What a wonderful, genuine, helpful, heart warming video. You're right, smile because it happened, but DEFINITELY cry a sob like a little baby because it's over. I'm so proud of how objective and strong you are - being able to take a step back and see what's "good for you and what's not" is such a smart way of dealing of things, rather than getting wrapped up in the pain! I'm so so so proud of you. I love you so much and I'm always here for a girly chat about everything!
@riav4717
10 жыл бұрын
Dodie! You and Carrie should make a video together sometime. You're both 2 of my favourite people
@simplyzoexox
10 жыл бұрын
Dodie has literally put my thoughts into words ♥♥♥
@mariebaker6416
10 жыл бұрын
hey dodie! im a fan!! i agree with the top comment
@lisax4186
10 жыл бұрын
Literally what I needed to say 👏
@beckiejbrown
10 жыл бұрын
Completely agree. Not all battles can be fought with smiles stuck on. I made a video a few years ago, when I was in an extremely bad place. I said that "there are times when you just break, you can't cope anymore." Basically, you can't maintain that smile all the time? Some people can't fight their battles with those smiles that everyone loves to see. I think it's good to feel ALL emotions. How can we appreciate when we are happy, or life is going okay, when that occurs all the time. We need the dark in our lives to appreciate the light.
@TheRyanLamont
10 жыл бұрын
We need sadness to define our happiness :)
@PaigedCooling
10 жыл бұрын
It took me 7 years to ask for help with depression :/
@jesslukyluk
10 жыл бұрын
i'm happy you did and i hope things are okay! :) better late than never?
@PaigedCooling
10 жыл бұрын
Jessica Luk Thankyou (: i'm still in the process of getting help
@jesslukyluk
10 жыл бұрын
that's okay, at least you put yourself out there! it's always the hardest to ask for help but once you have things tend to feel better after a while. it's a bumpy road but it's worth it in the end :)
@uggy823
10 жыл бұрын
Well done I'm happy you did because I'm still struggling to ask
@poppyclark9789
10 жыл бұрын
I've got anxiety issues and I'm still too scared to tell anyone I know :/ I think as I get older i will be confident enough to ask for help but at the moment its crap coping with it on my own :/
@randomnamegbji
10 жыл бұрын
is this about "he who shall not be named"? or something else?
@vilcoyotus
10 жыл бұрын
I sure hope not for em.
@Annemande
10 жыл бұрын
Voldemort? No, really, I know what you mean.. And I hope not.
@claricepearl2485
10 жыл бұрын
Who is he who must not be named? Is it Alex? Xx
@Annemande
10 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I think so
@BethyXmae
10 жыл бұрын
I think (although I may be wrong) that it's about the recent cast change that has just happened in Les Mis. It'd be hard to say goodbye to all of the people she's made friends with over the past year. Although Carrie's such a lovely person that I'm sure she'll stay in contact with them and make more great new friends in the coming year. :)
@TheMynameishanis
10 жыл бұрын
I teared up because I can relate so much to you. I have always been so secretive, too. Because most of the time I think that I'll be a burden to someone and sometimes I think that I can deal with this on my own. Sadly I still do this, until now. I still think the same way.
@uploadingjess
10 жыл бұрын
I'm very much the same. I just simply can't ask for help, eventhough it would probably be better.
@littlemiss4509
10 жыл бұрын
I'm the same...I always feel like talking about problems you have to people you know are open to too much judgement and more pain on the other side.....exactly what I needed to change my mind.....love you Carrie!
@dreamingofraaain
10 жыл бұрын
I'm replying to this especially because of the "burden" part. You know, some time ago a very close friend of mine told me the exact same thing when I asked them why they hadn't come to me sooner about a problem they had. When I heard that she didn't want to bother me with her issues, I got so upset, it honestly saddened me to know that I could be of some help to her, but she would still hesitate for my own sake. Trust your friends people, they are there for you
@jakecaldwell1329
10 жыл бұрын
Hi hanis i know i am just a stranger , but you can never be a burden to your friends they will always want to help and try to support you. Im sure if you opened up to them they will be more then happy to help . And if they dont are those people really the people you want to be friends with . Sorry to hear your having hard times. good luck with life , wish i could help more.
@carmelr5504
10 жыл бұрын
I'm like that too, I find it really hard to let any of my feelings out, and always think everyone else has their own problems to worry about without adding mine to the list, so I find it really hard to tell anyone.
@ArielLinee
10 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you made this video. I needed it today. I've recently been struggling with my binge-purge anorexia and self-harm recovery and even though I'm in a much better place than I was last year, it's still a struggle to tell someone when I don't feel like eating or I feel like purging or hurting myself. My point is a lot of people really need this and I'm one of them, so thank you and I wish you the best of luck with whatever you're struggling with
@NatiiDragon3
10 жыл бұрын
I had the same issue a few years ago... just telling someone, anyone, helped so so much and I am so grateful for their help! Please keep telling and talking to people, isolation doesn't work :/
@ailsalaurie4034
10 жыл бұрын
I really hope you keep making process...Just remember...the hopefuls are also here for you!!!! :)
@RamblingRu
10 жыл бұрын
Keep going, you're so brave!!! :)
@EmdozPro
10 жыл бұрын
Ariel Broyles I hope your much better now then you were at the time you commented. Hopefully you've made progress with you binge-purge anorexia and self-harm recovery. As long as you are better today, then you were yesterday, even if it is a little bit, then at least you're getting better. I wish you all the best in your recovery, however long it may take :) If you are not feeling good, just watch this video again, and maybe watch some more videos like these on youtube :D
@Emilyluvsspotty
10 жыл бұрын
Bear with you? Tis a privilege
@Carrie
10 жыл бұрын
:) That's so sweet. Thank you! xxx
@konakonaXD
10 жыл бұрын
pain demands to be felt
@MissPrincessMegan76
10 жыл бұрын
i have no idea who you are, but i already like you :P your awesome!
