Hi Wing, I've always been a long time 'lurker subscriber' and what you broke my heart to hear. I can relate so much, at 29. Especially when you said, you were hoping everything would just change because you didn't feel like you could change anything. Something that's helped me is to see all your problems as obstacles, and actively trying to find the solutions one by one, using the power of the internet. A few positive quotes: Before you give up, remember why you started & hanged on so long. You're already suffering, get something out of it! Please for your nephew and especially yourself, try to become the person you never had in your life because you know what it's like and don't want someone else to endure that pain. I've been subscribed for years, and always silently cheering for you and celebrating any of your little wins. :)
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Summer, thank you so much for your message. I too am a lurker subscriber of my favourite youtubers lol. I guess I should say I don't really know what needs to be done to become that person the younger me needed. I'm still trying to figure things out and atm I'm just focusing on my physical health since it's one the of easier things to control. I know that being healthy can help with my mental health so that's the first step for me. Thanks again for your encouragement :)
@kenjiharima
2 жыл бұрын
Lazy, lonely, disconnected, unmotivated, unhappy, unfulfilled, and anxious about every facet of my own existence. Content at times, sometimes craving more. Finding peace in my own solitude, yet at the same time dreading it. I love being alone , though maybe it was a way I could control the reality around me, a way to avoid potential failures, or avoid not being accepted by others.
@FaeiryneFaun
3 жыл бұрын
As a Barista I have to say that your analysis of the cafes demographics is spot on here too lol. If the cafe is 'white' everyone tends to be so much more extroverted, because it's their culture. But if I"m at an asian cafe they'll just expect me to do my job well and not criticize me if I'm not in a mood to be chatty. I don't mind either way because I'm naturally a bubbly person, but your concerns about that are so valid. I'm always rooting for you (I have no clue how I found your channel years ago but I'm always keeping up with you) and I know you can build a life that you'll be proud of. It's never too late!
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Faeiryne :) Working in hospitality is hard for me but it has helped me learn how to not take things personally. I still wish for that day I can have a job that didn't require that much interaction with ppl lol.
@Vassasu
3 жыл бұрын
I feel that "i cant study". But i came to find that somethings i can study, im just bad at retaining information for a long time. Attention span is broken. But one of your qualities is clearly the way you express yourself. You seem quite inteligent in that sense and your are true to yourself. Hope i could express myself to easily. Thanks for sharing.
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
My attention span was already broken before social media made it worse lol. I am not someone who knows how to express herself clearly. Everytime I make a video I need to rehearse what I want to say beforehand. So you too will be able to express yourself easily with practice. Thanks for watching :)
@i0073
2 жыл бұрын
This is how I feel, I haven’t come to terms with the realization that I can’t change myself or be happy. But we can find happiness in other aspects of our lives, I am hopeful that their is much more to life, even though it is extremely difficult to get ourselves out of our constant struggle and suffering that is brought upon by the stuff in life we have no control over. Hoping we can all find our strength as we go through the hardship and unavoidable reality of our anxiety.
@zanifeliafelia2355
2 жыл бұрын
your videos are gold. everything you say just feels so personal.. like you are the one person in this world who understands what i go through. thank you so much. i wish there was someone like you in my life.. then maybe i would finally have someone i could be comfortable being myself around.
@lilapurple6143
2 жыл бұрын
Wing!!! I've been watching some of your videos lately and I relate a lot. And what you said about not being able to study ... not being hardworking... if you have time (and want to) take a look at the possibility of having ADHD. I'm not diagnosing you or assuming you have it. But a lot of women with social anxiety and depression who don't do remarkably well in school (like me), who've had a hard time studying etc are highly undiagnosed. Worth taking a look, just to rule it out! I just got diagnosed and it's been extremely relevatory and ... relieving! Even if it doesn't "sound" like you could have ADHD... please please look into it. If you haven't already that is. So very sorry if this comes off as patronizing or as if I'm trying to help you. It's just that being diagnosed with ADHD recently has explained everything for me
@jrofficial4317
3 жыл бұрын
Words cannot express how thankful l am that you made this video
@lilnarm_smoothblaze
3 жыл бұрын
Talk to us!! We're here to listen. Understand?🥰🥰 I make so many excuses on why I will not go here or their I know it's part of my genetics my dad is the same way. Eye to eye contact for me is a no no for too long.
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for listening Lil Narm. Knowing that I have a few ppl willing to listen to me complain about life means a lot. I still struggle with making eye contact most of the time. Sometimes I would think back to situations in which I should have been comfortable enought to make eye contact but then I don't because I still don't like it.
