This episode is very interesting. Enjoy! Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:21 Why People Enjoy “Facial Deposits” 09:44 What is the Psychology Behind Rough Sex? 15:57 Why So Many Niches of Porn Exist 29:02 Is there an Agenda Towards Feminine Men? 35:55 Women’s Obsession with True Crime 46:52 Is Evolutionary Psychology Sexist? 53:23 How Having Babies Impacts Sex Drive 1:02:33 Where to Find Catherine
@leolee8847
2 жыл бұрын
Hi @Chris Williamson , I actually felt embarrassed for your guest's comments and lack of anthropological/psychological studies and researches... to me, she came across more motivated by the "doing", in lieu of the actual core "understanding". 😔
@memastarful
2 жыл бұрын
Stay encouraged Chris you're doing a great job
@alelectric2767
2 жыл бұрын
@@leolee8847 No One Cares!!!
@marias6451
2 жыл бұрын
What was that study mentioned by Cathrine on mate preference and living area? thank you
@eddie-ni5ox
2 жыл бұрын
Are we suppose to think the angled chair is unconscious !
@buzzcrushtrendkill
2 жыл бұрын
Love it. There is no escaping our animalistic nature. We can talk publicly about toxic masculinity, male dominated society, etc, etc, but no "romance" novel features an insecure small man as the man of interest.
@unicron2109
2 жыл бұрын
I'm off on a grape and pillage. Fancy it? If we get hungry we'll eat whatever we can scalp. Please bring some hand sanitiser and facial cream as it's going to be a long journey
@thijsg8549
2 жыл бұрын
True but how would you explain the enormous succes of movies like Notting Hill?
@wendybird7059
2 жыл бұрын
Love that movie, and sweet men.
@patmaloney5735
2 жыл бұрын
@@thijsg8549 She explains it in the first few minutes.
@rivtekk
2 жыл бұрын
@@thijsg8549 you chose an outlier as an example. Outliers are not the net medium
@whitneyburns9025
2 жыл бұрын
I believe that one big reason women prefer to read is because it's easier to visualize herself as the woman in the story. When they are watching it's much harder to take out the character you see and replace it with yourself.
@hephestosthalays2700
2 жыл бұрын
Is it like painting between the lines? She can fill the picture in a way she imagines?
@ninianstorm6494
2 жыл бұрын
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@grannyannie2948
2 жыл бұрын
I think it's also that we don't just see the actions we know the feelings and thoughts of at least one character. I don't think many women choose actual erotic novels as opposed to novels with erotic segments. For myself as a young woman I loved historical romance. The wonderful feminine clothes, castles being besieged, horses being spooked etc. And women being vulnerable women. And rescued by brave men who adored them. I do know why women like crime stories. In the Victorian era sex was suppressed. The cheap trashy novels directed at women were "Penny Horrors" about murders. In the more permisive twentieth century they became "Penny Dreadfuls" where sex became the new murder. It's only in recent times that women saw sex with a man who was not their chosen love, as not being almost as horrific as murder. However in both situations it allows women the excitement of danger, without real danger.
@pp-bb6jj
2 жыл бұрын
Men don't have this problems. We are all William Wallace when he decapitates English head from the body.
@johnathanmandrake7240
2 жыл бұрын
It's because woman have successfully projected the whole visualization aspect of sexuality onto men. In read porn he can be exactly what you like, ie literally unrealistic, because it's your imagination.
@marccas10
2 жыл бұрын
This lady just radiates joy.
@markcavandish1295
2 жыл бұрын
No Doubt
@alexmc69
2 жыл бұрын
And also a faint odour of semen
@eddie-ni5ox
2 жыл бұрын
The more degenerate, the more women love it, introduce children and animals and she will be OOOOOO and soaking her chair, tells you everything you need to know about what women are. Morals ??? Looking for a yellow Ruby in in the Himalayas is more likely.
@eddie-ni5ox
2 жыл бұрын
Do women even exist in hard sciences, every single one that he brings on always always always SELF REPORTED SURVEY, pain to me might be 3 same level of pain to a woman might be a 7 who is right who is wrong, doesnt matter, the data is basura, basura in basura out ! So the statistical regression analyses is useless, no objective measure means that at best its likely but unsure. They have ruined statistics permanently, its not trust-able, when statistically significant was mentioned 70 years ago, it meant something, today its a maybe at best.
@TheWisdom3
2 жыл бұрын
Looks fun to hang around with.
@tjc4085
2 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I’m going to admit that women have and will always be attracted to the conventionally masculine man. The praise for Harry Styles and effeminate men is quite frankly BS and women lying to themselves because they wish it were true as it’d fit the world-view they’re comfortable with instead of reality.
@Lexis001
2 жыл бұрын
I agree.
@Alex-cm7hr
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t think women are lying to themselves. Harry Styles is undoubtedly still good looking. Often the more masculine a man is, the less conventionally handsome he is - The Rock being a good example of this.
@tjc4085
2 жыл бұрын
@@Alex-cm7hr v true, but I doubt women want men to wear dresses from now on. It could be that Harry styles wearing a dress showcased an extreme level of confidence and security in his masculinity that appealed to women.. just food for thought
@Alex-cm7hr
2 жыл бұрын
@@tjc4085 yeah I wasn’t really aware of that stuff. He does seem to have some gender-fluid nonsense going on right now. Men wearing dresses definitely isn’t attractive. Dresses were designed for the female form and look wrong on men.
@robbiemedica2652
2 жыл бұрын
Harry in the past was always considered a bad boy, so not the best example of feminine men.
@Monsieur.Nobody.
2 жыл бұрын
Also that when women read something they imagine it happening it to themselves. I've studied romance for a loooooonnnggg loooongggg time probably 13+ years now... A classic trick that most romance novel writers use is that they make the woman in the novel relatable to the extent of substitution. Meaning - once the reader relates to the woman in the novel, she substitutes herself into that role. This is extremely powerful because then she reads the book as if everything is happening to her, imagining herself in the situation. Also the reason why most women fantasize about having a beast like man fall for them is their (women's) hero's journey. "I was able to tame this beast" type of arc.... BUT they hate it if the beast is not tamed in the end. And that actually is the nature of a true beast... it cannot be tamed.
@Monsieur.Nobody.
2 жыл бұрын
@@joane24 Absolutely! Great point btw, I never thought of it that way. But that is true...
@eaudedogue
2 жыл бұрын
This is why I find myself single, I've never been tamed. Haha
@Monsieur.Nobody.
2 жыл бұрын
@@eaudedogue safe to say that you haven't experienced a woman's submission then? Its more powerful than any other drugs that exists. I have been more than 335+ dates... stopped counting after that, and I chose to be with my partner we are together for more than 6 years now... The reason I stated the number is because I wanted you to guess how many of them were actually submissive? Take a guess...
@Amit-ey1uj
Жыл бұрын
@@Monsieur.Nobody. so you chose your partner because she submitted to you?
@Monsieur.Nobody.
Жыл бұрын
@@Amit-ey1uj that is one of the biggest reasons, yes. Not the only reason.
