A friend of mine had social anxiety as a young person in his late teens. He decided that he would go to the mall, and walk up to people and tell them that he had social anxiety, and was trying to improve by talking to strangers. Almost everyone was happy to start talking with him, after doing this for a few times he inability to approach people in talk with them was much improved. When I met him in has late 30's, you NEVER would have guessed he had this problem. He was married, and had had a lot of girlfriends in the past, and was good at talking in front of other people. It's a skill you can practice!
@johanjohansen7572
5 жыл бұрын
Man you guys are good at acting! I find the short clips of you in different situations very entertaining.
@Ingrid0410
5 жыл бұрын
Greve Johan Johansen yes!! Wish they’d act it out!!!👍
@pinecone9619
5 жыл бұрын
This is the worst part about wearing suits. People assume that you are confident, can talk, and always know what to say. I don't.
@zang9147
5 жыл бұрын
What helped me was to ask questions of the other person; going through the same topics at first. Where do you live? For how long? Then go on to asking about children, travel, etc. It took the pressure off me and demonstrated an interest in the other person.
@HoGraz
5 жыл бұрын
Maybe you are wearing used suits that are giving off bad juju. I suggest saging them or going bespoke.
@Ingrid0410
5 жыл бұрын
Zan G indeed
@YokoshimaOfficial
5 жыл бұрын
I know how it feels :( I call this looking neat and intact from the outside but not the inside LOL
@davidnavarro4821
4 жыл бұрын
Pine Cone I think it’s a good assumption, the challenge is to be up to the expections !
@diesel_dawg
5 жыл бұрын
Preston, sir, you look like a man from the '50s who has a superhero alter ego. lol
@montela5078
3 жыл бұрын
Superman
@jonathannuamah3296
Жыл бұрын
More like an alien
@coltsavage4490
5 жыл бұрын
The thumb nail is funny.
@zigatelban4392
5 жыл бұрын
Sven wearing an apple watch, now THAT suprised me.
@Mike-yy4ll
4 жыл бұрын
He also wears Adidas Tracksuit with Crocs and drives a Yugo off camera.
@gedcanonizado
5 жыл бұрын
The quality of your videos are just top notch. Your channel is the epitome of why our time is called the information age. You give out free education, brothers. For that, thank you! Hoping nothing but the best for your channel and I'll continue my viewership.
@erforscher
5 жыл бұрын
The only problem with your videos is that I cannot share it to my friends... They would misunderstand it...😅😂
@giusepperesponte8077
3 жыл бұрын
The entire topic of conversation has been a learned skill for me, none of these things come naturally. My school years were full of all the mistakes in this video. It was honestly the worst time of my life, trying to connect with people and never succeeding. However, when something doesn’t come naturally, you become aware of it and consciously try to improve yourself, so it becomes a positive if you think of it that way. Now I’m a far better conversationalist than I was before, and I mean FAR better. Before I had no skill in conversation, now I can confidently say I’m better than most.
@Echelon111999
2 жыл бұрын
Brother it's the same for me here. From the horrible social life in school to college, this feeling never leaves me. It was never natural for me. Only natural social interaction I have is with my parents and the friends I have been with for 10 years now. The problem I have is making friends. I'm really bad at my own introduction and reading other people so my only weapon here is time. I have to be with them for a long time to figure out what kind of people they are. Anyways, Im glad things are better now for you and for me. It's all something you can improve on.
@rokomarasovic1507
5 жыл бұрын
Wonderful as always. Congratulations on every video you made!
@mikeward1701
5 жыл бұрын
The autism point is a good one and also applies to those who are partially sighted. Partially sighted people can have trouble seeing and interpreting social cues, body language, and facial expressions. Their disability may also not be apparent to other people, as other than eyeglasses (which a lot of sighted people incorrectly assume correct a persons’ vision completely), there is little to signal a person is partially sighted, as unlike those who are blind, partially sighted people do not wear sunglasses and may not use a white cane for navigation. There are also conditions such as nystagmus (involuntary movement of the eyes), which make eye contact difficult, and to outside observers unfamiliar with the condition, create the false impression of inattentiveness or not listening.
@MlleLyla
3 жыл бұрын
wow, I agree with that, well said ! ive been told i was disrespectful because I wasnt looking ppl in the eyes when they talked. I had eyes problems for years, and for me the best way im attentive to someone is to actually turn my ear towards them .