@chanpiggy3938
Жыл бұрын
i cant believe i can relate so much to you
@naomibennett2000
Жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety, I’m not necessarily the smartest person either. I can totally empathise with your situation. Life is tough. Some days I come home from work (I work in retail) and just feel so crappy after dealing with difficult costumers. I’m trying to study nursing in which has been a long road and I’ve been pushed back so many times. I failed 1 placement but am still persevering. I’m also extremely introverted and feel like people don’t understand me sometimes. I just want to be understood, that’s one thing I want in my life. I don’t like dealing with people and just want to retire now at the age of 22 because I don’t think I can mentally deal with people any longer. I feel like I have no work/life balance and I’m just completely missing out on what normal people should be doing and enjoying in their lives. I hope we can find happiness within ourselves and overcome social anxiety.
@nadiachaudhry8473
3 жыл бұрын
I wanna give you a big fat hug :(
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nadia for the hug :)
@marianneheloise7704
3 жыл бұрын
Hugs to you! Don't be too hard on yourself! Everyone is wired differently. Just try one thing at a time, until you find your purpose and passion, don't give up. Age is just a number, there's a season for everything. You are a role model! You're honest and eloquent. You're sharing means a lot !
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks :) The one thing I'm trying right now is losing weight so hopefully that will work lol.
@drowsyfairy
3 жыл бұрын
You are already dealing with so much stress inside you I wouldn't call it lazy or your fault. It's prolly a mix of genes and the enviornement. And as a white introverted person I love the asian owned shops in my big city, unfortunatley the extraverts do to so meh Can someone plx open up intro only cafes, we just wanna live too? x)
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
An introverts only cafe is a great idea Charlotte. I think that would exist in Japan tho haha. Thanks for watching :)
@lifesperils
3 жыл бұрын
Hello Wing
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Hey~
@aveurl
Жыл бұрын
why so many people feel the need to specify race and create stereotypes of each i don't understand. im a "white person", 14, yet im not extroverted and feel pretty similar to you with other things you said.
@20000dino
Жыл бұрын
Because as a white person, you're ignorant to the ways poc people are socialized and discriminated against. It doesn't mean you can't relate to their social anxiety, it just means Wing's social anxiety has an additional and very substantial layer of non-white socialization which inherently comes with being poc in a mostly white society and which affect them in ways you'll never experience. We're not the ones "creating stereotypes", we're the ones suffering because of them.
@elyssa9643
Жыл бұрын
Dude she's in Australia. People fromt ev outback are typically very introverted and crazy. I mean you'd have to be to live in a place where you have to fight kangaroos to save your dog. She didn't mean anything by it.
@mtstoyerisboss7897
Жыл бұрын
I've commented on another one of your videos. I'm not sure if you're going to be checking your comments.. But I wanted to say.. I've been obviously thinking about life. Because I'm suicidal. And I know how you're feeling. I want you to know that for many people life doesn't get better. It doesn't. And for many people, they have bad endings. But, most people have something they enjoy in life. Life isn't about being successful - it's not about money, or riches, professionalism, and it's not even about chasing after your life goals. The only thing that's going to keep you alive is enjoying living. You said you love singing and dancing. Unfortunately, you can't make much money from it, but it's something you should hold onto - and I mean it! Because, without them, you're not alive.. Trust me.. I know what it's like to not feel alive.. Living for other people isn't going to work out for you at all. Living to appease people isn't going to work out, either. Life is horribly cruel. But, I promise you, the only thing that will get you to wake up everyday, is "I want to do the things I love".
@quanathan
3 жыл бұрын
we're your friends talk to us
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks quanathan :) It means a lot.
@williamchin5904
Жыл бұрын
Hi wing, I think no one is truely "happy" even the people who fit the "stereotype archetype of being a normal happy person," those types of people just have the benefit of fitting into a specific mold that society props up their own rhetoric that they "are happy." Is it possible, one might be short-selling oneself by calling themselves as "having no passion, not being happy" when in reality they've been emotionally supporting their parents their entire lives and allowing their parents to be successful "albeit in an invisible, low-key, vibe-wise" type of way? Sorry, if it seems I'm kind of psycho-analysing things, but I just typed that off my gut-feeling. My two cents is that if one believes one is "not normal/unique with no side connotation," then one may have to redefine every word in the english dictionary when trying to find oneself because all words in our society have side connotations built to embellish people who are "normal," and devalue those who are "not normal/unique." Sorry if the wording was unconventional or if I overstepped my bounds, but it came from the heart if that resonates. Thanks for the vid, and best of luck :)
@quanathan
3 жыл бұрын
wow youre in australia
@Wing-wh5ih
3 жыл бұрын
Yup
@Nveevev
2 жыл бұрын
30?????
@SpiritualRizz
Жыл бұрын
'I'M NOT GOOD AT SINGING' Bullsh*t, Dude like you sing better then most artist out THERE. Please do the world a favor, SING!!!🤯
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