@roisinsheridan9772
10 жыл бұрын
Yay TFIOS!
@TheJelliCopter
10 жыл бұрын
This is just what I needed.... I recently had to put my dog down because his kidneys failed and I feel horrible.
@lucieh6320
10 жыл бұрын
I hope you are ok, that must have been a horrible thing to go through :( x
@hollyrogs2011
10 жыл бұрын
I know you can get through it, stay strong! X
@TheJelliCopter
10 жыл бұрын
Holly Rogers Aww thank you so much! The Hopeful community is so nice!
@mynoseisrunning
10 жыл бұрын
it was for the best! remember mourning is okay. "pain demands to be felt" 💗
@notshortfunsized4948
10 жыл бұрын
I've lost three pets before and it's terrible, I know. But cliche as it is to say, time really does help! Virtual hugs!
@NickNetLife
10 жыл бұрын
My father passed away nearly 3 years ago on the 19th of July 2011 when I was 14, I'm 17 now, I fell into depression following that and pulled out at the start of 2013, I was somewhat confused about what was going on as I was so used to seeing the world in a negative way that positivity was such an unfamiliar aspect to my life, unfortunate but in a way good that positivity had been re-introduced into my life :) p.s. I make weekly videos, check 'em out if ya want? if ya don't that's allgood too :)
@silverwolf184
10 жыл бұрын
You're so brave to have dealt with such a thing. I'm sorry for your loss but stay strong
@NickNetLife
10 жыл бұрын
silverwolf184 Thank you :)
@lynneacooper172
10 жыл бұрын
What a strong person you are. When I was 15 my own father passed away. It's took me 3 years to get out of that depression and start to feel again. It's a hard loss. Now though, you can live y our life to help others through similar losses, and what an amazing calling on life that is!
@tats97xx
10 жыл бұрын
I watched your the fault in our stars review a couple of days ago and I never actually knew this about you! Now feel compelled to watch all your videos. I hope you're doing okay. ☺️
@NickNetLife
10 жыл бұрын
Atalya Helm Thank you :) and I'm doing great :) x
@rachelfarrell6103
9 жыл бұрын
My soul mate recently took his life, and my god, is this video relevant. Thank you for articulating such an important bumble of words i've words i've been struggling to express. You absolutely need to fall apart before you can begin moving forward. My grieving process has been postponed as i complete my final year of school, but i've taken solace in that there will be time to find comfort in allowing yourself to process and comprehend your sadness, before looking to the happiness of the hope. Thank you Carrie xx this important message is often ignored in our society so concerned with complete happiness.
@HurstHillPerformers
10 жыл бұрын
Carrie you've got no idea how much you have helped me today. I have been crying for various reasons none stop the last 24hrs and I have woken up after an hours sleep feeling so numb. I found this in my sub box just as I was sitting on my bed in tears and it's just hit me that I shouldn't be doing this all by myself, I may feel isolated and alone but I'm not and there are people who want to help me (such as yourself) and I should be opening up to them. I don't know how you do it sometimes, managing to look so happy when you yourself have some pretty shitty things going on like every other human in the world, I can't remember the last time I laughed or smiled and this just shows that I should be doing so much more of it. I shouldn't be sitting alone, crying when no one can hear me, isolating myself because I'm scared of being judged by people! What I'm trying to say is thank you Carrie, I really do love you Xxx
@nzkatica
10 жыл бұрын
Hi Kate, You have a lovely smile, I hope you have reason to show it again soon :) Best wishes in all you do, Katie
@HurstHillPerformers
10 жыл бұрын
nzkatica Thank you very much Katie, that's so lovely of you. Have a nice day Xxx
@NikkivanB
10 жыл бұрын
Dear Kate, I hope you are feeling better soon. Hate seeing you so sad. Remember you are not alone and you're being loved. Much love! Nikki
@sophiesmall1202
10 жыл бұрын
Hope you've got someone to talk to by now. But I just wanted to say again that you're right. Get someone with you to blub all over, or on the phone to listen as you sob. There are times when you get stuck because the hurt you're feeling isn't changing, and you just need other people to make things a little bit different. You're brave even to have typed that, and you will get better. I'm sure I can say: love and the best, best wishes from all Hopefuls xxxxx
@HurstHillPerformers
10 жыл бұрын
Sophie Small Thank you very much Sophie, it means a lot! Really! I have gotten in touch with my friends and a going to see her in a couple of hours. I really am trying to change this, thank you again Xxx
@LastHumansGarage
10 жыл бұрын
keep your chin up. without downs we have no ups.