@MartysWhiteSuit
2 жыл бұрын
This is an ex excellent point as I have been partially-sighted since birth and battered about the head by teachers who never understood or bothered to understand the problem.
@franzjosephi.9985
5 жыл бұрын
Keep doing your great work Preston.
@franzjosephi.9985
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@franzjosephi.9985
5 жыл бұрын
Do you like cardigans more than suits too?
@needfoolthings
5 жыл бұрын
Preston's outfit for presenting the video is brilliant. Absolutely beautiful...
@msbae
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for remembering us who are on the Spectrum. It's much appreciated.
@thelegendofdarius
5 жыл бұрын
I have autism and I love watching the Gentleman’s Gazette 11:47
@INukeJz
5 жыл бұрын
Noice
@thelegendofdarius
4 жыл бұрын
Christopher James Potter That’s really good for me having autism is nothing to be embarrassed about that’s just the way I was born
@laytonaschauer3675
5 жыл бұрын
The more people I became acquainted with the less I found myself actively listening. I’ve gotta work on that!
@BlackAdder665
5 жыл бұрын
Haha @Nr.13: I managed twice in my life to ask a woman a question regarding her unborn child only to find out that they weren't pregnant. It was very uncomfortable and very funny at the same time.
@ItsMe-mw1ds
3 жыл бұрын
lol that's terrible😂😂 i have a similar story; i remember, my little sister grasped a women's belly in winn dixie and asked "when is your baby due". she wasn't pregnant. i felt so bad ... but it was funny only bc she didn't know better.
@speedracer9132
5 жыл бұрын
The thumbnail 😂 hilarious! Preston, you’re awesome!
@robbgregorrichard1009
4 жыл бұрын
As a person with Aspergers, I admit to have made all but one of these mistakes in conversations. I admit to still struggle with some of them from time to time, especially #1 and #2. This video is a very good explanation on what to do in conversations and what to avoid.
@aesma-daeva
5 жыл бұрын
Great video, Preston! You guys are getting better at these skits, every single time.
@Ingrid0410
5 жыл бұрын
M. Faraz Samavat plz act them out more they’re hysterical like the table manners one! I showed it to my family and we cracked up but learned something at the same time well they did --all men lol
@morganchilds9054
5 жыл бұрын
The key to conversation is empathy. Whatever the topic, when you meet somebody, look for some shared experience that you can expound on together. Also, when talking about the art of conversation, I feel like the neurologically atypical experience is rarely mentioned, so thank you for talking about that a bit. There are a lot of old school "rules" about "making eye contact" and "giving a firm handshake" that are all things that I'm comfortable with, but my autistic friends may or may not be, and I don't think should be held as an indicator of a person's intelligence (though it often, sadly, is). Let's call it the intellectual "no brown in town" rule, where conventional wisdom should be moving towards those rules being outdated. It's discriminatory and exclusionary to expect every person to look you in the eye and shake your hand. So... while you make strides here suggesting that people be aware of neurologically diverse people, you do them no favours by suggesting that their friends teach them how to mimic the behaviours of neurotypical people. Normal social interactions need to change to be more accepting of people who are neurologically diverse. If somebody doesn't want to shake hands or make eye contact, or has trouble keeping the volume of their voice down when they get excited, we ought to not assume that person is dumb or antisocial. Perhaps we should recognize that that person may not be able to be "taught" to follow social cues, and instead of patronizing or condescending to them, we could just accept that their behaviour will be a valuable part of the milieu of any given gathering.
@plumzzy7138
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the shout out to your friends on the spectrum! It was a pleasant surprise when you spoke about the difficulties we have when interacting with people, and it's good advice.
@YokoshimaOfficial
5 жыл бұрын
2:14 Best thing I needed to hear to fix myself. THANK YOU. I'm an introvert and always been left out of conversations and never heard to when I talk so I've been keeping my mouth shut in solitude for many years.... I need to think my input is valuable too.
@giusepperesponte8077
3 жыл бұрын
Man, this is the best video on this channel. I don’t always agree with a lot of what is said in the fashion advice videos, but I do with this one. If everyone were to watch this video and take in it’s insights, conversation would be a treat, sometimes it still is now, but often times the conversation is ruined by one of the traits on this list.
