Don't let a boyfriend stop you from finding your husband. Too many women have wasted their time and youth on a man who didn't want them.
@DBrown-vg1fi
8 ай бұрын
Come on Somebody!
@racheluk87
8 ай бұрын
💯💯
@Everyoneisanartist776
8 ай бұрын
🎤 📖 🕊️ PREACH!
@catesj15
8 ай бұрын
Say that!
@jmorgan5870
8 ай бұрын
*finding yourself
@jalisabradford6201
8 ай бұрын
Y'all wonder why I'm still single going on 9 years. I'm not putting up with foolishness like this. Eight years, eight years!!!! All of sudden, he ghosted her. SMH.
@shawnni3014
8 ай бұрын
I been single almost 11 years I said the same thing I’m not doing relationship anymore I’m good on that
@winning3329
8 ай бұрын
I'm 5 years single and celibate and happy 😊
@Everyoneisanartist776
8 ай бұрын
@@winning3329❤
@Roni-Ron
8 ай бұрын
It has to be something missing
@PettyIsMyMiddleName
8 ай бұрын
Right
@hardcandy71287
8 ай бұрын
i fully believe if a man has not proposed within 2 years, he doesn't want to marry you. don't give him any ultimatums. if there's no ring by the 2 year mark, just up and leave. you don't want a "shut up ring". he'll resent you even more.
@kammie225
8 ай бұрын
if you are too young 2 years isnt enough. however i agree once you get into your late 20s
@elle_l808l
8 ай бұрын
I agree, i also believe women should start only committing once the man actively starts courting you, other than that have multiple suitors
@hardcandy71287
8 ай бұрын
@@elle_l808l i'm at the point where women shouldn't sleep with men until he says that it's exclusive. but we can't tell them that we're waiting for exclusivity. he may pretend that it's exclusive to get what he wants and then dips. we don't want none of this casual situationship mess. none of the wlll he, won't he commit bs even though you've already given your body to him.
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
@@elle_l808lyes Ma’am
@andisamanaga9838
8 ай бұрын
Within 6 months he should already be talking about a future with you. 🫠
@unapologeticallyhuman
8 ай бұрын
What makes me sad is people think being married stops man from doing this. If you think being married will save you from heart ache you’re in for a rude awakening
@cyndeepokorny3413
8 ай бұрын
It doesn’t but it can potentially give you financial leverage when the relationship expires.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
You have waaaay less rights when you're not married.
@garnetjanuary9104
8 ай бұрын
FOR THE ONES SCREAMING MARRIAGE WILL ENSURE FINANCIAL GAIN 🔊📢Most women outside the US don’t have as many rights once married to a man. They’re tethered to the man and often with no option of leaving despite bad treatments/behaviors… I know some women who have been married for decades in the US who still come out losing. Our patriarchal systems are designed to benefit ONLY men.
@LadyAstarionAncunin
8 ай бұрын
People take the symbolic step of entering marriage as an indication that the person is ready to be serious. But, if the guy is a lame, marrying him will not end in a good result, no.
@LilySaintSin
8 ай бұрын
Yup! Exactly 💯
@noniboo1521
8 ай бұрын
Years ago a male friend told me men can be with you and actually dislike as long as your giving them certain things they want. Stop giving a man years of your life without getting a commitment. I guarantee this man's friends and family knew about this other women.
@Mochalolo1928
8 ай бұрын
Yes to the family and friends knowing! I cannot tell you how hurt I was after a breakup and their family that “loved me to death” and “couldn’t see him with anyone else” unfriended me and acted like I never existed 😒 I learned a lot from that experience.
@ARS-fn6px
8 ай бұрын
They are born evil.
@hlb9834
8 ай бұрын
@@Mochalolo1928 Ouch :(. That's seriously f***ed up. I'm so sorry you experienced that.
@2_blAck
8 ай бұрын
@@ARS-fn6px😂👍🏽Yep! Fallen Demons meant for Hell🤮
@janjanl1812
8 ай бұрын
@@ARS-fn6pxtrue that!!!
@myso-calledfastinglife9561
8 ай бұрын
Men complain about women who want established, accomplished, financial stable/successful. Meanwhile, they will work to get established and financially stable and THEN persue a woman with higher standards, who seeks a successful man. Men want women at EVERY station of their life. If women only entertain successful men, who will they have build them up for their "dream girls?"... I hate to say it, but these men put themselves and their goals first. Period. We need to be more like them in this one regard.
@Hyear2030
8 ай бұрын
Complaining happens because they would like sex, 50/50, a roommate, a cook out of you, while they are struggling. They need a woman for the down years, and then when they level up, they'll get the woman who would never do those things. So any man complaining about a woman's standards feels this way. They don't want to be lonely and without sex while they slum it.
@queenchinenye2378
8 ай бұрын
A broke man is your down fall dont build men, dont be with a man when he is in survival mode he will make your lif a living hell.
@queenchinenye2378
8 ай бұрын
explains my boyfriend , he doesnt have it all he doesnt want to be lonely he is always looking for someone who can keep him company while he builds himself to get the love of his life thats why im distancing myslef and not being no booty call, or cheap hoe when his down, my price has been raised up. @@Hyear2030
@queenchinenye2378
8 ай бұрын
date for money , meet them when they have it all already , be their dream girl, dress, look and present yourself like a dream girl, dont build a man@@Hyear2030
@tiahnarodriguez3809
8 ай бұрын
@@Hyear2030 Bingo 🎯
@FearfullyandWonderfullyMade.
8 ай бұрын
Ask questions. I don’t want any man who broke up with his gf he’s been with for even 2 years and left her devastated, just to propose to me. No! Declined! Take your ring back.
