this video. I am so grateful you are making these videos and speaking the truth. God Bless You!💜🌈
@venz_between_the_lines3748
6 жыл бұрын
Hello Alana, Its a great video again. Thank you so much..My marriage life its better because of your advice's and of course we have some struggles every now and then but its fine because that's part of our marriage life. But your videos help a lot.. How to be a submissive wife and also a christian womanhood. I remembered 3 years ago i found you here in KZitem. "Meets you husband needs..Look beautiful for him" I don't usually comment but i wanna say thank you and please do more videos about marriage and an example of a christian womanhood. God Bless. Best Regards Venes From NH
@kellyslittleonesnursey
6 жыл бұрын
I hope I can find a guy that loves God as much as I do one day great video
@aliviabailey9289
4 жыл бұрын
you are so wise!
@pupreader7057
6 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@ericairwin1039
6 жыл бұрын
Yes amen your right!!!
@rebecasparaco7127
6 жыл бұрын
A video on how important it is to still date each other and what to do if you lose the fire of passion for each other....maybe
@candycoated9542
5 жыл бұрын
All smart ideas 💡 in my opinion. All it takes is a ordinary everyday moment for temptation or unGodly thoughts to creep in. It’s always better safe than sorry.
@rebecasparaco7127
6 жыл бұрын
Video on blended families. Most people think I their kids come before their spouses. Cuz they aren’t the real parent
@Neshiadays
3 жыл бұрын
Hi I know this video is old, but can you talk about Gen 2: 24:25
@calaudine69
6 жыл бұрын
My wife keeps telling me that she always had male friends and keeps getting in touch with them. I keep telling her that a married woman should not be like that.
@stormrising2623
3 жыл бұрын
That's correct. It's a huge red flag.
@feardabeard7635
6 жыл бұрын
I don't know how I got here but interesting. I get all of what your saying. My Queen will NEVER be alone with a guy and I wont EVER be alone with a women. Its not we don't trust us, its them we don't trust. The phone part is we don't care its not a problem at all. Porn well we do not watch porn but some kind of porn is always the TV we watch these days and at times like you my wife will ask and I'm always like no no no I don't and she's always like I know I'm sorry its juts I wont you to always think I'm pretty and I worry and we women age different from men meaning she said guys get better looking as we age. Its imported for us men to make sure we tell our women everyday how sexy and beautiful she is to help her past what she's thinking. Our #1 rule in my family is we put God before all and all will be put there for us by the blood of his son.
@missnatalieOK
4 жыл бұрын
I have Absoulty NO male friends...and Im loving it. My man is all I need. I did before my relationship- in fact, I was a bartender & very social butterfly, BUT with a snap of a finger, just like that, boundarys naturally fell into place & everything was meant to be in God's will. I don't miss a darn thing! I LOVE being domesticated lol. I'm lucky enough where my boyfriend is strict with that same mentally. I do not worry. Boundarys are so important. They come more natural for us, because we talked about it in the courting stage- we don't set ourselves up for any disaster. I work part time taking care of elderly or children, the way I like it. Out of harms way. If your gut feeling is speaking to you, listen. Hes my other half. Amen.💖💙
@Rayrayray-fv3oo
6 жыл бұрын
What are your thoughts on women wearing head coverings ???
@AlanaL3
6 жыл бұрын
Avalitas Mommy they can do that if they want to as long as they don’t condemn others for not. I think it is a personal conviction and not a biblical mandate for today. When head coverings are discussed in first Corinthians it is paul speaking directly to the situation and matters of the people of the church of Corinth. Their customs were different then...That is not law or command for us today, but if someone wants to of course they are free to as long as they understand it’s a personal decision not a law that they’re following and not condemning others or judging others for not following they’re in the right heart...
@user-vg8ez9cu6u
4 жыл бұрын
topics/boundaries that a man and woman should discuss prior to deciding to marry is: -use of pornography -slow dancing with opposite sex -in-laws influence on spouse and children -troublesome friends that lead spouse away from marriage/toward temptation -viewing of journals/diaries, cell phones, social media passwords, medical records -prenuptial agreements -opposite sex friends of your spouse (including exes) -flirting with opposite sex -being alone with opposite sex (for work or otherwise)
@kaybrayn7099
6 жыл бұрын
I have a topic suggestion regarding marriage that is never talked about, sex in marriage or lack of. Not due to the wife, but the husband. What do you do if you have tried everything, and the husband always has an excuse, or will comply 50% of the time when the wife initiates? Are you biblically 'allowed' to divorce in this case, or are you forever trapped in a sexless marriage.
@hannahparks6396
6 жыл бұрын
Good morning! What do you do when your husband believes in Jehovah, but doesnt serve him? My husband spends time with friends who encourage strip clubs, sex before marriage, rated R movies, illegal things, drinking, smoking, the whole 9 yards. He says its wrong and he will change then go and do all of it again.