@KnubbelKekz
10 жыл бұрын
A couple weeks ago my Grandma died and when i went to the doctor, 'cause i felt really sad, he said "after nearly two weeks, you really have to deal with it" It made me feel like i don't have the right to be sad for any reason and that made me even more sad. And angry. About everything. So.. I'm really thankful for this Video, Carrie. You really give great advise, in any situation. ♥
@sanneyh1411
10 жыл бұрын
What a terrible thing to say from your doctor! Personally, I never lost anyone in my family, but I think it would be like the hardest thing in the world :( You should be able to take all the time in the world to "deal with it". I wish you lots of strength for the next months! XX
@KnubbelKekz
10 жыл бұрын
Sanne Horsting Thank you so much. :3
@lynneacooper172
10 жыл бұрын
Wow! You know what, my father died many years ago. He had cancer for 7 months. It took me 3 years to get out of the deep depression I entered, and even now many years later I still have those sad days. When you experience a lose like that, it's OKAY to feel sad it's okay to need to go through that. Everything Carrie said is perfect for you right now. You are in my thoughts and if you need someone to talk to. You may not know me, but I will be here for you. :)
@AlrightDarlingx
10 жыл бұрын
You need to change your doctor. It is not their place to make a judgement on how you feel and grieve. I lost my mother last year and when i went to the doctor for help it wasnt the help i needed. I needed to speak to someone and approached a support centre who set me up with a counsellor. Having someone impartial to talk to was a huge help
@pinkunicornglitter
10 жыл бұрын
That's so horrible! As Carrie said it is okay not to be okay :) and also it doesn't matter how long it takes for you to be okay again , just as long as you get there in the end. ❤
@Awestoms
10 жыл бұрын
Just carrie on what you're doing and I'm sure it will work out just fine. :)
@ChocoMonster789
10 жыл бұрын
Heh heh heh... See what you did there.....
@garyc
10 жыл бұрын
I agree with you, I feel like I need to let go rather than suffer and swallow them. x
@LuciadeAlarcon
10 жыл бұрын
"in the words of Jessie J" those were my first thoughts when reading the title of the vid
@wecouldgowithjas9314
10 жыл бұрын
OMG YES JESSIE YAAAAAS YES YAAAAAAAAAASSSS
@bellafroggy
10 жыл бұрын
sameee
@TeenNailArt245
10 жыл бұрын
The amount of times that Jessie J's lyrics have saved me is unreal... I owe my life to Jessie
@morganh9864
10 жыл бұрын
Samee
@EllaTennant1
10 жыл бұрын
jessie 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
@MidnightArticuno
10 жыл бұрын
I needed this today. I lost my job quite suddenly yesterday, and I live on the other side of the world from home and anyone who really cares about me. So now I'm stuck alone and I have a month to figure out how to get my life 7,000 home.
@pinkunicornglitter
10 жыл бұрын
I hope everything works out for you ❤
@81blargh
10 жыл бұрын
Just keep swimming my friend and remember to pick yourself up and dust yourself off because good things finish so even better things can come along. Just make sure you're happy and find someone to give you a big hug.
@ossswin
10 жыл бұрын
So sorry to hear that, hope everything works out for the better. just keep going. xx
@bd9158
10 жыл бұрын
Hey, hope everything worked out okay in the end?:)
@kalebmartin1845
10 жыл бұрын
I love reading through the comment section on Carrie's video's because everyone always says "The KZitem comment section is the most horrible and violent place on the internet" and then there is the comment section on Carrie's vidoe's which is just full of lovely people with nice things to say. I am proud to be able to call myself a hopeful :)
@pezzdoag
10 жыл бұрын
Thanks Carrie, this was great! You speak so much sense it's uneal!
@HaleyLikeTheWolf
10 жыл бұрын
aw, I was hoping you were going to put a My Chemical Romance quote in here! But seriously, this was a great video and something that a lot of people need to understand. You are such an inspiring individual and I hope I get to meet you one day!
@desolationrow7891
10 жыл бұрын
Same
@ShrimpchuVlogs
10 жыл бұрын
Another Ditto
@AlexandriaJohnson23
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video, Carrie. :) The journey towards happiness and self love are described as journeys for a reason since they're not one-stop accomplishments. Your honesty is respected and valued, and if support is what you need at the moment, please know that you have a community to send you love.
@duckswilltakeover
10 жыл бұрын
I hate making other people sad so I never like telling people what's wrong if it's big stuff cause then they start feeling sorry for me and yeah
@jakecaldwell1329
10 жыл бұрын
Its completely ok to ask for help or to addmit your struggling because we arent perfect, friends are there help out and support and to make you feel good. I am sure they will be more happy that you came to them and that they can help rather than you suffering in silence. You dont have to go through anything alone
@emilyrice5121
10 жыл бұрын
It breaks my hear to hear Carrie talk about sad topics with such experience. She is too perfect to have to go through anything horrible.
@ourdazedsims
10 жыл бұрын
I've been having a pretty hard time recently and I've been open about it with my friends and family for a change, I'd usually feel better after talking to someone but this time I just don't…
@l.j.a.