@sensimania
8 ай бұрын
He probably never even told her he did that. And even if he did, he probably embellished it to work in his favour (e.g. she was crazy, i broke up with her months/years ago but she wouldnt leave me alone, she wasn't even my girlfriend etc). We know what they're like already
@Inkbkank.2029
8 ай бұрын
My ex updated for 2 years, we were both toxic and he lied about a job. He ended up marrying the girl that's been in the background. His so-called friend. He recently married her within 8 months after he threatened me. Because he cheated on me. And I found out so I got a restraint order and did him a favor He kept postponing the restraint order because he's a actual narcissist. He wanted me as a backup person. In case it didn't work out in our relationship. He mentioned this girl being his friend and the past. So he ended up marrying her down. The line right when my restraint order was up.😂 He even unblocked me and tagged me
@Hyear2030
8 ай бұрын
😂 you'd have to find a very casual way to do it. Otherwise he'd just lie. And after you got the answer, it'd be a toss up. I know men who haven't done it, but a lot of men have. Tons of men have played a girl and then turned around and married someone. One of my ex's will do it, if he hasn't already. Most husband's have been awful people to a girlfriend. Maybe highschool, maybe the girl they strung along for 8 years.
@Hyear2030
8 ай бұрын
@@sensimania😂 I remember a guy telling me he had been with a girl for 6 years and that he didn't marry her only because she was crazy. So why didn't he leave, if she was crazy for 6 years? I didn't buy it and I never went on another date with him. I can tell when men sit up and lie on women they promised to marry, then turn around and move on.
@sensimania
8 ай бұрын
@@Hyear2030 Exactly, lol! Good on ya sis 👏👏. They really think we're stoopid
@thegreylady7797
8 ай бұрын
I get it but marriage isnt a guarantee of anything either. Men marry women they dont even like all the time too. Its all a gamble so dont forget that prenup if you decide to get married
@michalovesanime
8 ай бұрын
Exactly
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
That's true but at least you're getting a commitment with legal protections. There'll be a lot less Shenanigans if women at least got the ring
@thegreylady7797
8 ай бұрын
@ineedhoez the prenup provides the protections, not having 1 is why ppl end up in messy divorces. A "ring" is not protecting anybody from getting cheated on, STD's, not doing their part in the home/with the kids. Not saying marriage is pointless, but in this day and age it doesnt guarantee you any security and unless you're rich, its going to eat up your money to get out of it when things go south. Unfortunately no amount of planning or vetting or being a good person can save anybody from that. Its pretty much just luck if you marry someone who is on the same page as you and not having an ulterior motive or lying, thats reality
@Opinionatedcancer
8 ай бұрын
Closure is a myth. Take that L and move on
@ariaryayy7314
8 ай бұрын
Fact. The way he ghosted her is the closure. Don’t fight it.
@hubabaloop
8 ай бұрын
@@ariaryayy7314exactly
@mignalyortiz4589
8 ай бұрын
Oh hell no. People keep telling me I need to be open to dating again after I got ghosted by my boyfriend of 2 years. Absolutely not! And he tried to reach out to me via text on Christmas and I deleted his message. He can kick rocks.
@kaycampbell364
8 ай бұрын
never acknowledge his existence ever again....he sees you as intellectually inept
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
He thought if he didn't give you closure, he could keep one foot in the doorway. 😒
@mignalyortiz4589
8 ай бұрын
@@StephieGsrEvolution I'm sure he thinks that but I kicked that door closed a while back.
@LadyAstarionAncunin
8 ай бұрын
@@StephieGsrEvolution That's exactly it!
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
Don't be a codependent anorexic. Just remember the golden rule of relationships. You measure a man's willingness to be in a relationship with you by his love, respect, and care contributions. Look at a man's actions and ask if they are loving, caring, and respectful? That will tell you everything you need to know about him. The moment he stops making his contributions, you leave.
@Ninsidhe
8 ай бұрын
“Buy a house, don’t play house”- yes yes yes! Do not build men up, don’t PLAY HOUSE, don’t live with them- focus on your OWN well being, wealth and health.
@queenchinenye2378
8 ай бұрын
only visit for a day and leave
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
💯💯💯🤍
@SweetAven00
8 ай бұрын
Parents who watch this go down are the lowest people
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
Yep!!! That’s a whole different topic
@UmbraZuri
8 ай бұрын
Exactly, they'd been together for so long! Someone should've told her, even just out of pity.
@sparklyunicorn5431
8 ай бұрын
Men are users lol, even when married most of the time 😔 its really rare to find a good one.
@tranquility9325
8 ай бұрын
Yup married man try to sample women outside of their marriages all the time.
@heneverforesakesme4038
8 ай бұрын
Ladies, ladies, ladies. No cooking, cleaning, or anything of that sort while the gf. Stop giving men wifey benefits at gf prices. Move ON...
@XXLady
8 ай бұрын
Exactly. And no living together!
@cottonhairedaesthetic2005
8 ай бұрын
…. The cost of living is so high I let him move in. 😅 sorry ya’ll I know it’s wrong
@IAMHERE486
8 ай бұрын
@@cottonhairedaesthetic2005It’s better to stay with family or get a roommate.
@justjackie4394
8 ай бұрын
@@cottonhairedaesthetic2005 I hate living with my family, but my significant other is going through law school, so I would rather be annoyed with living with family then jeopardize the ring. 🙅🏾♀️
@Hyear2030
8 ай бұрын
😂no sex either!!
@kaylalaster1038
8 ай бұрын
Also we as women have to stop going away silently. 🗣️TELL THE OTHER WOMAN. Bc if a man had been stringing another girl and me along at the same time for years and “picked me” while ghosting another poor girl you best believe I would want to know. That shows the lack of integrity he has and a lot of men are able to do crap like this bc we dont air out their dirty laundry and we SHOULD.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
💯💯💯
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
Perfectly said
@magoo9279
8 ай бұрын
Don't do that. Just cause his not happy with you, don't get involved with that. All that's going to do is make you look like the better ex. She's not going to believe you. Tell him off if that will make you feel better and move on.
@tammygarrett8427
8 ай бұрын
His friends and family knew what was going on.
@TinfoilHatGirl
8 ай бұрын
A western unmarried man temporarily in russia earning good money was a recipe for desaster.
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂 yeah, the Russian broads don't play.