@AlanaL3
6 жыл бұрын
Hannah Parks oh goodness:( that doesn’t seem like a person transformed by the Holy Spirit...if we know Jesus, we change. If we continue in sin and say we know him, we are liars. 1 John ....the way is narrow....MANY will say to Jesus didn’t we do this or that in your name?! And he will say I never knew you...pray for his salvation
@hannahparks6396
6 жыл бұрын
I agree. But how do I handle it? I have been choosing to love him and treat him kindly and be a godly wife, even though he doesnt live for Christ. He believes, hes not an atheist, but he doesnt want to leave the worldly things. So he blocks out Christ, because he knows he will feel compelled to leave his "friends" and the way of life hes living
@OnlyInMyDreams
6 жыл бұрын
🍀😁🌈👍
@stefaniemedina14
5 жыл бұрын
I think it is a little extreme to expect your spouse to give up their male/female friends for you. A spouse that expects that is very insecure. My husband has lots of female friends and it doesn't bother me. I trust him and some of these people have been his friends for more than 20 years.
@XxPinCushioN21xX
5 жыл бұрын
Its not giving them up its changing the relationship of how they used to have them before married. Now his friends should become your friends too. Boundaries are important.
@RomanticRomeoCasanova69
3 жыл бұрын
If you kissed another guy your husband would get turned on. FACTS!
@RomanticRomeoCasanova69
2 жыл бұрын
I remember this comment I made. Whenever you get in a heated argument with your husband the best thing to do is to visit a hefty lumberjack farmer neighbor. 👺 When you come back your husband will be much more happy, attentive and respectful. And that is just how he will act towards the burly neighbor! For you, he will treat you like the beautiful princess you are. ❤️
@RomanticRomeoCasanova69
2 жыл бұрын
Corno manso blessings for you as well Alana, for that is the way of the meek horn husband after a red faced heated argument. 👺
@harveywallbanger3863
Жыл бұрын
Yes that is very true. All husbands have compersion and are stimulated visually by watching. This is a fact.
@RomanticRomeoCasanova69
Жыл бұрын
@@harveywallbanger3863 Si señor. No exceptions. The longer the marriage the greater the compersion the husband has for his wife and her male friends. Conversely, the longer the marriage the greater the jealousy and insecurity a wife has for her husband. She is right of course. The lust of men can't be trusted as Alana corrected stated but a woman can separate her godly life from outside activities without getting emotionally attached to her pursuits. She is safe. He is not. A husband should be 100% faithful to his wife!!!
@harveywallbanger3863
6 жыл бұрын
So what would you do if you got stuck in an elevator with Paul Washer for a few hours? Keep in mind that it would get very hot in there without any air circulation.
@WILD-CAVEMAN-123
6 жыл бұрын
Maybe I shouldn't reveal this but Hector once told me that his greatest desire was to be tied up and forced to watch a muscular, well endowed black man make passionate love to you while you smile and wink at him.
@WILD-CAVEMAN-123
6 жыл бұрын
Hector also told me on Facebook that he has always been 100% devoted to you and never has had any interest in any other women and has eyes only for his wife and that the reason he sometime does not listen or make any effort with things is because he does not respect you for not taking the very careful steps needed to fulfill his most secret fantasies that he mentioned before...the same fantasies that ALL married men share in secret...just take a look at internet statistics on porn fantasies to validate this fact of biological natural law. It takes a strong woman to take the initiative to help gain her husbands respect to mold and improve him into a better person. Men are jealous and paranoid only when their wives do things behind their backs (adultery) but always respect women when they are open and honest because we are blunt and visual creatures. When men overreact with their "psycho" jealousy...such as when he sees his wife kissing another guy... it is a mask to hide his secret lust and he does it only because society expects it of him and also to show that he loves you. It's funny how men's minds work sometimes...
@WILD-CAVEMAN-123
4 жыл бұрын
@@hillhiker1468 You are obviously new to this channel. Hector is Alana's husband and when he is gone selling real estate, mixed martial artists like to use her toned, fit body as their own real estate.
@WILD-CAVEMAN-123
4 жыл бұрын
@@hillhiker1468 Alana is a devoted Christian that has a secret dark side just like most Gemini's. She herself will tell you that she is a sinner and as flawed as everybody else but her devotion to Christ and God is true. She puts them far above her husband. She is attracted to tough, muscular men that are good fighters.
@WILD-CAVEMAN-123
4 жыл бұрын
@@hillhiker1468 Both. She puts God at the top. Then Jesus. Then the mixed martial artists such as John Balboa, Silvio Cabrera, and she really loves Texas Cage Fighting. Then her husband Hector. He is not jealous at all about his wife being attracted to those men because he wants the best for his wife whom he adores.
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