@martian9999
5 жыл бұрын
these videos are great, because it's easy to see you guys are having a great time making them
@craftyajay9495
4 жыл бұрын
NEVER USE THE SAME JOKE TWICE . . . Getting a laugh first-time-round is priceless; re-runs are social suicide.
@TheGabrielberki
5 жыл бұрын
Love that quote about humility!
@chickgin1
5 жыл бұрын
05:37 My favorite part--those faces!
@brenttesterman1198
5 жыл бұрын
Truly in-depth content on a not so easy subject matter. I really enjoyed the pantomime/ body-language. You folks at GG make a great team!
@eoinmaclean6478
5 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness...the acting is HILARIOUS! Raphael digs for gold in his nose and grosses-out Preston, and then Preston scolds Raphael and makes him cry LOL.
@drewroberts139
5 жыл бұрын
Ahh, the art of small talk. I bet you would be fun at a cocktail party, Preston!
@chickgin1
5 жыл бұрын
I bet he would be; he's absolutely charming!
@DutchPlanDerLinde
5 жыл бұрын
The moment you quoted Lewis, made me like the channel twice as much, and I already loved it. The man is the finest example of class and high moral standards I have ever heard of.
@Mahoozi97
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your efforts, as always a great video.
@tonydeltablues
5 жыл бұрын
This is very useful and very well done: I think most people would benefit from watching, even if they think they might be socially sophisticated and sensitive. Bravo, Sven, Preston and Kyle.
@Echelon111999
2 жыл бұрын
I have a bit of an autism especially in social situations so I can't be on the same tune as others during the interactions but Its great seeing how other socially skilled friends of mine are like flowing in the conversation it's like art.
@metalman7825
3 жыл бұрын
Me starting a convo with strangers: “so what are your thought on the 793 raid on Lindisfarne and it’s social and geopolitical influence on Celtic Christianity as well as the formation of the British Empire?”
@shanikaswasey3708
2 жыл бұрын
Please tell me more! I feel that I'm inclined to believe that the greater part of England converted to Christianity when they were presented with the Bible as they identified themselves as the birthright tribe of Ephraim on account of the laws they inherited. I know that Alfred the Great, by sovereign decree, caused that the common law be synonymous with the Bible. I also understand there was a Celtic raid on the newly arrived Anglo-Saxon people whereby they discovered that they might take the entire land of Britain by the rule of law, as distinguished from the rule of force. Do you know of this event as well?
@alizarkami6187
5 жыл бұрын
As always the little scetches are amazing
@11123fsd
5 жыл бұрын
You guys are the best, huge respect
@pboyd8354
5 жыл бұрын
love your show. this was done brilliantly with humor knowledge on how to be sensitive to others and good taste. Oh and it is very helpful that you gave examples- that was key. just lovely. thank you
@2bitrasputin793
5 жыл бұрын
Guilty, Guilty, Guilty. 15 times over. (and I'll add: Flossing in public.)
@Sator810
5 жыл бұрын
Here is a couple more: 1 If you are wearing a smart watch and get a message during a conversation just let it be. If you look down on your watch to see what it was it will easily be mistaken for boredom. 2. When meeting new people at a party don’t start talking about work. Not everyone has an interesting job, they might even be embarrassed about it or not have one at all and have been dreaded going because of those exact questions.
@MaxWattage
5 жыл бұрын
Another excellent video on the wider topic of how to be a Gentleman!
@ChrisLee-UK
5 жыл бұрын
Very informative but would love to see the blooper reel to this video. Those faces are hilarious 😂 Great video though, thank you :)
@JimiHendrix998
5 жыл бұрын
This video reminds me of the writer in "3 men in a boat", who reads the medical textbook and decides he has every disease in it. I now feel cursed with every social ineptitude and disinclined to ever leave the house again....
@popculturelio
5 жыл бұрын
Gentlemen, your videos are what keep me motivated, to not forgo this way of life and allow the mainstream of this world to pull me along. Thank you.
@robyn3349
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you, great video. It was so funny to see you misbehaving!
@BlackAdder665
5 жыл бұрын
6:04 - 6:07 GIF material! :-DDD
@TheTOBroShow
5 жыл бұрын
7:36 reminds me of Abbott and Costello. I bet these guys can be a real silent comedy duo.