@wattakesselly6463
8 ай бұрын
And heard those Russian women only date men with MONEY 😂😂 they have no time for dusties
@melanitex1089
6 ай бұрын
Exactly what I said. Like have you SEEN the women over there...huba huba!
@Diana734
8 ай бұрын
8 years...she disrespected herself accepting that bullshit.
@toscadonna
8 ай бұрын
I wouldn’t even go on 8 dates with a guy like that much less give him 8 years. What she didn’t mention is that all the while he was working out and being a prima Donna, she was paying their bills, because these athlete men aren’t working a job, paying the bills, and training like a professional athlete. It’s between 4 and 8 hours per day of training to be a professional athlete. Once he got the offer from Russia, it was over, because he knew he could “upgrade” to a Russian woman (who’d never pay a man’s bills). I feel badly for her, but men aren’t our partners. They don’t love us-especially if you’re paying for him and waiting around for a ring. Be forewarned.
@jetlerouge007xxo4
8 ай бұрын
PREACH HUNNI💯💅🏾
@corimoon3360
8 ай бұрын
and it's funny because sometimes they meet their Karma with that new woman they left the original woman for lol.
@LadyAstarionAncunin
8 ай бұрын
@@corimoon3360 And they'll be back trying to contact the woman they cheated on. And some weak women will take them back, thinking they won. / Aside from that, I'm binging a stalking podcast right now and some men will do this and then turn around and stalk their ex. Just insane.
@EconomicWarfare
8 ай бұрын
💯 Most males don't like women.
@MzAqua
8 ай бұрын
@@corimoon3360like Johnny Depp mess he had with Amber Heard
@ohhmyyken
8 ай бұрын
Ladies! We are standing on business this year!!! ❤
@racheluk87
8 ай бұрын
FACTS
@dajewel1982
8 ай бұрын
ON. BUSINESS!! Be as ruthless with your business as they are with your emotions
@pileshongwe7827
8 ай бұрын
Yep no time for games no time wasters
@sharisseg7214
8 ай бұрын
Notice as soon as he made it to where he wanted to be in life, he flipped the script. I pray whoever she is she finds happiness and takes time to heal. Ladies don’t remain girlfriends ever for this long, they always marry the next lady in less than a year.
@deborahgardner7862
8 ай бұрын
First of all, don’t shack up with a man, you have your place, let him have his, no matter how much you’ll save money or how convenient, Second don’t play wife for someone you’re not married too, and Third, the longer you stay with a man, you tend to show your entire hand, he gets to size you up for as long as you allow him to be there, and if he decides he knows what you’re offering, and he wants to try something else, he’ll stay with you, until he finds someone that shows him something different than you, what incentive does he have to marry you after eight years? And he doesn’t even have to pay for a divorce, he can just walk away. I say give yourself a year to know someone, and a year for him to propose, if he doesn’t move on, he stringing you along, two years is long enough.
@LadyLime100
8 ай бұрын
I think it's equally crazy that these women never notice that these men don't like them or want them and are just settling for them until something better comes along. It makes no sense to me how someone can be in a relationship for 8 years and not notice the man doesn't like them. I'm not convinced that there weren't any glaring signs.
@farmhouseonthemountain
8 ай бұрын
It's so cringe to be around. My brother is this way. He is hobosexual. No affection, doesn't even stand too close to them, treats his gfs like they're just his friends. I've heard one say, "Can you act like you like me today?" It's so weird.
@toscadonna
8 ай бұрын
My ex husband wouldn’t tell me the truth. I’d ask him if he wanted me to leave, he’d say no. I told him that I knew he didn’t like me, he’d say I was his best friend. When I called the movers, he dropped to his knees and begged me to stay. But each time I’d try to get the truth out of him that he didn’t really like me, he’d LIE but go right back to treating me like trash and ignoring me once the discussion was over. Women make the big mistake of confronting men and expecting the man to admit to the truth of their feelings, because the truth isn’t in his best interests. If a woman isn’t strong enough to sit alone and ask herself, “What is the truth? Does this man love me? Does this man even like me as a human being?”, then she’ll stay with him because his words will say he loves her. But she has to listen to that voice of truth that is in her heart/head, not his words.
@amilllion1
8 ай бұрын
Like when they refer to you as Bruh! Clue in ladies
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
Oh, of course there were signs. The problem is is that these women don't know how to interpret the signs. If you believe that love equals pain, every time that person inflicts pain upon you you think they love you.
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
@@toscadonnahe didn't want you to go that is the truth. You were a benefits package to him so he absolutely wanted to maintain his benefits.
@TM-nb9zf
8 ай бұрын
Rule number 1. Never make a man the love of your life. Ever. Even if he is a good man! You can tell him he is, but never actually think it or feel it. Always be prepared to be a single woman/mom. AT ANYTIME 😂 these men Do not care!
@Alex-Mex
8 ай бұрын
8 years?! Try 14! Finally I found out he was in a relationship with someone else for 4 years and were engaged. Imagine wasting 14 years of your life? I feel the reason why they stay with a woman for that many years is because he hasn’t found the woman of his dreams. Please don’t waste your time ladies. By year 2 move on, because there are men that use women until they found the one.
@Luckimee
8 ай бұрын
I knew it was over when he was going to Russia
@Everyoneisanartist776
8 ай бұрын
Man. I can just imagine the hollow, sunken feeling this poor woman is feeling. With this being such a sudden halt in her regular day to day, this has to feel like a death and a blow to her self worth. 😢
@adaofcharles1217
8 ай бұрын
As innn, i pray for her healing.
@Everyoneisanartist776
8 ай бұрын
@@adaofcharles1217 and the will to not give up on love. Happy New Year, best wishes to you and your love ones.
@adaofcharles1217
8 ай бұрын
@@Everyoneisanartist776 happy new year to you too Sis, much blessings to you and yours.
@kyojuroswife4112
8 ай бұрын
Self worth has nothing to do with external factors like relationships
@Everyoneisanartist776
8 ай бұрын
@@kyojuroswife4112 thanks for sharing your opinion.