10 жыл бұрын
There there, it will get better. :)
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann
10 жыл бұрын
Some things take more time, that's all. Keep talking, keep listening, keep being with the people you love and love you back. It will get better. Trust me, I know for experience. Sending you a hug for whenever you need it!
@lucieh6320
10 жыл бұрын
Just give it time, and if things still don't get better then try talking to them again :) x
@smurfrise
10 жыл бұрын
Sometimes friends and family are not enough- if you find yourself stuck it can be really helpful to find a good psychotherapist.
@sashabryant9524
8 жыл бұрын
you have such a calming voice and a wonderful soul
@kiranbhamra1667
8 жыл бұрын
My teacher showed this to my class when I needed it the most he asked us to write a response which I sort of opened up a lot in I instantly regretted what I wrote it was stuff about depression like what if I get a terrible mark what if my teacher thinks I'm attention seeking but he actually understood. I received a good really good mark and all my friends said to me it's just cuz he felt bad for u trying to take away from my success my teach passed away a week ago and I received my report card and he wrote about my response and responded in a way that showed me he understood. He's was the only person I opened up to and who understood me helped me so much as an English teacher taught me so many life lessons and he's Fucking dead
@jimiwalker920
8 жыл бұрын
That really sucks. I'm so sorry, I hope you're okay and find someone you feel you can open up again with and can help you. Life can be a bit sucky but we all get through stuff
@danielledonnelly7537
8 жыл бұрын
+Kiran Bhamra That is shit but never forget him (i know u probably won't any way) and make him proud. live the life he sadly can't anymore. live the life you want with joy :)
@kiranbhamra1667
8 жыл бұрын
Danielle Donnelly after it happened i couldn't really talk to anyone about it my friends didn't seem to care so thank you both for replying i know this sounds cliche or like im attention seeking but it helped a lot and its nice to know that someone cares, you made my day
@danielledonnelly7537
8 жыл бұрын
Kiran Bhamra That is not cliche at all. I am so happy I helped you in any way:) And it is so clear you are not attention seeking. Trust me I know what you must have / are going through.
@ladielydkyd1281
8 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry. :( It sounds like he was a good source of help for you. I have depression too and I know that it sucks to feel like you can't get help or can't find someone who you can talk to, especially finding an adult you can trust can be tough for teens. I truly do hope you can find another adult who is as trusting, compassionate, and understanding to you as he was.
@georgemitchellmusic
10 жыл бұрын
So in a nutshell... you're single now?
@Carrie
10 жыл бұрын
Have been for a few months but in a nutshell, yes that's what this is about. xxx
@nicoleblack
10 жыл бұрын
***** I totally know what your going through I had a 5 year relationship end a few months back and it's hard xx
@ruthwilmot4706
10 жыл бұрын
***** *lots of hugs* So like... I just nearly cried at this video. My brother is in the room so I didn't, but... thank you for posting this when you did. Firstly it's a strong and brave thing for you to too, but secondly thank you so much because, I mean you're always an inspiration to me but this particularly really really helped and I'm having a time at the moment where I'm pretending to be okay and... yeah basically I needed to hear that xD Hope you're okay... I really wish I had the guts to write to you because there is so much I want to talk to you about at the moment, but hey. Thank you for being my 'honorary big sister' and being such a help and inspiration
@blueconnolly3394
10 жыл бұрын
***** i am sorry my dear. you have every right to be as sad as you want for as long as you need
@mahyuhhh
10 жыл бұрын
Ruth Harrison I'm with you and I'm crying a little now after your comment :') she gives really good advice
@TheImpybug
10 жыл бұрын
I have suffered with depression and anxiety for over 15 years now. And I always try cope alone. It doesn't work. I know this. But the fear of rejection cripples me even more. I am my own worst enemy. And this I know. It plagues me daily...
@juliaolson3146
10 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry and I feel like I can relate to you a bit. Thanks for sharing that publicly, it was brave of you:)
@TheImpybug
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@KrystalConnar
10 жыл бұрын
We all love you Carrie. Everyone please like this comment if you love Carrie! We can show her how much we love her. Stay strong beautiful
@darjluke
10 жыл бұрын
I think the hardest part for me to ask for help is that when people try to help, they just give me the suggestions that I already have tried. Just smile, pretend you are happy. Find something you like to do. Get a pet. Eat healthier. Get more exercise. Join a club. Stop taking medication. Find another doctor. Breath properly, do yoga, tai chi, meditation. Stop being so negative. What can I do to help you? Your just not trying. Sometimes I wish I didn't ask for help. I feel like I am bringing the people I care about down because they end up feeling helpless. They want to help, but they can't.
@MissPrincessMegan76
10 жыл бұрын
i hope your doing okay carrie! and this is an amazing message for you honorary little sisters and brothers :) im proud to be one of them! xxx
@cherrysubmarine
10 жыл бұрын
that's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt :)
@amberhayward753
9 жыл бұрын
This made me tear up ... So beautiful Carrie and thank you for being a beacon for all of us out there who don't ask for help when needed and who don't voice their own opinions enough ..:) ☺️
@TheSeanSink
10 жыл бұрын
How come people in the comments put "xxx" at the end of their comments? That's weird. xxx
@TheSeanSink
10 жыл бұрын
Oh, its still weird. xxx
@TheSeanSink
10 жыл бұрын
Yeah...xxx
@simmersophie3859
9 жыл бұрын
when I'm down none of my friends ever notice, lately I've been very down and the only people to notice were my gran and my math tutor, even if I tell my friends how I feel they pretty much tell me it could be worse and I hate that. Yes things could be worse but that doesn't make what I'm going through better. All I need from them is a hug and to be told I'll be fine, that's all.