@jackburtonstwin
Жыл бұрын
It is my suspicion that for many women the appeal of mock "rough sex" is that feeling that they are rendered powerless and not culpable for what is happening. As such they can engage in their more extreme or bizarre sexual desires while maintaining, at a psychological level, an element of plausible deniability for initiating or endorsing those desires.
@3756hans
5 ай бұрын
That's exactly correct . I make her do the things she's too ashamed to ask for. Sine she has "no choice" it absolves her of responsibility
@etiennetaylor
13 күн бұрын
Spot on.
@ChrisFaa
9 ай бұрын
Chris, I'm working my way through your back catalog of what might loosely be described as "Interviews with captivating intelligent women who are more interested in truth than any particular agenda". It's soooo refreshing and educational. Thankyou, it is appreciated.
@BigSexyWizard
9 ай бұрын
Same situation and can’t agree more, a super refreshing and reasonable show where the real questions are being asked instead of a bunch of propaganda from red pill and blue pill stuff. Like I just want some real conversations with people who actually understand what they are talking about.
@thecarnivorouskat
9 ай бұрын
I’m on the same journey as you are ! 😂
@misterserious3522
8 ай бұрын
A few moments to kill is it?
@shelovinthecrew
4 ай бұрын
I’d love to know why you think this woman doesn’t have an agenda?
@ordinaryguy815
Жыл бұрын
I love this womans laughter and energy
@wendellbabin6457
5 ай бұрын
In contrast with Scowls, Disapproval, Bile, Bitterness, Suspicion, Complaining Misandry and Resentment? Ooh, ooh I forgot Entitlement and Petulance and Immaturity and Lack of Accountability and Spite.
@Monsieur.Nobody.
2 жыл бұрын
"Women who are submissive are still running the show!" - Catherine Salmon. Absolutely nailed it! That is exactly the case. There is nothing a man won't do for a submissive woman. Aka, the control is still with the women. Most people usually think if the woman is submissive she's being controlled by the man. That is false, a real woman knows her power over a man, and that is what controls a man. Only a submissive and powerful woman can keep the beast tamed for herself... Again, it is the nature of the beast to not be controlled, but for a submissive woman a beast will relinquish that control... To the point that even if he knows he's being controlled he'll do it. Not always though, like every think in the world, it is not absolute. "For a beast is not a beast if he seizes to be the beast." - me Those who understand what I mean will understand what I mean... haha.
@named161
2 жыл бұрын
Facts
@ernestb7055
2 жыл бұрын
Based
@johnman559
2 жыл бұрын
Boom
@Joshukend
2 жыл бұрын
Ceases. And agreed
@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559
2 жыл бұрын
Then she's not submissive, she's manipulative and disingenuous. Some women just don't want to play that silly little game. They recognise that their time here is limited, and they're not prepared to waste it trying to manipulate men. If they can't find a man who can handle a partnership of parity with them, then they're quite alright with being single.
@GJones247
2 жыл бұрын
Talking about India's breastfeeding addiction, while looking at the evolutionary psych speaker professionally is very hard. Well done Chris lol
@Jhon_wick03
2 жыл бұрын
What does she say
@AlwaysPeacefulMaDeuce
2 жыл бұрын
Haha. I get it. Very male of you.
@cosmicmuffet1053
2 жыл бұрын
MAAM PLEASE TILT YOUR CAMERA UP. I CANNOT HEAR YOU.
@GetUnlabeled
2 жыл бұрын
@@cosmicmuffet1053 that's on you not her, listen don't look if you must. Don't start saying something like that with "ma'am" , the insincerity is oozing. I'm not saying don't look, that would be dumb, I'm simply SUGGESTING that you keep your sexual arousal confined to your personal space.
@outlander234
2 жыл бұрын
@@GetUnlabeled She is putting it out there. She is inviting arousal. How can you deny it?
@ldevon2318
2 жыл бұрын
Wow - I’m so glad she mentioned fan-fiction. It’s so common for women and rarely spoken about. I believe fanfic websites are womens pornhub. Very interesting.
@raptortown
2 жыл бұрын
I believe women love fantasy and mystery. Part of why if you ever ask a women what kind of shows/movies they watch, it a lot of mystery type.
@oausncacaonausnsasavasvnsuemau
4 ай бұрын
Most males look good in comics, most males look bad in porn.
@bobkaiser8782
Жыл бұрын
"Our students can be fragile." says a lot.
@juliantn
2 жыл бұрын
Chris, watching the two of you skip joyfully and tastefully through the first segment cheered me up so much this evening. Also, your description of the desecration of the sacred porcelain of a woman's face is poetry in my opinion. Men's sexuality is too often misunderstood and we need prose like this to set the record straight.
@pera.j.andersson
Жыл бұрын
I too found this allegory fascinating. I think the cumshot can have a lot of emotional qualities, for those involved or watching. Like a powerful reminder of the power exchange and sub/dom position. Depending on the reaction, pose, viewing angle and result, everything from just confirmation of the couple's bonding to a deeply felt sado-masochism type of situation, erotic degradation-style. So it's open to interpretations. I also like the mention of the Coolidge effect, which probably has deep genetic roots into human/male behaviour (as shown through the incessant variety in porn and variety in people's beds as well).
@funygameur
Жыл бұрын
Never heard such a beautiful way to phrase the act of : *Furiously ejaculating a high pressured stream of sticky opaque and bitter fluid on a woman's face*
@chriscaldow1644
2 жыл бұрын
I thought that most women ideally want both the Chad and Dad in the same guy .... but finding such a guy isn't so easy as they're not as abundant.
@ilikepancakes2368
2 жыл бұрын
This is my thought as well. Problem is, those type of guys are rare.
@yesterdayseyes
2 жыл бұрын
I married one, they are rare. Every woman I know is jealous
@atulkrjha
2 жыл бұрын
What is the definition of being chad and dad at the same time?? Just curious
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
@@atulkrjha has the genetics, perfect level of masculine bad boy appeal, combined with the solid ability to protect, provide, parentally invest, and have the values and such. It’s like a Tesla car owner asking for gasoline. Most people are looking at that persons demands like “tf?” But every once in a while, against all odds, life gives them gasoline
@edscherzer
2 жыл бұрын
Hmmm guess I need to build a course on Chad-Dad transformation 😆
@linksvexier9272
2 жыл бұрын
I'm an old dude out of the game, my experience is that I got pass the first filtering when I had no expectations when meeting woman I just talked to them. I found my wife when my flatmate was hitting on her friend in a bar she looked bored I though she would like somebody to talk to my flatmate when home empty handed my wife didn't. So I tell my sons, meet people and have fun without expectations, your girl friend will find you when she's ready.
@jimdavis8391
8 ай бұрын
Yup, I just got there aged 51. Wish I'd made it a lot sooner, now I just mingle with people, yes, of course I still find a need arising to be with a certain woman but I allow that desire to pass and then get back to just hanging out. I'm content and happy even when women don't find me of interest, there are plenty more of them!
@keyboarddancers7751
Жыл бұрын
I love this woman. She literally treads where others are too scared to walk!
@DRKILLIE
Жыл бұрын
*dances
@ga8065
Жыл бұрын
Some of it comes from her credentials listed at the top of this post. She's studied and is not uptight about any of it.
@noaharthur9041
Жыл бұрын
@@ga8065so she's as legit as they come.