@orangejuicesimpson7233
5 жыл бұрын
I find it funny that I need to research something that is literally human nature
@mercster
5 жыл бұрын
Someday I will be a gentleman. I have a fountain pen!
@loveless8241
5 жыл бұрын
I have a signpen. I'm 50% on the way!
@JeMappelleFrikandel
5 жыл бұрын
But do you have ink?
@imyourhuckleberry357
5 жыл бұрын
I have a paper mate...Does that count?
@mercster
5 жыл бұрын
@@JeMappelleFrikandel Waterman Intense Black
@Ingrid0410
5 жыл бұрын
mercster great!! I bought my first fountain pen after stumbling upon this channel! Love it! Keep it up fellow the world needs more sophisticated gentlemen these days so badly!!🌸👍
@B-son
4 жыл бұрын
You should never, ever, ask a women if she is pregnant, unless you see a child coming out of her.
@waynejohn8
5 жыл бұрын
Once again, another great video!! THanks.
@captain_daniel9y631
2 жыл бұрын
I admire the level of acting you all go into to visually display a point. lol
@benjaminharrisongray9079
5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, I think just being a gentleman itself in public is awkward, when others do not want to be reciprocative to it and even think it is contemptible. It's not much of a problem for me to be a confident gentleman when others are harsh because I am naturally honest about it; it's just who I am, but at times it does make me question why people can be so harsh when they don't have to be.
@Ingrid0410
5 жыл бұрын
Benjamin Harrison Gray just be yourself Yl meet like minded people eventually.
@NDakota79
5 жыл бұрын
Making assumptions: “what did you recently read?“ “sorry, I can’t read :(“
@Jopedius
5 жыл бұрын
The acted bits cracked me up. Also great advice.
@vicaccino
Жыл бұрын
Very useful man, thanks so so sooo much 🥰
@MA7-6585
7 ай бұрын
“Congrats Sarah!” “For what?” “You’re pregnant “ “I’m not pregnant.”
@harrisidzam6632
5 жыл бұрын
That thumbnail is everything😂
@believer1028
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate all the acting and hard work👍
@countalma9800
5 жыл бұрын
Excellent pattern matching Preston! Very beautiful jacket and tie! Love the combination of the small graph check pattern on the shirt and the stripes on the tie. Where is the tie from? Love the colors.
@Blabbermouth-w5w
5 ай бұрын
How about when someone constantly talks about their job and then accuses you of not being involved. How does one artfully address that?
@shanewright2772
5 жыл бұрын
#2 - I always follow this credo and stick to a few guaranteed conversation starters, usually: A. "Hey, is that that Trump fella great or what?" B. "So, did I mention I was a Vegan?" C. "You know who I really miss? Kevin Spacey..." and D. "You have inordinately large thighs" One of them is bound to get a conversation going.
@smoshxan
5 жыл бұрын
I love you, but honestly, this felt like it would be shown at a seminar for robots that want to act like humans between the closeup and the B-roll situations
@KzoN2561
Жыл бұрын
Love the etiquette videos!
@leamacleod5903
2 жыл бұрын
Yes ackward on the pregnancy question. Been on the receiving end all to many times.
@CelestialCookies
5 жыл бұрын
Important advices! Your shoes are stunning!
@4blanton
4 жыл бұрын
I envy Preston’s jawline, the thing could cut diamonds
@907alphaprime7
Жыл бұрын
Great video! Love Buffalo Trace!
@harveyspecter6653
5 жыл бұрын
Raphael, please make a video on how you came to 13 million revenue with the Gentleman's Gazette. Some business insights would be very interesting.
@mamymimma
5 жыл бұрын
This is also psychology, I think - love it!
@Ingrid0410
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Preston!! Great video! Love your little acting skits so funny ! Plz do more of those! I so enjoyed the table manners one which Sven did!!! Great video plz show your music Preston!!! And guys do more acting skits! 👍👍👍the poor listener is so common someone on their phone while yr talking to them! “Rude Mr. Fawlty I say rude” (if you haven’t watched Fawlty Towers British sit com shows you must watch everybody reading this) probably on Netflix haaaa so funny Preston and great advice👍 Preston plz do a video on how to make friends with your same interests plz make a video of all the “not to dos” such a great video Preston!!!! You look handsome as always love yr outfit!! 👍 well done
@anthonys5568
5 жыл бұрын
Well said Sir. Thank you.