@fleetingpetunias
9 жыл бұрын
Sophie Melvin No matter what your facing right now, you will overcome it. And I promise you, your problems are not smaller than anyone else's. "It could be worse" is never an answer. Problems are problems, if you feel a certain way, no one has the right to demean that by saying "it could be worse". You'll be fine x
@simmersophie3859
9 жыл бұрын
thank you, this means so much x
@TheGamergurl1999
10 жыл бұрын
oh my god how i needed that.... ;----; *is like crying eyes out cuz of this video*
@lilfizz1619
8 жыл бұрын
Crying isn't a weakness, it's proof that you're a human being ~ I made that up. Proud :)
@liesvanespen292
8 жыл бұрын
you should be proud :) It's nice
@lilfizz1619
8 жыл бұрын
Lies Van Espen Aw thank you xx
@acidicdaisychains
10 жыл бұрын
I wonder what she's referring to. Hope you're okay Carrie! Xxx
@francineleahy
10 жыл бұрын
I have a feeling it's alex
@asmurf2011
10 жыл бұрын
Maybe Alex?
@francineleahy
10 жыл бұрын
most likely Alex
@TheGirlInGeekGlasses
10 жыл бұрын
I'm thinking it's the fact that the Les Mis cast has changed and she's had to say goodbye to a lot of close friends and colleagues, just my opinion though :)
@ThisRainbowLife
8 жыл бұрын
Life is a marathon, not a sprint...
@gracelola8897
8 жыл бұрын
Damn it, I hate marathons 😂
@molly050703
8 жыл бұрын
+Grace Phillips I'm cackling at your comment 😂😂
@merel6851
10 жыл бұрын
Carrie, this is the best video I've seen in a long while. You've said exactly what I needed to hear for a long time. I always push every negative feeling away and pretend that I'm fine, even though I'm not. Sometimes we've got to accept that we're not always happy, but that's really hard and easier said than done. So thank you for making this video and I hope you feel better soon! xx
@charmorris6161
7 жыл бұрын
wow. I know that this was 2 &1/2 years ago, but this is what I needed today. More than anything. Thank you Carrie. You & your videos have helped me more than you can know. I'm going to talk to someone tomorrow, and I'll make myself okay. Thank you xxx
@jackiethelai78
10 жыл бұрын
- it's OKAY not to be OKAY - don't try to struggle on your OWN when it's just TOO heavy - ASK FOR HELP! it doesn't makes you a failure, it makes you a PERSON definitely adding these to my 'quotes-wall' :)
@SunnyB_adventures
10 жыл бұрын
I found myself relating to a lot of this and also getting help and advice, thanks for that Carrie, also for anyone who feels like they do need someone to vent to about things that are bothering them that friends ect. might not understand, go to a counselor, I've recently started because I have some issues I need to get sorted and it helps a lot, seriously, if you feel ready and like it would be a step in the right direction, go for it, it's okay to cry for help when you're feeling down, stay positive hopefuls :) xxx
@beccag497
9 жыл бұрын
Carrie I know u get this all the time but... YOU ARE THE BEST (not blood) BIG SISTER EVER, and PLEASE MESSAGE ME WHEN YOU FEEL YOU MIGHT NEED HELP cause I don't like askin for help when I need it x
@ClipsByLaura
10 жыл бұрын
"All endings are also beginnings, we just don't know it at the time" - Mitch Albom (The Five People You Meet In Heaven)
@2bsinabbigail483
10 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you've said this. Sometimes we feel like it's not okay to be at a bad point in our lives and to need help, but it's not. Everyone should remember that. I hope everything's okay, Carrie, and I wish you the best of luck in "writing your next chapter", and I promise we Hopefuls will be right there with you :-).
@ned993
10 жыл бұрын
I've had depression for a few years now, but never really opened up to people about it, until last year. I've always been hesitant to talk about that, never really knew why I had it, and was miserable for a long time. I've recently been diagnosed with a hormone disorder, and it made me depressed again about a lot of things in my life. However, this time, my family and best friend are supporting me, so I hope it's gonna be easier to recover. I usually keep my problems to myself, but sharing from time to time really makes it better.
@diversityincarnate
10 жыл бұрын
Since graduating high school I've had a lot of independence thrust on me all at once. So far I've basically been handling it the way you were talking about, by refusing to admit it's scary and closing in on myself, thinking I have to figure it out on my own. As always, your video comes at a perfect time to tell me that I'll be ok and to talk to people. Thank you so much for everything, Carrie. ❤
@matthewtheobald258
10 жыл бұрын
Keep calm and Carrie on!
@VickyThePixie
10 жыл бұрын
Someone needs to make a T-shirt.
@tharcblack
5 жыл бұрын
The fact that 21 year old Carrie (then) can be relatable to 29 year old me (right now) is so fantastic. You are so humble and inspiring at the same time. ❤️ Thank you. I needed this today.