@BirdFinder100
2 жыл бұрын
The first segment was the wildest, most egregious piece of information I’ve ever heard. Yet I sat thru it. I am now ashamed of myself, yet weirdly more informed 😂.
@MisyeDiVre
Жыл бұрын
Nou la! 🇭🇹
@samrene3
Жыл бұрын
Moun lakay 🇭🇹
@blainn7788
2 жыл бұрын
'softer, gently, kinder view of guys...' not only in novels that idea didn't work. my entire generation was demasculated by feminist influences and it made no one happy. the men or the women.
@namuhtsuj4025
Жыл бұрын
Was emasculated? Men are still being emasculated. Testosterone levels are at record lows. “Toxic masculinity” has young boys being prevented from engaging in rough and tumble play. Men and women need one another. Men need to be men and women need to be women. We don’t need to water one or the other down to suit a cultural agenda.
@martinlastname8548
2 жыл бұрын
Chapter one: Why People Enjoy Facial Deposits. (I see Chris is a man of science)
@natejuda6855
Жыл бұрын
Women don't just scream at Justin Bieber concerts. You can be sitting at a Cheesecake Factory at 6 pm on a Friday and if there is a group of young women at a table, every few minutes they will scream in unison....and if they see a friend enter the restaurant, they will scream at each other. I often use this to dispute the myth that women life in fear....people who live in fear do not behave in ways that attract maximum attention to themselves.
@gabrieljordan8015
2 жыл бұрын
"Don't try to understand women. They understand each other and they hate each other." - Al Roker
@cd0130
2 жыл бұрын
yes
@twsd
Жыл бұрын
Al Bundy
@sirdiealot53
6 ай бұрын
Al Roker??? The weatherman?? 😂
@icecreaminc8013
6 ай бұрын
@@sirdiealot53It was said by Al Bundy. and as for the quote, its true (in part) because women are all about double standards, they want one thing, but want the other thing too.. not just bad boy sexually, but nice guy for family, everything. And the 2nd part of the quote, They DO NOT understand each other, (they will however surround themselves with like minded cliques, to support their own style/thinking ; see echo chambers). Its not that they hate each other, they see all other women as competition. so he was right about trying to understand them, because you need a PHD to see it all, and sort of close to how they treat each other.
@IAmJenWilson
2 жыл бұрын
I found this conversation super interesting... I am interested in the recent fascination about Harry Styles wearing a dress and make-up - it's not new... Bowie was doing that in the 70's and had women flocking at his feet, and Prince was repeatedly counted as the sexiest man in the planet. Both of them very feminine in their looks.
@Charles50Kal
2 жыл бұрын
Robert Greene in his book, The Art of Seduction, states, those who gently cross over the border of feminity / masculinity, they will attract a lot. Timothee Chamalet, a very effeminate looking man is enjoying this success. Marilyn Monroe had a slightly deep voice for a woman. I think it's about, they're more attainable? More relatable? More at ease, I think.
@themarathoncontinues4211
2 жыл бұрын
@@brianmeen2158 exactly, it’s all about the fame and status. Let those same guys be average men walking around the street and see if women want them
@catsandcrows8880
2 жыл бұрын
@@brianmeen2158 I used to find Price quite beautiful in a feminine way, but never saw him as sexually attractive. I used to like some of the heavy metal guys though, the more strong looking bulky men with long hair lol
@killermonjero
Жыл бұрын
It's simple why women are sometimes attracted to effeminate men. 80% of women are actually bisexual.
@jonathanfarley2023
Жыл бұрын
I don't recall seeing Bowie wearing a dress, or Prince. I'm not aware that Prince wore makeup, either.
@jamm811
2 жыл бұрын
In this scientific context, I think it noteworthy - I grew and maintained a semi through this entire segment
@trentosborn0990
2 жыл бұрын
Lmao 😂😂❤❤ best comment of them all
@Balmorax
2 жыл бұрын
employ the grandma technique
@captainbeastazoid7084
2 жыл бұрын
Ha. Impressive my friend. She's definitely a sexy milf but a semi for an hour... Cheers, mate!
@AmeliaBodilia
Жыл бұрын
Pictures or it didn’t happen.
@bigheadrhino
2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting topic. Curious how many other people feel this way but, Tbh, the more attractive I find my partner, the less novel I want the sex to be. I find that the most boring sex is the best with the partner I desire the most because the simple contact alone is more than stimulating enough. And I wouldn’t even want any additional distraction. When the partner is maybe not as inherently stimulating is when I find myself wanting to do the more novel stuff.
@eldon5349
2 жыл бұрын
Could never give THIS (what you said) context… but you nailed it Much more desirable IMO to “hate-fuck” a one-off/purely transactional partner vs your “lover”, which tends to be more sensual. Complete difference in feeling.
@Amit-ey1uj
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. interesting point of view
@aretwodeetoo1181
Жыл бұрын
Interesting point. As a guy I can somewhat relate though I never thought about it like that. On the other hand, it seems to me it's the opposite for women (more adventurous the more into the guy they are). So... In general it's probably a counterproductive tendency and one we should actively avoid.
@AB-sm1qf
Жыл бұрын
You’re not wrong as a woman I feel the same. I mean it is thrilling to be with someone you actually desire and when they’re likable and you click? OOF. The body is so ecstatic that it heats up to the sound of their voice. I find that’s the best sex to have. Then the novel stuff feels extra kinky because the desire is so intense.
@LauraVolpintesta
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU a for sharing this VOICE!
@ClellBiggs
Жыл бұрын
About "facial deposits." I'm almost positive I know why this is so commonly liked by men. It is perceived by society as being degrading, however if someone you're with likes you enough to not only let you do it but also act like they enjoy it it makes you feel more valuable. "Wow, this person likes me so much they're willing to let me do this thing that society considers perverse." However in reality it is a common act that shows love and devotion and has been mislabeled. The funny thing is that it being mislabeled is what gives it its significance. I wonder if YT will let me post this. lol
@central_scrutinizr
Жыл бұрын
I’ve never understood exactly what is supposed to be so degrading or demeaning about it. To me it’s more like a man marking his territory, and while I can’t speak for all women, I think many of us find a primal excitement in that concept.
@aaronm.2718
11 ай бұрын
I think you're actually pretty correct there; well done.
@dangrimes6200
10 ай бұрын
@@central_scrutinizrits that very 'marking of territory' that is antithetical to the modern feminist ideal, and therefore seen as taboo, i think. And who doesnt love a bit of taboo? Haha
@1twistedcpl6575
9 ай бұрын
@@central_scrutinizr and if its several men marking that territory? 😜
@jimdavis8391
8 ай бұрын
Would you wish to do that to your wife? It's disrespectful, an act that should be reserved for concubines or the porn films.
@ryanmoore2047
2 жыл бұрын
She let the heavies out for this one... well done.
@DPham1
2 жыл бұрын
A significant number of people not being able to understand that men and women are "equal in value" does not mean men and women "are the same" is troubling.
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
Men and women are not equal in value. Male disposability reflects this. Men are left to die but the women and kids get to leave when wars and crises break out That is not equal. But evolutionarily speaking, it makes sense why it’s like that.