@dajewel1982
8 ай бұрын
8 years ….and he ghosted her… I guarantee he left to move into a new home with someone else and is about to get married and start a whole family
@NiniBonita
8 ай бұрын
She tolerated to be a place holder for 8 yrs. He is a time waster.
@luzpena9970
8 ай бұрын
The man who said “must do time” got me crying of laughter lmaooo😂cuz fr! Time is too precious to be wasted on those not sure of you! That’s not a high quality life🥺
@sangomoon5456
8 ай бұрын
My ex that i was with for 2 years ghosted me too. That was how he "broke up" with me i guess. And, yes he was cheating. Im so done with men.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
💜💜💜
@artbygilik
5 ай бұрын
Such a cowardly move. I had a close guy friend of 4 years disappear after we went on a week vacation together and it took me a long time to get over it but I’m so glad he’s gone now
@Jill4200
8 ай бұрын
I instantly clicked as soon as I seen the title, these men are ruthless smh. My heart goes out to women who been through this 😔
@Mochalolo1928
8 ай бұрын
I have definitely learned that if the man isn’t quickly locking you down HE IS NOT INTO YOU! He’s not your soul mate. I’m sorry. I’m so sorry, but he’s not. This isn’t some slow burn love story of him growing and seeing you’re all he’s ever wanted and needed 😢 and even now some women will say “no, we’re the exception, this is meant to be and I just have to stick it out until he’s more mature”, and this comment is for you- that’s not true, he’s not taking time to mature, that’s not your soul mate. Please take some time for you to heal and then move on. You got this!!
@DBrown-vg1fi
8 ай бұрын
Amen Amen!
@IAMHERE486
8 ай бұрын
He could lock you down fast just to use you.The key is to understand the nature of men and use discernment.
@RedRoseSeptember22
8 ай бұрын
Yeah but sometimes they lock you down only to tear you down, have to watch out for that too. A lot of men get threatened by a beautiful woman who knows her worth, etc.
@Mochalolo1928
8 ай бұрын
@@RedRoseSeptember22 you are so right!! Always gotta stay vigilant out here
@emilymorris8957
8 ай бұрын
It's very very cruel and unkind to treat another human being like that. Well, karma does show up. They will end up marrying the wrong woman. If he was honest with her, he will marry the right woman later on.
@kaycampbell364
8 ай бұрын
cruelty and unkindness is their forte
@LilySaintSin
8 ай бұрын
Tbf, everyone's acting like the other woman was the love of his just because he married her, but to be for real he was cheating on her for the first six months of their relationship.
@q.t.gamingfamily
8 ай бұрын
Sisters, you have got to stop allowing this. ONE YEAR! I can't stress this enough, ONE YEAR, then it's marriage or we're through! That's it. I wish y'all stop giving him the goods but be that aa it may, stop giving these men wives and children and peaceful homes and he doesn't even have to be your husband.
@heneverforesakesme4038
8 ай бұрын
Yep and if there is no growth or progression in six months, that's a time to go and during that progression, DO NOT move him in with you.
@q.t.gamingfamily
8 ай бұрын
@@heneverforesakesme4038 Yes, I'm adding that. I completely agree.
@continuousself-improvement1879
8 ай бұрын
Don't make ultimatums, then he'll give you a shut up ring and drag the engagement out as long as he can or will marry you while hating you all through it (eg. The weddings were the groom smash the cake aggressively on the bride or write the disgusting vows). Just make the deadline in your head, ONE YEAR, and if by one year you have not progressed to where you think it should be, just break up.
@q.t.gamingfamily
8 ай бұрын
@@continuousself-improvement1879 One year. I don't know about no ultimatums or anything. I don't know where that came from. He can't drag out an engagement if she still leaves at the one year anniversary. I have no flair for theatrics and I don't think she needs to advertise to him "you got one year.' I'm just thinking what I do is he has one year. In one year, if we haven't progressed to marriage, I'd sit him down and break up with him. I'm not nasty about it. I'm just honest that we're not where I thought we'd be and I believe that we're just not that compatible.
@biblethumper8088
8 ай бұрын
If women keep having sex with their boyfriends, they will feel hurt when he doesn't want to provide for her. She gives him her most valuable part of herself in return for disrespect. Women really need to stop having sex outside of marriage. It's a lot easier to walk away as a virgin.
@ashleymandigo4406
8 ай бұрын
I believe with all my heart that Hell is mostly, MOSTLY... all men 🔥🔥
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
A few psychopathic women in there too though! Usually the momsters who made these dusty ass jokes!
@Noble-light01
8 ай бұрын
Never date a man for over 5,6,7,10 years without a ring. By the 3 years mark demand a ring - it’s not because you are desperate but because you know your worth
@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814
8 ай бұрын
Three years is even too long to wait for a proposal. I bet most men want stick around and wait three years to tap that a--, so never understood why women stay with these men, even though the man is not giving you the kind of relationship that you deserve and want in your life.
@RedRoseSeptember22
8 ай бұрын
1 year. If they don't wanna marry you after that then don't continue the relationship. Though marriage is not a guarantee that he still won't do this.
@tiahnarodriguez3809
8 ай бұрын
You should never demand a ring because that’s how you end up with a shut-up ring. Instead you and your man should have a to-the-point discussion about marriage and if it’s happening or not, including when you guys plan to get engaged. Imo, most women beat around the bush too much then wanna get upset that their man didn’t take them seriously. Nah, we gotta be on point, and watch out for the red flags. Number one red flag is if you’re the only one who brings up marriage end the relationship because the guy doesn’t really like you, you’ll plan everything alone, and when you and him argue he’ll through it in your face that he didn’t really want to get married, but you forced him to.
@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814
8 ай бұрын
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 If you have to have a to-the-point discussion regarding marriage with your boyfriend after dating for more than a year (unless you both are still college students), he is not interested in marrying you. Women do too much talking to the man instead of looking at his actions; actions speak louder than words. Men know just what to say to keep women hanging around for their convenience, so women should not put much stock into what a man says, especially regarding if and when he plans to marry a woman. Bottom line: if a man wants to marry a woman, he will propose first and will not need a woman to initiate the topic of marriage as it pertains to the relationship.