@Janne
10 жыл бұрын
This is a quote from Hugh MacKay, and I'm going to leave it here because I think it's very relevant to the video. "I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that-I don't mind people being happy-but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It's a really odd thing that we're now seeing people saying "write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep" and "cheer up" and "happiness is our birthright" and so on. We're kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It's rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don't teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, "Quick! Move on! Cheer up!" I'd like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word "happiness" and to replace it with the word "wholeness." Ask yourself, "Is this contributing to my wholeness?" and if you're having a bad day, it is."
@TheRyanLamont
10 жыл бұрын
Love that quote!
@Evanandrachel
10 жыл бұрын
sooo awesome Janne thanks for sharing the quote! I will start trying to use "wholeness" now instead.
@henryvyne8774
10 жыл бұрын
Ummm, I'm speechless? This is amazing. I teared up more than once. Thank you for making this. It's so relatable and so nice to see someone else in a similar position. Not that I'm happy you were sad, it's just... nice to not feel alone. Thanks again.
@katearmstrong8941
10 жыл бұрын
I've always went through things in silence but that's primarily not to do with the fact I don't want to be seen as a failure, it's the fear of upsetting my family and friends, because they're worth more to me than some pain relief. I know getting help is good though, but my parents go through a lot because depression and suicidal tendencies are common in our family and I've seen them cry so many times because of that, I don't want to make them feel worse.
@OLLIEDOESVLOGS
10 жыл бұрын
i have that too i fear dissapointing people, scaring them away and its hard and horrible
@nsalibi
10 жыл бұрын
I can see you care about your family and don't want to add burdens to their life, but don't be afraid. You are not a burden.
@annadalton3073
10 жыл бұрын
I've always been the happy and laughing girl. When I speak to my classmates about how they used to see me, when we were younger, that is exactly what they answered. The truth is that it was always easier to laugh when you were feeling insecure or when you didn't have an answer. Therefor everyone thought, and some still do, that I'm a person who never has any problems. That I'm constantly "okay" and happy. That of course isn't true, so it means a lot when you remind me to be more selfish and to dwell in my own problems once in a while. Thanks Carrie xx
@natalyawilliams9698
10 жыл бұрын
You're still my big sister Carrie :')
@sophiegreen1450
10 жыл бұрын
This 🙌 just had a friendship of over five years end. And I've had crap from her again recently, even thought it is upsetting it's just proving why I should not have her in my life and I can not wait for a new improved life to come
@ahdarling
10 жыл бұрын
I think you're an amazing persin, I wish I had a friend like you!
@ahdarling
10 жыл бұрын
*person
@meara6194
10 жыл бұрын
Carrie is so...real. I love her and her honesty and her reliable advice and what not. She's an inspiration to me in a way I couldn't be more grateful for.
@KylieKTheGirlonFire
10 жыл бұрын
I am literally at this point in my life. I've lost all my friends, so, I'm pretty much starting over in my life! (Don't worry, I didn't mean they're dead, haha. The relationships are just over.)
@elliehopesuzanne
4 жыл бұрын
You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. ❤
@ladielydkyd1281
8 жыл бұрын
You know what? I'm not okay. Things kinda suck right now and I need help, but I'm scared to ask my friends to help me or to come over because I'm moving to college in less than a week.
@joshuastorey6060
8 жыл бұрын
LadieLydKyd you're in college now right? hope you're doing alright :)
@FantashticIdeas
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video, Carrie. I'm glad that you're okay now. I recently went through a really troublesome experience and I'm the kind of person that always asks for help and support. My parents but especially my mum gave me so much love and encouragement that I overcame that adversity on my own. And from that experience I've learned that I'm much stronger than I thought and other people thought I was. Thank you for always trying your best, your videos always make me want to be a better person. Even if you think this is just another fan trying to cheer you up or whatever, please don't. I say what I mean and I mean this genuinely, you are possibly one of my favourite people in the world apart from my family of course. :) I hope you have a wonderful day and maybe sometime in November, I will be able to come see you perform! :D DFTBA
@KristenJSwan
10 жыл бұрын
Your videos are always full of beautiful and nice words and suggestion, thank you for sharing part of your life and open up with us
@GiorgiaHannah
10 жыл бұрын
Carrie, I have exactly the same temperament as you in regards to never really letting my guard down with people or letting them know how I feel because I feel it will show signs of weakness and make me look like a less strong person than I know I am. But you are so right in saying that it's actually braver to ask for help so, we gotta be brave! I can't really imagine what you're going through right now, you're life must be such a whirlwind, but you Carrie are such a warrior and so comfortable in your own skin, and that just really emanates through you and it's so refreshing to see. Thanks for this video love xxx
@bluebubble19
10 жыл бұрын
It's easy to ask for help until you think of the consequences. How can you tell your family you self harm without them getting angry? How can you tell someone that you're feeling depressed without being judged. This is 2014. We should, but we can't.