@marlonmoncrieffe0728
Жыл бұрын
Do you listen to SUZANNE VENKER too?
@jbp122
2 жыл бұрын
If women are saying that men are less masculine I would counter that women are also less feminine.
@kalavaram_the_change
2 жыл бұрын
thats poor of you, be more of a man, no excuses rise above buddy
@sunfish4095
5 ай бұрын
I read that serum testasterone ia higher in US women and their voice is slightly deeper. In stressful environments females are highly adaptive and become more masculine. The female body is capable of shutting down mentruation entirely and putting on muscle. So if females live in a culture that puts more stress on them they do in fact become masculine. I would like to see stats on irregular menstruation but I surmise it is likely these rates are higher in the US as well.
@sunfish4095
5 ай бұрын
BTW I have tried posting male test and sperm count data which has declined precipitously over the last 40 years but the comments are censored. Perhaps this will be posted.
@CommandoMaster
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting discussion. It's very apparent to anyone who actually studies evolutionary psychology and understand male to female social dynamics, that men and women are very different in what they find attractive (a lot of times are asymmetrical, eg. men like looks in a women, women like personality/status in a guy). This knowledge needs to be more mainstream, instead of feminism taking over and brainwashing people into thinking men and women are equal/same, because in reality they are not.
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
Somewhere in a universe far far away, it be like that. Sadly it is not in this one
@cyberpunkenjoyer3032
2 жыл бұрын
Women like looks in a guy too, why nobody can admit it?
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
@@cyberpunkenjoyer3032 that much is abundantly clear with the height requirement alone
@loverofhumanity
2 жыл бұрын
@@lordofgingers yeah lmaooooo bro the only difference I can see between men and women is women care sbout every single standard to a higher degree than men do. Women even care about looks more than men but they also care about money, personality etc more than men. It's not that women care less about looks, quite the contrary it's just that they value multiple things. It's maybe when they're very old and unattractive where they may begin to loosen looks standards and focus on the other categories a bit more.
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
@@brianmeen2158 yea people don’t want to listen to things that make them uncomfortable. It’s human nature. But if one is able to sit comfortably in discomfort, so to speak, then there is a feeling of elation that accompanies that acceptance
@deaddocreallydeaddoc5244
Жыл бұрын
I was 13 when The Beatles arrived to America. I have three sisters. I was amazed at the zombie-like hypnotic state girls would go into. It really cautioned me about females. They screamed for The Beatles, then The Rolling Stone, The Dave Clark Five, and on and on. I felt that they were capable of betrayal and that they were more interested in the image than the person. I didn't know that I was witnessing the Alpha Male reaction in females.
@bigbanknewyork3655
5 ай бұрын
I've seen them at celebrity parties Same scenario.
@deaddocreallydeaddoc5244
Жыл бұрын
I'm 71 years old and am 5'6" I dated a lot of tall women. Many taller women liked me. There were those that felt I was too short, but there were plenty of good-looking women that dated me. This was so much of a thing during my long bachelorhood that I really felt like a five-foot-tall woman was too much like a child. Most of the time, they were an inch or two taller than me, which is what I really prefer. The funniest episode I experienced was a tall blonde woman, I mean 6'5" who really liked me. Her hair was as long as I was tall. She wrote me a couple of amazingly juicy letters. When we dated, we went to a sushi shop, and then she had me for dessert! But for me, she was just too much territory to deal with! I kinda feel bad about it looking back because she seemed to really have a thing for me.
@iamtheiconoclast3
10 ай бұрын
I'm a 5'6" man, and I approve this message.
@Dazgul
6 ай бұрын
That's tall, wow. She would be taller than most men by some degree.
@christinamalcom1910
2 жыл бұрын
The conversation around Harry Styles and feminine men is interesting. I'm typically attracted to very masculine men (military/mma types) but I don't actually see him as being super feminine, despite the dress ... not the way our culture would traditionally say a gay man is feminine. I feel his appeal is his uniqueness and the balls to go for it and pull it off. The same way it was popular back in the 90s for the alternative crowd to get multiple earrings or paint their nails - but they were different, the bad boys and we still wanted them lol. This isn't new, you've got Johhny Depp, Prince, Mick Jagger and the like who were not only doing traditionally feminine things like wearing make up, but were known for their prowess with women.
@johnathanmandrake7240
2 жыл бұрын
@@fiveleavesleft6521 that sounds like a cope.
@robbiemedica2652
2 жыл бұрын
@@johnathanmandrake7240 Cope at what? Women are attracted to Harry Styles, fact. It's a cope to pretend they're not.
@aks1993kumar
2 жыл бұрын
Slight femininity is attractive on a masculine man. I’m both and it’s hard to describe but when I’m ‘on’ I’m able to attract virtually every woman.
@notmarealnameboi
Жыл бұрын
Men are most attracted to a beautiful feminine woman who thinks like a man. Cher or J Lo being a good example. Women are most attracted to a handsome masculine man who thinks like a woman. Mickey Rourke or Depp being a great example.
@viviennedunbar3374
10 ай бұрын
@@mickethegoblin7167when has Mickey Route ever “thought like a woman” and what are we even referring to?
@Sam-by3kk
Жыл бұрын
In my experience with women that I've spoken to after the fact, their like for rough sex is not about the "wow he wants me so bad", it's more about her being able to surrender and let go entirely, almost like letting go of the self or complete escapism for a while
@AB-sm1qf
Жыл бұрын
Ring a ding ding!
@sauter1
11 ай бұрын
I've had some who were into bdsm (submissive side) tell me that it absolves them of responsibility and hence also of guilty feelings about sex...
@amandaforrester7636
11 ай бұрын
Its both. And it takes TRUST to be able to let go like that, too.
@1twistedcpl6575
9 ай бұрын
As a woman my first 15ish years of sex was unsatisfying. I enjoyed it but I rarely got "there." I was hung up on "his" pleasure and of if he would "put a label" on me in his head. Then in my early 30s I met my now husband and my not being able have orgasms really bothered HIM! He felt he wasn't "good enough" to please me...and he was "man" enough to tell me so. I assured him it was not him but it didn't help. After a few more weeks he had enough. He told me my sexual pleasure was not supposed to be about him, that it supposed to be about myself. And that my being able to "let go" and enjoy myself would in turn increase the pleasure he got from being with me. Which in turn would increase my pleasure even more etc etc. He was so right! We've been together 21 years now, married 15...and we're still enjoying it together!
@Sam-by3kk
9 ай бұрын
@@1twistedcpl6575 That's great to hear - at the end of the day sexual compatibility is not just about 'selfless vs. selfish', it's usually more about how each person 'gets off' that then can come off as selfless/selfish In terms of your husband, he sounds similar to me in that he probably gets off on watching the girls pleasure more than anything else, so it's a core feature of how he then acts
@kimmie__kim
2 жыл бұрын
In regards to erotica, most women that still read it (the physical books) are older and likely more traditional in a sense, so of course they want the more traditional looking man. Whereas the erotica that younger generations read is not in books but on apps like Wattpad, Tumblr, Webtoons, etc. When cruising through those apps, you see that the “feminine men” have a huge appeal too, hence why K-pop is so popular among younger women. There are tons of k pop (bts in particular) and harry styles and Loki type fanfiction and erotica. It’s a generational thing, not many ppl read books nowadays too, at least physical ones. Loved the video! 🥰
@rosiegomez5809
2 жыл бұрын
The fem/K-Pop male look usually appeals to younger adolescent women. Adolescent women who have ambiguity & at times fear of traditional masculine maleness as presented in the media. Most grow out of it & have a preference for more traditional masculine men. If an older woman is deep into fem looking men its likely she has negative feelings/ideas about men especially masculine men. Its usually due to some bad or traumatic experiences.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
True. We also have to take a look at the generational shift.