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
Never demand a ring. Just leave the relationship. The man has shown you that he does not want to be with you. Believe him and head out.
@daysiporto2877
8 ай бұрын
They’ll even marry you and it’s still not real… he needed to waste that time for himself… it wasn’t about wasting her time he needed to waste that time.. and he’s gonna do it to his wife to…
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
💯
@prettyloubey8411
8 ай бұрын
Girl you are 💯 percent correct 😅
@TexasGal.
8 ай бұрын
💯
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
Usually, at least there are legal/financial/material consequences to broken marriage commitments though. But in this case, he could've married her and still went to Russia unscathed.
@tranquility9325
8 ай бұрын
Yup. Narcissistic men have zero commitment to their so called partners. No matter the title... boyfriend fiance or husband. They could care less about the title. They still cheat and have no respect for their partners.
@brittbritt6857
8 ай бұрын
Exactly 8 years of playing house! Dont move a man in with you if you are not married
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
💯💯💯 I wish I could scream this from the top of every hill! 😆
@brittbritt6857
8 ай бұрын
@StephieGsrEvolution And for the people in the back ...
@BlackMaven528
8 ай бұрын
Eight years is way tooo long! Sis shoulda been gone long before he had time to pull this foolishness. The one thing we can never get back is time - don't let some loser waste yours!
@bbills4186
8 ай бұрын
Lol, I was in a relationship for 8 years and he ghosted me, but the situation was different for me. We didn't live together, no kids, and he talked about marriage more than me, I had the house, paid for car, and career. He shared a car with his brother, lived in apartments, and had a long term career. But he wasn't growing. Now, he's bragging about all he has (he's still doesn't have anything and suffered a career downturn). But, I was the one who didn't give him anything or build him up and I believe he left me for someone who did. Closure is the least a person can give to another. Not giving closure is how your ex tries to keep you on a string and keeps you in the background just in case the new thing doesn't work out. I would advise this young woman in the video to keep it moving. It hurts but there are far worse things in the world to deal with, and karma is a bitch.
@nawal10
8 ай бұрын
Very true. No closures mean I can come back if things don't work and make up a story like oh someone died or I moved blah blah and hope to get u back, temporarily again 😂
@dajewel1982
8 ай бұрын
I agree. Karma is a bitch and once he gets it will be obvious it was due to what he did in the past
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
❤ mines faked a funeral on me… and found out that the name he gave me was a Jane Doe…I was done
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
@@nawal10point is he’ll never want her
@nawal10
8 ай бұрын
@@a_la_drinah 💯
@prettynpetty8342
8 ай бұрын
Stop going FBI agent for a man who wouldn't even care if your house was burning. Find another one. If you aren't married, move on. Stop investing in men who don't invest in you. 3 years living with man was just enough for me to understand that this is where the relationship will stay forever. Men know within 6 months if you're the woman for him. You can realistically have marriage within a year. Stop wasting 8.
@LadyCharity
8 ай бұрын
Eight years, EIGHT...that was a red flag right there! Men will continue to be with you until someone they feel is better comes along. "Buy a house don't play house!" ALL FACTS.
@continuousself-improvement1879
8 ай бұрын
I'm not saying that's sociopathic behavior, but if the shoe fits... And of course, disclaimer: Not all men. 😜
@SharonSullivan-q2k
8 ай бұрын
I dated a guy for two years, he ghosted me for another woman. Got no closure. 8 years is terrible. Men will do that though. They do not like to face a woman unfortunately or break up with them.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
Cheaters like to keep the door open too.
@wattakesselly6463
8 ай бұрын
Girl that was a blessing he left after two years of not proposing to you
@lacheregriffin-denton9946
8 ай бұрын
I used to be like you and like closure in the situation but I have learned throughout life to accept when I don't get that closure too and how to move forward in both situations. You can't force people to tell you the truth, so you really don't know even if you talk to them if they're really being honest with you or not. Also a lot of times when you analyze things. It's easy for you to figure out what happened or even talking to a friend if you just have a blind spot where you can't see what went wrong. A lot of times. If you have good friends that you tell your story too, they can tell you where the red flags were that you missed. So there are other ways of having closure.
@jacquelynn2051
8 ай бұрын
Closure for me has always been based on what the man DOES. If you wait on their piehole to spill a truth…you’ll waste precious time.
@tammykinstrue9849
8 ай бұрын
Ghosting always means the same thing. It means the person wants to end the relationship without a confrontation. Ghosting is a tool for selfish people who prioritize their own comfort over other people's well-being or for victims who are afraid of the potential backlash.
@winter_s_44
8 ай бұрын
Exactly. I think external closure is overrated. The end result is that they didn’t want you. Trying to figure out (from the other person) what went wrong and when in the false belief it will get you to change anything about yourself is foolish. Anything they would tell you is about how they feel about you or how they perceive you and will most likely be gaslighting to make themselves feel better about their actions. When you hear of people cheating, what do they usually go to? “You weren’t doing this or you weren’t doing that.” So if you hear that, you’re going to start doing those things with another person because the person who cheated on you said you didn’t do them? That is THEIR (most likely) gaslighting perception. Doesn’t mean the next person would feel that way or view you that way. So you’re going to go into it with a cookie-cutter view of how you should be based on what your ex said to justify their behavior? Yes, always take stock of yourself, but you can and should be able to do that without getting “closure” from them. Then your focus can be on improving yourself to be the best and highest version of yourself you can be.
@Hagar-yn8jm
8 ай бұрын
I learned with my mother not getting closure IS closure.
@jessmackiedo6717
8 ай бұрын
Same I use to be like this too. Until one day I woke up and say nope. I’m not doing this anymore.
@edithart5753
8 ай бұрын
They tell you rich men have options so choose the build a bear option and help him build. What do you think will have when he gets rich? (He will have options aft he makes it too🤦🏽♀️) They are always indirectly telling us what they will do.