@ladielydkyd1281
8 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling with not feeling okay for sometime. And now I feel like it might go a little further downhill for sometime. I have to close a chapter in my life because I graduated from high school on Monday. The two or three senior girls, that I consider to be my closest friends, and I are all going to different colleges. They've helped me through my depression and anxiety and suicidal ideations. Now that I won't get to see them often, if ever, it's going to be scary for me and I (will) definitely need help getting through it. :(
@laureniona
10 жыл бұрын
All throughout secondary school (high school for you Americans) I struggled with my mental health constantly and was made a laughing stock, friends left me and ganged up on me when really all I needed was help, and I'm glad I asked for help because I wouldn't be here writing this now, I'm on medication and getting therapy and you know what? It's okay, I'm breathing and I'm alive :-)
@callingy0uouuttt582
10 жыл бұрын
I like this video and the message. Unfortunately, you've blocked me off twitter because I said something not positive and to be honest, I find that kinda weird. You keep asking to be viewed as a complex human, and I absolutely do that. I generally think you're great and your message of positivity is so lovely, but then other times I think eek, I don't agree with that or a choice you are making. But that doesn't stop me liking you as a person or your content. It just looks kinda crappy to block everyone who says anything negative. You're a public figure, you went into youtube wanting a lot of subscribers - you have to expect people to have an opinion. Anyway, I know you don't care and it's your life and my opinion means diddlysquat to you, but I just wanted to say that. Have a lovely day :) xxx
@CookieMargoulis
10 жыл бұрын
What a wonderfulwonderful mindset, Carrie. Also, the thoughts behind this video reminded me of that Marina and the Diamonds song " I am not a Robot" just in case you're looking for some inspiration :')
@Emmahillcoat4
10 жыл бұрын
Carrie, every once in a while you just create these incredible videos, videos which just fit in perfectly to peoples lives and give them exactly what they are looking for! I cannot thank you enough for this. Thanks for sharing this with us, but also thanks for sharing your beautiful thoughts with us :) I am okay now, and I am glad you are too :) xxx
@Annie-pz5cr
10 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video right now. It's like you knew what I'm going through. I've also just ended a huge chapter in my life and looking ahead, I'm about to begin an extremely horrifying one. I am, unfortunately, one of the people you talked about in the beginning who hate crying because it makes me feel weak and open and I hate showing people how I feel when it's that big. Thanks for this so much. Since beginning watching your videos two years ago, you have made my life so much better. Thank you. I hope you're alright and I know you'll continue to make everyone smile.
@aeronglendon8532
10 жыл бұрын
Carrie, I know you have a PO box but do you have an email for the hopefuls where we can email you? Mainly because 1. My handwriting is shocking and 2, I really want to get something off my chest sooner rather than later.
@SaraElizabeth07
10 жыл бұрын
My brother died Wednesday at age 30. I was in a movie theater seeing The Fault in Our Stars when we saw emergency texts and fled the theater. Adjusting and dealing with a lot here, too. Thank you for this video.
@janeycreeden9122
10 жыл бұрын
It is absolutely okay to not be okay. My aunt died 40 years ago, and my grandfather's response was to get rid of all his daughter's things and not talk about it. That's how he handles things. My grandmother, because of that, never took proper time to mourn. But to this day, every year on the day that her daughter died, she takes a day to be sad. She stays home, she gets out old pictures. It helps her. Everyone deals with things in their own way. As far as it being okay to not be okay, I absolutely get where you're coming from. The past 2 years have been difficult, nothing tragic just a lot of big changes, things I didn't necessarily have control over. And since I'm the friend that always feels responsible for everyone else, I feel this obligation to be fine. But in the past 2 years I realized, that it's when I'm at my lowest that I realize how loved I am. The people I feel this obligation to be strong for are the people who remind me that I don't have to be. And you're absolutely right, knowing that makes all the difference in being able to deal with it. Stay strong, you deserve to be happy.
@smythe12247
10 жыл бұрын
Wow...the timing of this video is crazy. My grandma actually died a couple days ago...she and my grandpa were in a different state so my mom went to go help my grandpa. Leaving me with the responsibility of taking care of my little brothers with my step dad...I'm afraid to cry in front of my brothers or tell my mom i really need her back...Thank you for this video, it means a lot.
@antonionionia
10 жыл бұрын
Sorry things suck right now, Carrie, but good for you for working up the courage to acknowledge that and ask for help. We love you! *Raises pinkie*
@ammesaunders
10 жыл бұрын
Finally got to this in my 'watch later' queue and what perfect timing, my boyfriend and I broke up today. I have felt so sad and this video has really helped. Even though I'm not over it yet, and I doubt I will be for some time, at least there's hope that I can get there! Thank you for sharing Carrie x
@beccaamy1
10 жыл бұрын
This is a super beautiful video! I actually learnt this very lesson about a year and a half ago, and it took a lot to get there. I actually realised it when I read something that had written at about 15 (now 25) about it being ok to ask for help and that being sad is allowed. I had obviously not properly leant it at 15, or maybe it's just something that we need to remind ourselves or something but I genuinely feel like it is the most important lesson I have learnt to date. My addition would be (and Carrie, you sort of mentioned it) that people can't necessarily see that you are not ok unless you tell them. Whether or not you realise it (no matter who you are) there are people in your life that love you so much that they give a real crap as to whether or not you're ok. It eventually turns out being mean to these people if you don't tell them that you're not ok, because they really really want to do anything they can about it. Sometimes, it is more selfish to take everything on ourselves than to ask for help. There's a bunch of humans for a reason. We end up in communities for a reason. It's because we all NEED to help each other at different points. Lots of love to Carrie and to all of you, especially people going through crap and finding it hard to ask for help. Just do it. You definitely won't regret it. Xxx
@amykelly5851
10 жыл бұрын
A lovely video. You're right that it is okay to ask for help and cry because something is over. Hope you are doing okay after that chapter has finished. I'd give you a huge hug if I could. xxx
@Kalessehuine
10 жыл бұрын
Hugs and love to you, Carrie! I'm so glad you've come around to realizing that it's okay to not be okay, because now is when your real healing begins. It's a painful process, but one that strengthens you and makes you an even better version of you.