@riririri100
2 жыл бұрын
@@rosiegomez5809 What are you on about lol? Most of these feminine men, are quite masculine.
@warlockEd73
2 жыл бұрын
@@riririri100 Actually Rosie has it exactly right. Young, immature women women often prefer feminine men because they're intimidated by masculine men. But most women grow out of that fear. And no, feminine men are not masculine, by definition. I gotta say, it's funny how each new generation thinks that they're the ones who invented sex. Or at least the first ones to be transgressive.
@KingRyanoles
2 жыл бұрын
@@rosiegomez5809 If I'm remembering correctly, there was a woman who did a Ted talk on how the birth control pill affected the brain, and one interesting finding was that women on the pill were more attracted to feminine men.
@sunso1991
Жыл бұрын
One theory I read many years ago which I found plausible and interesting regarding fetlsh as a biological mating diversification strategy. Two people that share matching fetlsh will be so strong of a match to overcome traditional mate selection cue, and enrich the genetic variety or humanity
@sunso1991
Жыл бұрын
And the article also mentioned fetlsh is not hereditary nor socially taught not rather seems random person to person
@jimdavis8391
8 ай бұрын
People will come up with very novel and convincing ways to explain tawdry, sad actions. To themselves as well as others.
@mra4955
2 жыл бұрын
2mins in, this womans ideas are very much needed. Smart lady
@xaxfixho
2 жыл бұрын
2min man 🤏💨🤭🐩🦄🔫🔫
@soni88eliza
2 жыл бұрын
I'm south Indian, but grew up outside of India for the most part. So my take on it may not be fully informed, but I am familiar enough that I feel comfortable speculating. India has a very socially conservative culture. Granted it's modernizing rapidly, but there are still large swaths of society where taboos still exist on women dressing in a scandalous/revealing manner, often reinforced by society and close family/relatives. So perhaps the most likeliest scenario/ "natural" manner in which someone might come across a woman's body being revealed may be in the context of breastfeeding? I wonder if that's why it's such a popular category, because it has proximity to something that could possibly happen in reality, at least more than the other extravagant imagined scenarios that porn seems to typically put forward.
@aks1993kumar
2 жыл бұрын
Breastfeeding is actually quite popular in India and has been shown in movies and tv shows and is a relatively common occurrence in buses and trains. This doesn’t happen in other countries as much. I remember having being ‘sprayed’ with milk directly from her breast when I was curious about a bai breastfeeding her kid (as a funny thing of course) lol.
@sunfish4095
5 ай бұрын
It could be that there is a higher rate of breastfeeding in india so the imprint takes place and thus adult male attraction. In the US many are not breastfeed and after a few weeks of maternity leave babies are sent to a corporate / govt facility for child care. Over all, male attachment to mother and female is broken at critical developmental phases so in adult life there is less attraction to breast and female in general so relationships are more transactional as males are unable to bond with females in the same way if they were mothered when young.
@supremereader7614
2 жыл бұрын
I actually asked an onlyfans girl why she actually did that - and she said that she liked the 'degrading' experience.
@annarboriter
Жыл бұрын
And certainly saying so during a session earns her more tips, too; win/win
@K3r0411
2 жыл бұрын
I would caution against drawing conclusions towards what women want from romance novels. While it’s true that about 80% of romance readers are women, romance is only a relatively small fraction of fiction, which again is just a fraction of books overall. Then one has to take into account that about 40% of the population don’t read at all.
@pera.j.andersson
Жыл бұрын
And believing fiction will guide you to your love life is a bit immature. Some people may have a hard time separating the two (like "Don Jon" of the movie of the same name), but not the majority. Methink.
@stevensenator4804
Жыл бұрын
By my mid twenties, I figured out to watch what women actually do vs. listen to what they say. Many things I was taught about women growing up were flat out wrong. The problem is that many women are happy drinking the popular culture Kool-Aid until they hit their early 30s.
@caramelconundrum9280
2 жыл бұрын
Women want a perfect blend of both
@2Ten1Ryu
Жыл бұрын
I seem to have snatched myself a partner that is both masculine and sensitive at the same time. He's Austrian, I'm German, we got to know each other via online gaming. I moved to live with him, three years ago, after having been in a LDR for five plus years. Engaged now and going to be married in summer next year. He is masculine in the traditional sense of being very sporty, well-built, working out a lot, being a hunter and collector of guns (which is very uncommon here, compared to the U.S) and goes shooting a lot. He is also a very good cook and takes care of our home more than me, because I work full time and he is working part-time. He is as much into cuddling as I am. So. Jackpot? (also considered very handsome by many people) Here is the thing, though: he is 3 years younger than me. I had my reservations at first, because I was 25 and he was 22 when we met, but he was taking evening courses to get is college degree and also doing an apprenticeship as a laboratory assistant, so that seemed pretty responsible and mature to me. He also doesn't drink. Only a very occasional beer, like once every two to three months. Oh, and he is 5,8'. I am 5,2' myself, though. It seems to me like the mating crisis is way more prevalent in the U.S. in Europe, or at least Germany and Austria don't seem to be this affected (yet). I feel like the demands from potential partners and beauty standards are much more severe than here. I have no data to back this up, but from what I see and know, it seems to be true.
@Meshuga63
11 ай бұрын
European maternity/paternity policies in the workforce suggest a more pro-family stance, relative to the US as well. Perhaps this translates to pro-dating, pro-marriage as well?
@stenhendrix8538
2 жыл бұрын
Chris, great podcast as always. Appreciate your work and hope you continue doing the great job you're currently doing. You and your podcast have truly had a life changing effect on me, thank you. Why do you reckon people are so negative about this podcast and the educated woman you spoke to? What's up with the whole "don't ask women for advice about women"?
@ChrisWillx
2 жыл бұрын
As soon as you start talking about evpsych or gender dynamics as a guy, you get lumped into the redpill manosphere. Some of the redpill world allow and encourage their audience to behave like brats. I’m not part of that world, and I don’t want that audience.
@JosephBacons
2 жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWillx I love that stance, chris. I’ve been feeling disgusted at what the redpill movement has become. Some are trying hard to justify treating women as objects instead of equal counterparts and disguising it as the “realistic” way of viewing the world.
@Vladimyrful
2 жыл бұрын
Women generally do give quite poor advice when it comes to dating though, I mean don't take my word for it, browse and see for yourself.
@JosephBacons
2 жыл бұрын
@@Vladimyrful I think people in general give pretty bad advice. But I understand what you mean because I’d agree that more women act like they have good dating advice 😂. Perhaps experience and age are better categories to judge on.