@tammykinstrue9849
8 ай бұрын
How he feels about himself is how he feels about his mate. If he is proud of his station in life, he will pursue a mate that he can be proud of. If he is content with his accomplishments, He will pursue a woman that he can be content with. If he is struggling, he chooses a struggle partner. If he is building, he chooses a Barbara the Builder partner. So on and so forth.
@elle_l808l
8 ай бұрын
And that's why women need to stop signing up for the 'build a man' campaign, get the finished product!
@monica9070
8 ай бұрын
ABSOLUTELY! If he's struggling or still talking about how he's building himself up and comes off as if he's nowhere near what he wants to be, he will date and string along women he considers DISPOSABLE.
@toriyt2714
8 ай бұрын
This is actually a very good and simple breakdown
@misslola007
8 ай бұрын
There had to be signs before he left. The first one is the fact that she stayed a gf for 8 years. She was just a place holder, unfortunately.
@cosmosadorabilis7677
8 ай бұрын
Nope, they can blindside you like that. These people are cold.
@downbad2874
8 ай бұрын
Y’all gotta stop saying this bs there are plenty of times there aren’t any signed also just because people don’t get married doesn’t mean their a placeholder you mtfs love trying to tell people they should be married without knowing if they want to
@misslola007
8 ай бұрын
@@downbad2874 Who are you talking to like that? You must have comprehension issue. They were talking about rings and marriage according to this OP, so ofcourse she wanted a marriage. Stop projecting. I was only talking about this story.
@Alex-mc5yn
8 ай бұрын
@@misslola007 I don't think he even watched the original video to the end.
@downbad2874
8 ай бұрын
@@misslola007 I’m talking to you maybe you should check your attitude seeing how no one gave you one also I can comprehend very well them talking about doesn’t mean we know what they said which wouldn’t tell you if either of them said they wouldn’t to get married or not unless you were there did you hear their answers also everything isn’t a projection you should learn how to determine that so you don’t look foolish accusing people of such things in married love so again you don’t have any insight to if they wouldn’t to marry or not duh your talking about this story and in this story you still know nothing at all the point of this video was him ghosting her not them not getting married
@LadyAstarionAncunin
8 ай бұрын
This is a lesson in why women shouldn't pursue and provide for a man. A man who truly wants a woman will pursue HER and make sure to do everything he can to keep her. He won't feel used by providing for her; instead, he'll take pride in it. He'll brag about how he provides for his wife (my stepfather always did this). / Regarding the last woman's story, that "main" chick got a lame, so she'll have more dust to choke on. She didn't win anything.
@aliciapinkcotarot
8 ай бұрын
Imma need women to stop thinking just because he marrried you or put a ring on your finger = the girl of his dreams and this can not happen to you. There are so many married men who hate their wives and settle because the girl of their dreams got away even with a ring your finger you can still be a placeholder so Imma need women to stop thinking marriage is the end all be all. Some of these men ain't shit and only loyal to other men.
@continuousself-improvement1879
8 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
The thing with marriage is that you have far more legal rights and he has legal consequences if he phux up.
@rjlondon5801
8 ай бұрын
Yeah they do it when they’re married too. My step dad married to my mum of 25 years has a whole ass family AFTER he and my mum had kids. Don’t trust them. Period.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
💜💜💜 so sorry that sux!
@AshleighDanburry
8 ай бұрын
I have seen that happen.... he moved and didn't even tell his fiancé of 5 yrs. Got married to the new girl in less than 2 yrs. He was a friend but don't f%$& with him anymore, and I didn't even like the fiancé, just can't look at him the same way again.
@kennyav25
8 ай бұрын
The girl was the placeholder
@yasiem6245
8 ай бұрын
I can't imagine dating someone for EIGHT years without any commitment. Miss me with that nonsense. Better off being alone.
@noirefit5954
8 ай бұрын
This is why you give them deadlines ladies. You don’t give them ultimatums, don’t force anyone to love you. But after 2 years (3 YEARS MAX!), if a man still hasn’t married you, LEAVE! Don’t fall for the words, only ACTIONS speak! If he is with you more than 5+ years, baby he doesn’t really want to marry you. Have 1-2+ kids for him and still single? He doesn’t want to marry you. We have to learn to walk away. Staying where we are not wanted is damaging to our self esteem and health. Stop being wives to these men before you have the ring. Don’t work for free my love. Don’t overlook those red flags and pray that God reveals his character sooner rather than later. ❤❤❤
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
I say 2yrs max! I'm 46 and there's a few reasons I say this.
@aishani86
8 ай бұрын
My first husband wasted my 7 younthful years. Married me for passport then left me for russian woman in UK
@esemusic8294
8 ай бұрын
Sorry this happened to you. I hope you found healing 💛
@aishani86
8 ай бұрын
Thank you im fine now :) @@esemusic8294
@melanitex1089
6 ай бұрын
So a woman's age does matter? I thought woman always said her age doesn't matter?
@aishani86
6 ай бұрын
@@melanitex1089 We do still have biological clock. Many women who wanted kids and didnt get still learned to love themselves despite not getting what they dream off. Some women dont care of children so then age doesnt matter. Its hard still to be wasted time with people who use you doesnt matter what goals you have. What gender you are. @melanitex1089
@nicorriesanders
8 ай бұрын
This!!!! Been here. Was eight years and still no ring. Let's just say I'm good on relationships
@trichmomma
8 ай бұрын
8 yrs. And the way he relocated and left her behind. Big red flag, HUGE. She was hoping against all hope, probably knew for a while she should leave but stayed because of time served. But I think she knew. Stop looking for closure.Their disrespect is the closure. How it ended was the closure. They are fine with the impression they leave with you.
@kaycampbell364
8 ай бұрын
he sees her as a fool
@ARS-fn6px
8 ай бұрын
Thats why you dont get emotionally attached to a man. Ever. Turn that love and empathy all the way OFF.
@kristinapaxton9686
8 ай бұрын
2 years is the deadline.
@AquariusPerspective
8 ай бұрын
I will NEVER run after closure! The fact that you're not in my life is closure enough for me. Rejection is God's protection, so why will I run after someone who rejected me?