@MsKkkim
4 жыл бұрын
Nice job! You guys are great.
@SteveWinnard
5 жыл бұрын
Your segment on being part of a conversation resonates with me. I try to live by the very comments you made, so no problem there. However, my father is the exact person your are describing: Not interested in what the other person has to say, continually butting in, not listening, etc, etc. Do you have any thoughts on the best way to deal with such a person?
@mannyg2566
4 жыл бұрын
Another great informative video. As expected.
@rafapazos06
2 жыл бұрын
Gorgeous tie and handkerchief
@Judge_RR
5 жыл бұрын
Nice tie, Mr. Preston.
@S_F_R_
5 жыл бұрын
I can't keep my eyes out of that collar gap ... Reminds me of Moses parting the Red Sea !
@tulsiram6144
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@haydenmartin440
5 жыл бұрын
Preston: 'Some can command groups of hundreds of people' Veterans: *instantly remembers drill sergeants*
@N0tSuper
5 жыл бұрын
7:35 this is the best thing I have ever seen
@lifeandzindagi
4 жыл бұрын
What to say if you have passed a deadline of a admissions date and reached later on that month, and the authorities still agree to get you in and provide you a date to be present, you reached on time but they are unable to fulfill the formalities that day, and provide you another day, but now for authentic reasons of being unwell for a week, you reach the next week, and unable to converse, like what to say ,how to start a conversation. What to do, this has been a huge problem to start a conversation with official professional people after making delays and mistakes.
@lulolee5325
5 жыл бұрын
Whatever I say, people always start arguing with me, then I have to provide facts and to prove my point so I don't look clueless, and when they don't have any real facts and arguments, they just start hating me:):).. The rule is just avoid random people in general because it's just wasting of time and chances to meet worthy equally smart, wise, and well behaved individual is extremely slim.
@rovercoupe7104
5 жыл бұрын
I car-share with two colleagues. I always sit in the back of the car if I can. This helps me to avoid displaying my poor skill in conversation. M.
@RizwanKler
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for da tips Preston 👍
@TheGrenadier97
5 жыл бұрын
2:40 HAHAHAHAHA me, an archivist, among my colleagues architects (not always funny, by the way)
@MarioKarasuma
5 жыл бұрын
This channel is amazing, really. You got another sub! Ha... Although... how the heck did I get here from a video about fish bacteria?
@alohm
4 жыл бұрын
Oh boy this is gonna be great, on so many levels.
@Zofer-1920
4 жыл бұрын
Hold on. I had to pause the video. Ever since the new guy has come on, the acted examples between Rafael & Preston have become an added entertainment besides the wealth of information. Carry on gentlemen! Carry on! 🙏🏼
@Zofer-1920
4 жыл бұрын
*Raphael
@Kittenkattan
5 жыл бұрын
You folks should start an actual magazine. So one can review over time. I think it would be invaluable.
@DarkPrinceOfClowns
5 жыл бұрын
This is really good advice. Although a little hard to listen to in one go, on account of the Sheldonian delivery. Aka, the monotone droning voice with no inflections or pauses. The acting is brilliant and really livens it up and makes the point stick in the memory better for adding some visual stimuli.
@philippkoch4387
5 жыл бұрын
I like your tie, Preston.
@ziamrbutt1555
5 жыл бұрын
Much appreciated!!!!!
@byronobrien3121
2 жыл бұрын
1:56 my autism causes me to me 'info dump' impulsively lol.
@TheGrinbery
3 жыл бұрын
In other words how to overcome social anxiety with class and confidence
@raulsaavedra709
5 жыл бұрын
Funniest faces of the whole video @ 11:11 LOL!
@1gouki1
5 жыл бұрын
I'm in conflict with point number 5, as I use my hair neck long but I keep it clean and tidy. Wouldn't that be enough to be more socially accepted or would someone need to cut their hair so people look at them more positive?
@milkisspop
4 жыл бұрын
Another way to speak to others is speak slow and and well thought out points- not just saying anything that comes to mind
@user-ii3nh7wi2w
5 жыл бұрын
Hi, I want to make a costume for Halloween and I want it to be 1920's English gentlemen. Could you please make a video on this and how could one do it with normal clothes. Thanks in advance.
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