@Vladimyrful
2 жыл бұрын
@@JosephBacons Oh yeah, fully agreed! Because people usually don't have the best grasp of the problem they're trying to solve. (I'm generalizing but you get what I mean).
@2HRenovation
Жыл бұрын
She is a very effective researcher/educator.
@sethjohnson7510
2 жыл бұрын
The time stamp, 'Why People Enjoy "Facial Deposits" ' is absolutely hilarious! I think I just deposited something in my pants as I laughed soo hard at this. Thank you for that, Chris 😅
@DavidThackerMusic
2 жыл бұрын
Facts
@t.a.i.m.e.d.savage2540
Жыл бұрын
Hahahaha…EPIC!!…
@bryceherring946
2 жыл бұрын
Sex has always been a physical act, and passion and romance allows the man to physically express his love, and sometimes that can be more aggressive but it's not associated with violence. Having sex and or making love and allowing the man to physically take control, assuming he knows what hes doing is the highest form of connection between a man and a women, and it also means bodies are in motion and there will be some sort of physicality or even roughness, but done correctly, it represents the love a man has for that women and ultimately expressing that with masculine energy, whoever said good sex had to be soft and light like in some soppy romance novel, when real passion is expressed it can come out as strong, bold and powerful, but never violent as that would entail anger or loss of control, the complete opposite of when a man is showing love to a women. People have confused rough sex for good sex, people think that good sex has to be rough but that's because in those situations there is no actual passion and love involved, its just transactional. If a man is truly expressing his physical love for a women and she knows how to properly recieve and allow that man in, it will be strong and passionate, not rough, rough sex is for two adults who have no feeling or connection, just smashing it out.
@AmeliaBodilia
Жыл бұрын
I believe lust drives the physicality and love tempers it to some degree. A combination of lust and love makes for good sex in my experience. On the whole I agree with your comment .lol
@AB-sm1qf
Жыл бұрын
I agree with you.
@jamesbond_and_friends
2 жыл бұрын
Really enjoyed the cheerful tone of this conversation. Very interesting episode.
@yohaizilber
2 жыл бұрын
“Not every woman cares about money” -Every Woman
@orebrh562
2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@ree2453
2 жыл бұрын
I mean that's correct. A 18-20 year old woman will date a broke guy who's tall , has a prominent, sharp square jaw, prominent cheekbones, hunter eyes over a recessed chin rich guy. That' s when we talk about actual physical attraction, not betabuxxing
@anthonypillarella
2 жыл бұрын
They don't, especially past the point of some comfort. Yeah, few women are gonna be hyped on a guy making $20k/yr with no prospects but once you've hit semi-comfortable-life income, it's not that big a deal for most.
@CONEHEADDK
2 жыл бұрын
They want proof of your potential - money can go, good genes and memes, not so much..
@hailtothe_rooster1572
2 жыл бұрын
You can be broke when a woman is in her 304 phase When she’s washed up she’s gonna turn into the typical most exceptional special woman in the world and deserve a high value man As a man it’s your job to read where that woman stands and not invest time in a relationship when you can level up and get better quality down the line. Women decrease value in the sexual marketplace with high tier men over time Men increase their value over time. Once a man hits his peak the options are endless Women will always have endless options because men will always seek that pump and dump
@victorstrada7702
2 жыл бұрын
Bro I'm a manlet (5'5), and I would be the LAST person to recommend and pressure women to read an article that states "you should like shorter guys". 😂 40:00 Also, just to encourage other short dudes: develop charisma and style, and you'll be good. And start talking to chicks. ad1: And yes, people CAN be cruel. Attractive girls CAN be cruel. Rejections are unavoidable. Be grateful you are alive, focus on your own shit, and you'll find those who worth your time.
@Khaled-F
Жыл бұрын
I’m 5’11 but I have short friends who struggle in social settings, and more specifically with women because of their height. There’s no sugarcoating it, dating and attracting women is definitely harder for short men, and it’s great that you’ve already acknowledged that. I respect that you’re not just complaining about it and instead you’re developing yourself to improve your odds despite of that cruel reality. 🫡🤝🏼
@marlonmoncrieffe0728
Жыл бұрын
You sound like a good guy. I hope you find someone worthy someday soon.
@taytayski7118
2 жыл бұрын
This type of discourse is great. I only hope everyone who watches also realises that for all the women that every discussion point does apply to, there will be tens-of-thousands to billions of women who it does not apply to, and if you assume that a generalization of evolutionary/sexual psychology applies to all women (or men), through your resulting approaches and assumptions in life and love, you might accidentally close yourself off to the women of the world that these generalizations don't apply to. The most general feature of evolutionary/sexual psychology is that it produces variation (in what women and men are attracted to). The best thing you can do is learn how to read people well, learn what they like, and adapt to what their unique psychology is. Some women don't like to be degraded, and genuinely do like nice and gentle men, just like there are men out there who prefer to be submissive. If you meet a woman like that who you like and want to be with, just be willing to potentially accept that she is built that way for real, and not be stuck in assuming that she wants something else or doesnt yet know her own psychology (which is also possible), like many vids and podcasts might unintentionally lead their viewers astray in believing, putting them in a worse off place where they can only ever attract the type of women that gets caricaturized in some of these discussions (extraverted, high-feeling, hypersexual, testy, etc.)
@lxpwsk139
Жыл бұрын
Already my favorite episode, Chris - my man, well done!
@Sldoficn
2 жыл бұрын
We modern people are so far detached from our primal instincts that some of these things are alien to us..... Just think how profound this is. How great we've changed as a species in such little time.... Scary stuff..
@jimmyflawless
7 ай бұрын
I’m glad I came across this episode.
@pfschuyler
2 жыл бұрын
Tom Brady. 6'-4" tall, multi-multi millionaire, 7-time (quarterback) superbowl champ 😂, in good shape, good looking dude, speaks 5 languages, great family guy. Wife dumps him. 🤣🤣 They are insatiable, its evolution. You cannot win, just roll with it!
@JaZmine147
2 жыл бұрын
So he's perfect and she just dumped him without any valid reason. This is how you're presenting the situation. And it's unrealistic.
@thehylander266
2 жыл бұрын
That’s why marriage is a waste of time. Women are full grown children you can never please.
@thehylander266
2 жыл бұрын
@@Zebielie Fathers have authority over their children. Men today do not have authority over their wives. You miss this fact. Children do not have freedom to do what they want because parents are responsible. Women are given freedom with lack of responsibility and men are responsible and on the hook. So it’s no longer the same.
@MC-ze8wj
2 жыл бұрын
@@thehylander266 How do you think it got here?
@thehylander266
2 жыл бұрын
@@MC-ze8wj Weak men.
@brandonzhang5808
2 жыл бұрын
On the "agenda towards feminine men", I think the force behind this has to do with the proliferation of pop culture into older demographics, people taking with them the spirit of youth of the cultural environment they grew up in, leading to both the phenomenons of later spiritual development in men and women's preference for more androgynous feminine men as typical of younger girls. It's less so an "agenda" but a significant shift in the underlying sociological basis of society to remain as primarily consumers for longer before becoming a significant producer or provider, which is a strong critical feature of adulthood.