@tammygarrett8427
8 ай бұрын
Buy a home do not play house !
@winter_s_44
8 ай бұрын
To the first response: you don’t get it. Marriage does not guarantee he wouldn’t cheat or pull a disappearing act. Putting your foot down and demanding marriage accomplishes what? Making it harder and more complicated for you to leave and divide your assets? There is no answer. That is why a relationship should not be the ultimate goal. You have to always be prepared to have it end and it will be easier to deal with that end if you have your own life. Yes, it will obviously hurt because it is beyond screwed up that you can think you’re on one wavelength and come to find out you have been lied to and ghosted. But hurt and shock aside, if you don’t view the relationship as the be all and end all, you can move on with your life much faster and better than if you were hanging dreams and hopes on anyone other than yourself.
@eumeliacorona9824
8 ай бұрын
FACTS!!!
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
Having a commitment deadline early on for yourself weeds out the jokers. If you're married, there are financial consequences for him cheating/ghosting.
@tiahnarodriguez3809
8 ай бұрын
@@StephieGsrEvolution Those consequences only exist if you have a pre-nun. There is no law that says cheating is wrong, and to add to this, plenty of women divorce their husbands for cheating, but they don’t always receive alimony because their husbands purposefully work low-paying jobs, or refuse to pay and walk around with a back log of alimony and child support over their heads. In short, be careful who you settle down with, learn the marriage laws of your state, and have a pre-nup.
@ineedhoez
8 ай бұрын
Yall always say this but you keep missing the point. No one is saying that this marriage offers 100% protection. What they are saying is that men understand the significance of marriage and the financial obligations it creates. They aren't stupid. At the very least, when you divorce, you will have some financial protections. This, of course, assumes that you as the woman are not the breadwinner because then you're paying him. At least if you have marriage as the standard, you're going to Automatically eliminate Majority of the Man who seek to use you. You still have to do your due diligence. But it's going to be the first line of defense.
@relanaallen5513
8 ай бұрын
I wouldn't stay with anyone for 8 years.
@continuousself-improvement1879
8 ай бұрын
It may only be acceptable if they have got together when they were very young like 14 or 15, but at any age over 18 then don't be with anyone for that long even if you weren't thinking about getting married yet.
@tassys
8 ай бұрын
8 years of girlfriendship ? WHAT ? I'd be out after a few months if there is no ring, let alone almost a decade.
@Porter7317
8 ай бұрын
I’m 40 and have learned that a lot of us women just choose the wrong men. That’s it. She shouldn’t have stayed with him for 8 years without a ring. He’s a player and I bet there were signs but she ignored them because she “loved him”. It took me 37 years to find the right guy. It’s the nerdy ones. Trust me ladies it’s the nerdy ones, give them a chance. Don’t fall for the players 👍🏾
@downbad2874
8 ай бұрын
There is no such thing as a woman of his dreams, because that dream can change any and every day. When are you people just going to realize that nothing is guaranteed stop trying to use these sayings and things in terms to make yourself feel better
@sourcandydoll
8 ай бұрын
Single and happy 💗🤌🏾
@Capturedbeauty777
8 ай бұрын
Honestly as petty as it would seem, i would sue him. I would make him compensate me for my humiliation, my pain, and make sure him being a fog is spread far and wide. Things will not go well for him and I wish his current fiancee well because she probably didn't know. If she ever finds out she should not get married to him. How you treat others is a major indicator of character and in her ex case his is trash.
@DaintyAbby
8 ай бұрын
Yes.
@TinfoilHatGirl
8 ай бұрын
Sorry but you need a law as a basis to sue. A few decades ago being officially engaged was a kind of pre-contract and made a party eligible for compensation if one party broke the promise. But things have been watered down since then and they weren't even officially engaged so I doubt there is any legal basis to sue but what do I know, US courts are built different sometimes.
@Maya-xm5jx
8 ай бұрын
Best revenge is living your best life! Wasting your resources fighting this loser in court (in this case, there is NO case) will only set back your healing! Let God avenge for you!
@Capturedbeauty777
8 ай бұрын
@Maya-xm5jx Like I said, I know it's petty 🤣 inevitably, that's something this woman will have to do, but I would strongly suggest her going to counseling and just focusing on herself. She's earned the right to be selfish, and I hope she lives an incredible life.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
Can't sue an 8yr boyfriend for ghosting you. He's in Russia anyway!
@throughthemagnifier9024
8 ай бұрын
It is your fault. Tell them to buy the cow if they want the milk period! Respect yourselves.
@loneagnostic9163
8 ай бұрын
Just save the sex, stop having sex and you’ll see how he treats you.
@kyoshai
8 ай бұрын
Not having sex is always a good suggestion. Too many diseases out there being carried by people who don't care about hurting others. Unfortunately, withholding sex doesn't do much to prove anything most of the time. These are a few reasons why: - People have other sources they can get it from & will. - Many people aren't attracted to the person they're dating so it's a win to not have to touch them. - Manipulative types like games/challenges. Getting a "partner" to willingly stop withholding sex is a challenge they'd gladly accept.
@septemberjai5216
8 ай бұрын
9:41-9:45 He’s saying the the guy must do jail time lol
@DBrown-vg1fi
8 ай бұрын
Love yourself first
@Kinksgalore
8 ай бұрын
Trust he told her for 8yrs he didn't want her.
@highestgoddess9966
8 ай бұрын
I don’t feel pity for women that get played like this.. we have internet nowadays and so many testimonies today and people warning us.. but we won’t listen. These soo called “good women “ can be very stubborn and will always support men when other women warn them.. A man knows who he will marry
@pamjenkins9102
8 ай бұрын
8 years is tooooo long to be a BF. Ladies please stop accepting the games. 😢
@DaintyAbby
8 ай бұрын
Ladies.. CLOSE YOUR LEGS UNTIL HE PUT A RING ON IT. HOW DID U GIVE HIM 8 YEARS?!!!!