@isabellagates8727
10 жыл бұрын
I'm literally in tears.I've related to this video more than any other.I was told as a kid that I have responsibilities and that just got in my head and I lived the way you said someone shouldn't live.And I've been depressed for a while now,but I've kept it secret.I told two people expecting support but really,I just got messages saying that they can't help and that they don't know what to do.I've found a few websites and I'll probably go on those soon and put more interest in them and put my oxygen mask on first.
@dools23
10 жыл бұрын
It's good that you are able to say you're not ok. I'm at the post university 'I can take on the world' stage- well it seems most of my friends are: I'm more of a falling into jobs for the sake of employment not because I love them. It just massively awkward mentioning it to the go getters. Having said that thing are getting better, and they will for you Carrie.
@JoshH96
10 жыл бұрын
I'm very similar to you Carrie, but luckily I have a few close friends that I've learned that I can just call and vent to whenever things are crappy, it really does feel better! :)
@lexiejohanna2075
10 жыл бұрын
all i could think of was the song I'm not okay (I Promise!) by my chemical romance while i was watching this....
@venaisabella522
10 жыл бұрын
I can totally understand! Last year a big relationship ended for me. This person was always convinced that it was wrong to feel sad and I ended up assuming the same. After it ended I realised that some friends hadn't really been there for me when I needed them. Through the experience I realised the same as you and feel so much better about myself and about my moods for it! And I now have different friends that will listen when I need someone to talk to. :) A great video. Thanks for sharing. :) xxx
@emmywillson
10 жыл бұрын
oh god this made me cry... i feel like this video was made for me haha:') in the words of MCR: I'm not o fucking kay :)
@KnightsOfBellamy
10 жыл бұрын
I hate that "chapter". Just take your time and get prepared for the next chapter, Carrie. You help so many of us on a daily basis, it might be time to just get it all out and refresh yourself. Love you!
@mollieefitzy
10 жыл бұрын
i admire you so much carrie. i know sometimes that makes people feel uncomfortable, but the way you deal with situations such as your "last chapter" is really inspiring. whilst you admit that its difficult, you also show us that its not the end of the world and that someday it will be easier. im so glad that i can learn from and enjoy your videos! love you lots and i hope you are feeling somewhat happier now! xxxx
@KeyrstenMegan
10 жыл бұрын
This video came to me at just the right moment because I really needed to hear it. Thank you. Thank you for all you do on here. I cannot express how much this video helped me just now, and I cannot thank you enough.
@tannewton
10 жыл бұрын
I often don't like asking for help either. But sometimes, asking for help is something you really need to solve a problem. And there is no reason to be ashamed of asking for help. After all, we're not God or Superman, or any other super hero who gets things done so easily.
@jamiefaulkner4266
10 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for this Carrie, it is a really important message that so many people need to hear. We love you so so much. I love you so so much, I'm always here for you 3
@loreleimoon4736
10 жыл бұрын
Sometimes things have to fall apart a bit so something better can be built up. You take the good pieces and chuck the ones that don't serve you. That doesn't mean the faulty painful stuff wasn't worth something. One of the most valuable building blocks is asking for help. That's what friends and even strangers sometimes are for. They hand us tools. They allow us to rest at times when construction gets difficult! Vulnerability isn't weakness. It is strength. Because you are putting this into practice everything you do will be stronger, more resilient and worth while! Congratulations on your contract being extended.
@ravercat4
10 жыл бұрын
'don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened' - love this, might become one of my new favorites
@Mikmikonet
10 жыл бұрын
That's exactly what I needed right now. Thank you so much Carrie
@Annissina
10 жыл бұрын
I've been afraid to ask for help recently because I really needed my best friend to be there for me a couple years ago, and she wasn't, and it just made things worse. So now I'm afraid of asking someone else for fear of losing another friend.
@divatashi
10 жыл бұрын
i do think crying can be a sign of weakness personally cause crying my problems out just leaves me feeling even worse than before, but at the same time bottling up emotions makes it feel just as bad, so when dealing with the loss of someone i'm just in this cycle of confusion and pain. so idk it honestly does just feel like there's no real solution of dealing with hard issues like grief
@francessm8069
10 жыл бұрын
I am absolutely in love with this girl's attitude to life, and all though she probably won't see this I want to say a huge thank you to her for helping me through a really difficult time and she is the only person I "know" who has this attitude to life and my dear I feel it's the only medication I need.
@julyralewis9535
10 жыл бұрын
I believe that's one of her best videos. Just love you, Carrie
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