@00Recoil
Жыл бұрын
Screaming is an expression of unabated excitement. When emotions have reached a fever pitch and you feel you cannot contain it any more, particularly girls express that emotion and release that pent up energy with screaming. More importantly, it is a way to generate excitement as well. If someone wants to accentuate their emotional high, they can do so with extreme vocalization. For men, this might be chanting at a football game. Interestingly, hearing someone else vocalizing their elation can also generate excitement in the listener. This is particularly true in socially acceptable situations, like a rock concert or a football game. When everyone is screaming around you, it simultaneously expresses your emotions and feeds them.
@OliveraBenavidez
2 жыл бұрын
La imaginación, esa es la respuesta a tu pregunta entre la diferencia de ver una película y leer. La fantasía es personal, no es lo que se imaginó un guionista de una película de bajo presupuesto. Muy bueno el video!
@sprezzatura8755
2 жыл бұрын
I love her. I love how she's giving us a little peek throughout the interview.
@simonb4689
Жыл бұрын
into her bustier you mean?
@TJ-vl1ff
Жыл бұрын
lol i think it looks terrible, especially at that age.
@simonb4689
Жыл бұрын
@@TJ-vl1ff agreed
@DieFlabbergast
Жыл бұрын
@@TJ-vl1ff What age? She's still young and attractive, and her "assets" are in fine shape. But it's highly inappropriate. It detracts from her argument.
@mr.j3371
Жыл бұрын
@@TJ-vl1ff Nah dude, I enjoyed it lol (cougar baby)
@RodneysPublishing
11 ай бұрын
Thears a different in what a person wants, desire. And what we're Told to want
@marissa8061
2 жыл бұрын
This was so eye opening. Thank you
@faismasterx
2 жыл бұрын
You don't want to keep your eyes open when it happens.
@goatzyemen2542
2 жыл бұрын
Nice cans
@anthonyyoung6489
Жыл бұрын
Yeah. I was thinking the exact same thing. She looks like a lot of fun.
@leebrown1049
2 жыл бұрын
Some great comments below so I'm just going to add yet another great show. Thanks for introducing us to these interesting experts Chris.
@nf6386
2 жыл бұрын
Today I learned that even male frogs have to deal with “sh!t tests”.
@JimmyJaxJellyStax
2 жыл бұрын
A charismatic dedicated dad with chad-like abilities
@unapologeticanti-feminist3205
Жыл бұрын
Nope, a charismatic Chad with dedicated dad-like abilities. In romance novels, the guy starts off as total non-dad material like Christian Grey and usually does not want or feel like he can become a husband/dad. Only after he falls in love with the girl does he become perfect husband/dad material.
@crosselsmith776
2 жыл бұрын
I remember I was a pretty short as 13 year old. I used to act kind and very friendly. Woman in school used to ignore me and guys used to bully me. I had no friends. Over the years developed a emotionless dark personality who didn't give a fck about anyone. I also became the second tallest guy in the class. And suddenly women began to chase me. They even started to write 50 shades of grey tier fanfictions about me. No matter what society say most girls always like a dominating masculine man not some caring emotional guy.
@flyaway6671
2 жыл бұрын
Almost believable until the fanfiction thing lol
@bro918
Жыл бұрын
@8thaccount321yes
@NeonSamurai72
2 жыл бұрын
One of the best yet. Very interesting. Particularly the part about societal ideals vs personal ideals.
@gillianstapleton8566
Жыл бұрын
Any studies on why men shout at the television while watching a football match …. 😂 personally I never screamed at a concert or shouted out watching something on TV … I don’t get it … I guess it’s a certain personality trait.
@michaelfern4079
Жыл бұрын
Good question. I don’t know what that’s all about. Orwell was a genius for including the minutes of hate in Nineteen Eighty Four.
@thijsg8549
2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting episode. How would she explain the succes of movies like Notting Hill though? Plenty of effeminate men in succesful romcoms
@lucieciepka1031
Жыл бұрын
For women the end result is someone that is grown up, will not complete with the child for your attention, will assume his responsibilities. You get there by making someone (not very masculine) and somewhat dependent (on his mom), in to independent man that owns his mistakes and takes responsibility. Or you take someone masculine and independent and make him care about someone else then himself, make him dependable. Those are not easy tasks. Non is easier then the other. Some men grow up in healthy families and are situated close to the gold middle, some work on themselves, by themselves, by aspirating to be better, others meet a woman that pushes them to get to the middle.
@whywhenwhere4377
2 жыл бұрын
In a Western World that claims to celebrate diversity and difference the claim that males and females are the same is bizarre. You can’t easily encapsulate what a woman is or what a man is but they are different; even if they are more similar than they are different.
@bh148
2 жыл бұрын
Why is it so hard to understand different women like different types of men? Men don’t all like the same sort of women.
@commandershepard9601
2 жыл бұрын
When it comes to personality men do all want the same woman. Kind, pretty, supportive, non argumentative.
@ipread
2 жыл бұрын
Chris. Amazing well done. Do more topics like this. Very refreshing.
@Sarah-oe2jm
9 ай бұрын
The one thing missing in this discussion is recognition that what we fantasise about is not actually what we want. Sexual fantasy is not exclusively related to we want in RL. Not because of social proprietary only but also about the fantasy having a symbolic and mediatory function.
@LukeC908
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like this is explained to be way more complicated than need be
@kubrickenigma7977
2 жыл бұрын
But then there would be no conversation, and so then what?
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
It always starts out that way. Then, it eventually takes shape and before you know it we'll have concrete textbooks that concisely summarize it all. Just takes time to get there.
@Nyumc99
14 күн бұрын
38:40 women nowadays think that they live in a benign neighbourhood, because of the media pushing Harry Styles media persona. The reality difference /understanding, between male and female in 2024 , is off the charts . Until the so called benign environment around them suddenly becomes hostile / life threatening ( street and day to day ) social media fb etc. . great job again either way with this video my friend. Another wonderful, open and intelligent guest you chose. Hats off to you and your team. And also to the wonderful and intelligent , yet super feminine Katherine . 👏🏴
@randr302
2 жыл бұрын
Every time I watch my favorite podcaster Chris,I am more & more grateful I have the hubby I married. No offense but,the time he came on my chest & said MINE! I was his forever🤣
@PWizz91
2 жыл бұрын
Jesus! hahahaha
@danielle7729
2 жыл бұрын
😂 that’s great. I was just thinking how lucky I am to have my husband while watching this
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
That is hilarious 😂
@squidikka
2 жыл бұрын
lol
@Romie15
2 жыл бұрын
Please bring her back in the show! She's hilarious & very knowledgeable. I LOVED this episode! ♥♥♥♥
@AB-sm1qf
Жыл бұрын
I agree. This was such a vivacious interview. She’s enchanting.