@autumnl5127
8 ай бұрын
Destiny, it's national to want closure but you have to decide when you have had enough and move on without it. Happy New Year and thank you for all of your videos❤😊
@DestinyUteh
7 ай бұрын
I agree with you. Happy New Year 😘😘❤️❤️❤️
@nla5307
8 ай бұрын
If you’re together for 8 years and still haven’t gotten a ring, I’m not surprised he left. He was never committed fully to her cus clearly he didn’t want her to be his partner for life.
@knHebrew
8 ай бұрын
7 years and dragged out the breakup while lying and saying the wedding was still on them ghosted.
@candygirl1990
8 ай бұрын
My ex bf left me for a woman he met in Estonia after being his gf for 4 years . And he dumped me by email telling me how much he loved her, but never loved me, like ever. And to make it worse he married her a month after he left me, and posted it all over Facebook. It took me a long time to get over this, it was 2 years ago. No longer dating, nah im good single thanks. ❤
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
He’s a jerk you’re not the problem!! She accepted him back she has to deal with his bs! Your a single woman now enjoy
@artbygilik
5 ай бұрын
So sorry this happened to you 😕 what a terrible thing to do and say to someone who invested their life with him
@CuratedVibes
8 ай бұрын
If you cant let them know what that timeline is, cause otherwise, you end up with a "shut up ring". Men know right away if they want to marry you or not.
@adjoahossou454
8 ай бұрын
that 8 year relationship should have been at least a 5 year marriage.
@keniasharpe1610
8 ай бұрын
At this point I’m not surprised
@born2reign90
8 ай бұрын
No closure needed, I saw all I needed see...if anyone shows me any form of disrespect... I'm out...one time is all I need.
@kaycampbell364
8 ай бұрын
well according to married women if a woman does this she will end up with just cats
@born2reign90
8 ай бұрын
@@kaycampbell364 girl, bye! Did you even listen to her vlog!?? She specifically asked if someone ghosted or left you...would you try to get closure FROM THAT PERSON? My answer is NO, they have already showed ME how they feel about ME. Why go force closure on someone that already has shown me that they don't want me. Make your comment make sense before just saying anything...
@kaycampbell364
8 ай бұрын
@@born2reign90 basic comprehension is clearly a challenge for you.......good luck you need it.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
@@kaycampbell364 no you made no sense
@born2reign90
8 ай бұрын
@@kaycampbell364 Lord, please help Kay Campbell in her journey in this thing called life! You said you look after fools and babies and I'm not sure which category she falls under, I just know that she will need your support and guidance all the days of her life. 💛
@inyenyenzi
8 ай бұрын
If Beau and You aren't setting a wedding date within 6 months of dating(and marriage is what you want), then you my Lovely are the bed warmer. Men, Lovelies, a man who loves you less than you love him will drive you to a desert and leave you without water - remember that.
@RedRoseSeptember22
8 ай бұрын
6 months is too soon.
@jetlerouge007xxo4
8 ай бұрын
Hunni men only do what you allow. There’s no way you should have a boyfriend of 8 years. That alone just sent me.
@a_la_drinah
8 ай бұрын
I absolutely love this channel! Keep putting issues out there like this!
@Lorilor343
2 ай бұрын
I sick of the “be smarter” approach. What he did was insane and diabolical
@lorrainea.285
8 ай бұрын
Uhmmmm women can WALK AWAY in a relationship!!! Why is this first lady only blaming men for long relationships??? You’re responsible for YOURSELF!!!!!!!
@phabulouss1
8 ай бұрын
Start to emotionally disconnect from your soon to be ex. Firstly, don’t move in together, go on with your life goal; and if he wants to be a partner in life with you then see if that’s what YOU want. Be smarter.
@Morgan24_7
8 ай бұрын
At some point we have to take accountability for some of this. Why are you there so long, and no talk or sign of a marriage? My dad's so called friend was eith a woman for over 18 years, and he refused to marry her. This guy was no catch either. Not in my eyes. She FINALLY left him. Got her body done, and married someone else. I am convinced that the only reason he was hurt is because she beat him to the punch. Don't waste your time. Listen. When my dad was 18 my grandmother asked him "What are your intentions towards my daughter?" He said I'm gonna marry her. My grandma laughed at him. History...my parents met in 3rd grade dated through high school, dad got drafted, kept in touch with mom, came back, married her, had kids, bought houses and kids, died married to her. He made his decision at 18.
@almondjoy123
8 ай бұрын
Your dad sounds like he was good man. Your parents love story is really sweet.
@Morgan24_7
8 ай бұрын
@@almondjoy123 People are either blown away or jealous.
@Tomkio-i2w
8 ай бұрын
Stop living on dreams and love yourself and move on‼️
@jayogee913
8 ай бұрын
Men do not respect women who put men first. It reeks of desperation. Think about that. Put yourself and your wellbeing first, and if some dude can just happen to deal with that, he's a keeper. Otherwise, you're truly better off alone.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
💯💯💯
@giovannanicolas8299
8 ай бұрын
I’m kind of like you when I don’t know what happened I need closure not in friendships but relationships. I give people my reasons why I did what I did to end things and would like the same in return. This is so sad and so many people are playing games with other people’s life’s which is wrong.
@GK222_
8 ай бұрын
Never invest in a man
@SuperFunJess
8 ай бұрын
It genuinely doesnt even matter if each isnt the spouse of the others dreams, dating is the step before marriage, youre not supposed to just be in one to waste the other persons time.
@bunnybeetle1304
8 ай бұрын
Dang. Also, a marriage does not fix a trashy person because I have a friend who went through something similar in her 10-year marriage which obviously ended when the dude resurfaced in another country.
@StephieGsrEvolution
8 ай бұрын
There are legal consequences if he tries to come back though.
@tracyjacksonjackson4221
2 ай бұрын
I agree. Men will do this. Now that we women know this, we can change the game. The 1st change should be to AVOID THE WHOLE RELATIONSHIP THING!!!!!! Date him, hang out with him, spend time with him. DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM!!!! When we are seeing someone, we become more attractive. When other men ask for your number and want to get to know you, DO IT!!! Men have a better concept of time when they realize that no one is waiting for them.
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