@ofmonadsandnomads9500
2 жыл бұрын
What about well-rounded masculinity? Like when you can lift, write, make art, be emotionally available, hunt, build, and even fight to defend your woman? The effeminate nerd and the meathead are not your only options here
@peke1822
5 ай бұрын
Incredibly hard to find someone, maybe for a no attachment relationship or a ONS but not for a LTR which is what most women want
@CONEHEADDK
2 жыл бұрын
"I've never lost a woman, by being to "mean", but I've lost many, by being to nice". 10ish years ago, while women were screaming about "grape culture" aso, I looked into things. The most sold book - 50 shades of Grey.. The most commen fantasy - domination. More than 50% of women had said "no", while hoping he would push on (so-called "shit test") and regeretted it.. Women want, what other women want, that they them selves don't know, if they can get.. Written before watching - let's see, what she tells us. Be strong guys..!!! B)
@CommandoMaster
2 жыл бұрын
It's definitely better to be overly masculine, dominant, or assertive, than to be nicer to women if you want her to find u attractive romantically, and not view u as a friend.
@CONEHEADDK
2 жыл бұрын
@@CommandoMaster 4 sure. I've studied this stuff for 50ish years..
@bh148
2 жыл бұрын
@Commando Master That will work with the women it works with, other women will be indifferent to or repelled by your approach.
@bh148
2 жыл бұрын
@@CommandoMaster You said it right there: ‘overly’ = too much. Why not just be yourself and find a woman who wants you as you are, rather than putting on a facade.
@crosselsmith776
2 жыл бұрын
I was a pretty submissive and hopelessly romantic guy as a 13 year old kid. Now as 19 year old I am pretty dominant and don't believe in stupid romance. It'd be impossible for me to even act submissive even the said girl is my true love. The problem is society gaslights boys to be femenized boys instead of being a man.
@iRRichiee
2 жыл бұрын
The issue when it comes to wanting normal guys vs dominant guys is women cannot detach reality frrom their fantasies.... Men obviously want porn stars..with amazing bodies...but we can more easily dispose of these ideals and preferences in the real world. Sure women should have standards as should men...but its important to be realistic...
@lordofgingers
2 жыл бұрын
I would argue we have no choice. Most women don’t want most men. But most men want most women. That gap in desire in my opinion plays a major role in this difference you are highlighting
@cd0130
2 жыл бұрын
I think this is an incredibly well stated idea. church pastors want to shame dudes for porn, but they never shame women directly for social media use.
@JimBillyRayBob
10 ай бұрын
It doesn't have to be one or the other. Sometimes degrading IS arousing. It can sometimes be both, for both people.
@magpiecam2024
2 жыл бұрын
@Chris Williamson At 30:00 You say women are now applauding men who are more submissive, agreeable and feminine, then point to Harry Styles as an example. Harry Styles is not submissive or agreeable. He may dress in a feminine way and sing, dance and write music, but honest self expression has always been attractive. Honest self expression is risky and polarising, it’s the opposite of submissive and agreeable. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to put yourself out there. But it’s always been attractive. Elvis dancing and singing in 1950 was ‘feminine’, risky and polarising. Same as artists today.
@toddd6563
2 жыл бұрын
Another excellent Vid Chris, great questions man.
@njkf
Жыл бұрын
charming and interesting lady!
@annarboriter
Жыл бұрын
Screaming at concerts exclusively for male performers lines up well with female copulatory vocalizations especially when in large groups
@michaelfern4079
Жыл бұрын
Interesting. Never thought of that before.
@jonahtwhale1779
2 жыл бұрын
Feel degraded and aroused are not mutually exclusive, especially in women!
@AlteraLin
2 жыл бұрын
This was a fun one.
@juhel5531
Жыл бұрын
I personally am a vanilla doujin enjoyer. I don't want the seggs to be the focus. I want to hear a storyline and get engaged emotionally so that it feels like relationship seggs. A couple alternating feom absolutely infatuated with each other and slowly turning into their idealized selves and being in a relaxed companionate love is a treat to read and see. Seeing the gal touch her BF's face and say "sorry I wasn't listening, you're face is just so..." sends tingles down my spine and floods me with memories of past relationships. I wonder if there's even an evolutionary psych explanation for my womanly sexual fantasies.
@misterserious3522
Жыл бұрын
Yes there is. Its very simple and adaptive. You want what you want when you want it without having to explain or apologize or suffer consequences. The ultimate goal is to do what you want and not have to do anything you dont want to. Should we discuss my fee?
@rufusblasfemus3018
Жыл бұрын
Isn,t reading not also visual?
@michaelfern4079
Жыл бұрын
It’s a strange one isn’t it? If you read about a bear in the woods, don’t they picture a bear in the woods? The advantage about reading is that it gives you an insight into the psychology of the characters involved. You get the descriptions of smells and sounds etc which aren’t included in images or movies.
@jonathanfarley2023
Жыл бұрын
Nice view.
@jackdaripper137
Жыл бұрын
This girl knows what she’s doing wearing that low cut shirt. And it’s working
@KnottyCeltic
Жыл бұрын
I always assumed that rough sex in whatever way asked for by women is a "show me what you got" kind of thing. Humans have become so refined and law abiding (for the most part) and treat women gently etc. I always felt that sometimes they tapped into that primitive brain and wanted to experience that kind of ownership and dominance we could have over them just for that moment.
@jimdavis8391
8 ай бұрын
Oh you gonna get into trouble with that thinking, whole lotta trouble! I ain't putting you down, I'm an old man and women aren't interested in me so as I'm safe now. Just there were times once when I'd do a woman's bidding.
@TarpeianRock
5 ай бұрын
I equate female sexuality with quantum mechanics with Shrödingers cat thrown in for good measure : equally incomprehensible, equally “everything’s opposite is also valid”. A minefield for sure but fascinating to explore as a practitioner, to half quote Frank Herbert : the mystery of female sexuality is not a problem to solve but a reality to experience.
@victorias9521
2 жыл бұрын
Great episode! I listened to it in one go.
@markcavandish1295
2 жыл бұрын
Same here! And I rarely can with this long a format.
@dk1828
7 ай бұрын
Question at 21:10 is pretty obvious to me… why do we almost always say the book was way better than the movie!? It’s because there is a build-up, really becoming emotionally involved in the narrative within a book than what you’re able to experience in a 90 minute movie.
@anthonydowney6069
2 жыл бұрын
Great guest with a sense of humour and very little of the residual biases that some female contributors have had. But an aspect of the dating scene that is not addressed (not surprisingly)is that of race. Most Western countries have skewed sex/gender ratios in the relevant age groups because of immigration of mostly males from Asian and African countries. This coupled with the higher desire for White women from the general male population globally whether because of their higher 'looks 'standard or their higher levels of promiscuity. Also they are free from any male cultural, religious or familial control. White women in the relevant age category make up less than 10%of the female population globally and are thus empowered by that stat alone as well as the social status and high education achievements nationally. This is the starting point for the spread of the attitudes that all females now have.
@dahliaherrod4301
Жыл бұрын
I was wondering why that was never discussed, especially with the talk about porn preferences. Porn is historically segregated and kinda racist. I would love to get into the nuances of the racial aspect of porn
@dallaskj
8 күн бұрын
Im trying to watch this video but the constant ads are shite I'm going to delete KZitem instead
@JrnMnd08
2 жыл бұрын
They want a Chad Dad. Why? Because everyone wants their cake and eat it, too.
@wyleecoyotee4252
2 жыл бұрын
No. The 'dad' part is cringe and absolutely disgusting
@vidsmakemelawl
2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting conversation! Especially the “deposits” and the “screaming/crowds” portions 😅
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